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I am searching for ONE man, one tall honest, reliable, non smoking Dom, who understands that submission is about giving from the heart, and is not about beating a woman black and blue (apologies to the masochists out there that enjoy it, I don't ).
He should be very protective, kind and have the time to devote to making his share of the relationship work and above all consistant.
If you have read this far, I apologise if the above sounded like a rant, please just understand that it was, not about you but about the idiots on here that think submissive women are a push over to abuse as they see fit....
I can be hard work and would not be suitable for a wannabe, I am obedient, I love unconditionally, I give 100% both in vanilla and D/s relationships, so take the time to write polite sensible messages, and I will reciprocate.
For goodness sake develop a sense of humour, even if it is self deprecating, there are too many miserable people on this site....
Stay safe, love large and give your heart.....
About her
I like to laugh, usually at myself and the absurdity of life..... I love walking along the beach in the rain, driving fast cars, the exhilaration of watching the sun rise over the Zimbabwe ruins, the heat of the desert, the excitement of the gold zouk in Dubai......the quietness of an empty church......
Racing naked into the pool, all the things your mother warned you against doing!!,
I do have a serious side, I am a good home maker, cook, I nurture people, I have a good business head, I'm sensual, a good listener, comfortable with a man's need to have a 'cave' to retire too........
I'm not beautiful on the outside, I have like most people our age, a lived in body, but like to think that what's on the inside is worth getting to know, I like gentlemen, who know how to behave, who don't sit glued to the footie (formula one is fine with me!!), I hate people who insist on reading the paper to me, I can do that for myself......
Life is for living, I'm up for it......are you???
About her ideal match
My ideal man would be a cross between Mr Grey and Billy Connolly with Donald Trumps knack for making money!!. Actually who cares as long as he is kind, gentle and dominant but not domineering.
I hate men that are constantly 'scoping' the horizon for their next conquest, please ! have you looked in the mirror lately!!!
He will be confident, happy to lead, happy to let me have an opinion ( oh yes I do have one underneath this quiet exterior), and must want to have lots of fun in life......be comfortable with being silly sometimes, I have a decidedly naughty streak so he must be able to deal with me and not get all huffy if I am sometimes childish.....(we all have a child within).
I understand that computers are part of our everyday life, but I am not looking for someone that has to be tied to either their laptop, PC or phone constantly.....it kills the art of conversation and spontaneity.
He should be capable of organising an outing without calling his P.A or mother, and be happy to do so and not expect me to do all the social planning for him.
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We all meet people along the way, that are kind and nice, but not 'quite' right for us, one should not take offence, I am a great believer in fate, what will be will be......you cannot force this sort of relationship, either it works or it does not.....
I have met people that I have enjoyed playing with but do not like much on a vanilla level, I have met others that I adore as a vanilla partner/friend, but who cannot give me what I need in the sub/Dom world.....
It is hard to strike the balance, to find that one special person.......
I am difficult, not intentionally, but not an easy submissive.....but look in the mirror, are you an easy person/Dom??? it all takes time and effort, not many are prepared to put in that effort....are you??? |
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It's easy to take the one part of a person you want to engage with and ignore the rest. I think by not recognizing people are much more layered than any one element they are currently projecting, you are failing yourself and the other person…..would you like it if people thought that you were mono, one faceted?
It's a very powerful act when one takes ownership of a woman’s sexuality and one of the worst things you can do is disrespect that act by trying to reduce the whole of her, to just her sexuality.
You want the slut, respect the woman it resides in. You want the submissive, get to the know the feisty lady who's yearning to show you that side of her. You can't get the part of a person you want, by disregarding the other parts.
We are all complicated, diverse people who have to be many different versions of ourselves during the day. I'm a sensual submissive, but it's a part of me, not all of me. In order for me to connect with someone in a Bdsm context, I need to connect with them outside of it as well.
If you want that slut, the submissive, then get to know and cherish the person those pieces live inside.
If you ever want to truly own someone, you can't own a piece of them, you have to own all of them. |
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Just remember......
When you are ignoring her
You are teaching her to live
without you! |
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Yes, there are people who are greater than her.
There are people who are more attractive, more intelligent,
more caring, more fortunate.
That's life - full of temptations.....
But don't be deceived by those things, because didn't you
ever realise that there are also people who are greater than you.
Yet she chose YOU... |
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| Age: 23 |
| Baker,
Nevada |
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