I am a 36 year old professional, educated male. For many years I have realised that I'm submissive. I'd always had fantasisies of bondage, spanking etc. but I am also submissive in the non sexual sense; I prefer not to be the centre of attention and I have always felt happier doing things for other people, especially where I am in environment where it is clearly laid out what my goals are or what is expected of me.
I was brought up in a fairly conservative household and went to a boys only private school - both environments instilling a subtle message into me about hierarchies and the roles people were expected to play in them. The trouble was that I never identified with the typical male role model, I was (and am) fairly passive person, I wasn't particularly keen on sport and even when young I would play the sort of games where I was the 'assistant' to friends who would play the the 'hero'. I didn't particularly want the role of a leader in life.
Whether it is my 'nature' or 'nurture' I am attracted to strong authoritative men; men who commanded respect; men who could take me in hand and keep me in my place if they so wished. The modern thinking in relationships now is that partners must be equal, but I believe that some relationships work much better when there are clearly understood roles and where it is accepted that one of the partners is the leader and one is led. This strikes me on a much deeper level than just a sexual level - I know that my submissive nature and need for authority in my life just makes it absolutely 'right' that I should be with a dominant man with me fulfilling a 'supporting role'.
Hence I am here to consciously seek a man who has the characteristics that would enable the success of a such a relationship. The man I am looking for will believe in being the Master of his home and those that live within it. He will be a man who wishes to take the lead in the relationship and who appreciates a partner who supports his lead; a submissive and compliant partner who knows his place is primarily to serve. He would not regard his partner as a 'slave' as such, but will want to have very real control over him, and will not hesitate to enforce and maintain his authority with suitable disciplinary measures when he thinks appropriate. He will be a man who can set up an ordered and structured environment to underpin the relationship, have the final word in any decision making and so create a harmonius relationship without power struggles or arguments.
The question is: Do you think you're that man?
