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****Please take Notice****

This profile represents an open invitation on my part to you for potential FRIENDSHIP!

Please do not message me with your hopes of play, budding romance, or dark desires!

I do not stand on pomp and pretense, and have little to no patience for those that choose to do so.

Do keep your insane notions of chattel to yourself...

it only conveys ignorant foolishness!

Do be clear, I am not here for your pleasure,

rather that it pleases me!


I am every inch a lady. A gentle, warm creature by nature. I have enjoyed BDSM for 30+ years as an aphrodisiac-not a lifestyle! I am an intelligent, creative, independent woman, in my everyday life. However, there is a wickedly darker side...One that enjoys the sensual walk through the enchanting garden of Dominance and submission.I am interested in like minded persons. Someone who does not need to be lewd, crude, or rude to communicate. Individuals that can enjoy bedroom play and lives the rest of life within normal boundaries. One who knows themselves completely, who understands their hunger and desire for controlservitude. Finally, one that has the ability to grow mindbodysoulthrough their experience of controlservitude.Applied intelligence coupled with a good sense of humor and an all around charismatic personality is a must. I seek my equal, a divine nature. Not one that has to work to keep up!

To Aall others I wish Yyou well in your endeavors...












 Female Switch


 5' 10"

 160 lbs






Actively Seeking:


 Lives For:


 Mental Bondage (Expert)

 Alternative Medicine

 Aromatherapy (Expert)

 Cooking (Expert)

 Gardening (Expert)

 Meditation (Expert)

 Poetry (Expert)

 Psychology (Expert)

 Rock Music



 Swimming (Expert)


 Art Galleries

 Beachcombing (Expert)

 Fine Dining

 Going to the Opera





 Horseback Riding (Expert)



 Scuba Diving

 Snorkeling (Expert)


 Anal Play

 Blindfolds (Expert)

 Breast Play (Expert)

 Corsetry (Expert)

 Exhibitionism (Expert)

 Being Massaged

 Massage (Giving)

 Oral Service

 Role Playing

 Sensory Deprivation






 Wax Play

 Card Games


 Historical Shows

 Puzzle Games

 Science Fiction


 Body Art


 Photography (Beginner)



 History (Expert)

 Intellectual Discourse (Expert)

 Mathematics (Expert)

 Nutrition (Expert)

 Paranormal Phenomena



 Writing (Expert)

 1950s Lifestyle

 Lifestyle BDSM

 Classical Music

 Eighties Music


 New Age Music

 New Wave


 Seventies Music



 Soccer (Expert)






 Martial Arts



 Yachting (Beginner)


 Bondage (Expert)

 Foot Worship

 Outdoor Bondage

 Board Games

 Comedy Shows


 True Crime

 TV Sports

 Candle Making

 Sculpting (Beginner)

 Sewing (Expert)

 Singing (Beginner)








 Opera Music


 Show Tunes

 Druidism (Beginner)

 Feng Shui



 Horse Racing (Beginner)


 Antique Shows

 Bar Hopping

 Bird Watching

 Coffee Shops



 Musical Theater

 Renaissance Faires


 Surf Boarding

 Body Worship

 Genital Punishment (Expert)

 Hair Pulling

 Orgasm Control


 Horror Movies

 Online Chatrooms

 Romance Novels

 Simulation Games

 Web Surfing

 Cross Stitch (Expert)

 Old Guard

 Country Music

 Christianity (Expert)


 Body Building


 Ice Hockey

 Curious About:

 Electrical Play (Beginner)


 Soap Making


 Amusement Parks

 Flea Markets

 Garage Sales


 Eye Contact Restrictions

 Plastic Wrap Bondage

 Suspension Bondage

 Latter-day Saints



 Shopping (Expert)


 Enemas (Beginner)



 Pantyhose Fetish

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay


 Arcade Games

 Punk Rock Music


 Hard Limits:





 Skate Boarding


 Cane / Crop Discipline


 Collars (Expert)

 Corner Time



 Dilation (Beginner)

 Local BDSM Community (Expert)

 Erotic Hypnosis

 Fire Play


 Gas Masks


 Knife Play


 Masks on Partner

 Medical Play


 Needle Play

 Obedience Training

 Sensation Play




 Online RPGs

 Role Playing Games



 Political Activism

 Cuck Options

 Gorean Lifestyle




 Victorian Lifestyle

 Hip Hop Music

 Catholicism (Expert)

 Sky Diving

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Journal Entries:
12/31/2017 8:02:30 AM
I learned that who doesn’t look for you, doesn’t miss you and who doesn’t miss you doesn’t care for you… That destiny determines who enters your life but you decide who stays… That the truth hurts only once, and a lie every time you remember it. There are three things in life that leave and never return: words, time and opportunities… Therefore, value whoever values you and don’t treat as a priority whoever treats you as an option.

10/15/2017 10:36:45 AM
SPOTTING A TRUE DOMINANT - A dominant man will not start off with, ‘Bow down on your knees upon receipt of my message!’ There seems to be many complaints from women about this kind of ploy as first introduction, and this is reason alone to ‘block n’ move on.’ (I would advise ladies to use this tactic often and liberally rather than engage in argument or flame wars…life is too short). Ignore the Insta-Dom. - A dominant man will not seem ‘desperate’ for your attention. Getting dates or getting laid is not his problem; he can find women on kink sites, at work, or in the grocery store. He knows women, and women are drawn to him. Many women, kink or vanilla, prefer a man who is take-charge both in the bedroom and in life. If a ‘Dom’ becomes frantic, anxious, or despairing because you don’t write him back every other hour, chances are he has a hard time with the fairer sex. The good news is desperation is easy to spot. - A dominant man most often will be successful, a maverick, or at least happy in his chosen profession. If he has had some bad luck in his past, it will be fleeting, for he will strive relentlessly to place his universe back into the order mandatory to his existence. If your suitor languishes in poverty, unemployment for years, or hates his job, most likely his dominance is merely a cover-up to appease his lack of success. Though he may not be the millionaire, look for the man who is happy, confident, unique, and/or successful in his chosen endeavour. - A dominant man will be very interested in you, and not just your sexual needs (though they will certainly get his attention). He will see you as a puzzle, and desire to make sense of that puzzle. The dominant guy loves challenge and that in essence is why so many submissives find disillusion in the vanilla world; most men do not seek challenge in sensuality, they fear it. Submissive women are the most challenging of lovers for they have great fantasy. Their fantasies often require a man to move far outside normal gestures requiring both skill and creativity. How you think about a myriad of criterion will be of great interest to him. - A dominant man is likely to be damn good in the sack. Most men have their hands full with straight-up vanilla sex. The dominant man has either mastered or has no interest in such elementary play, at least not all the time. Making a woman orgasm many times has left him bereft of sport, so he now seeks a woman who will challenge him on other levels. The dominant guy is going to have a good understanding of the female anatomy, and will persist in finding the keys to your body and mind. He will have done his homework and already experimented in real-time on many lovers. He will be a bit of the Don Juan, if not Don himself; not a womaniser per se, but certainly sexually advanced. - A dominant man may have all the accoutrement of kink (the whips, chains, and whatnot), but he will not need them to be dominant. A whisper, a word, a look, a swagger, and a touch are the essence of his talent. Confidence is his weapon of choice, not bragging about his dungeon. Those who tout their toys too highly might well be lacking in other departments. - A dominant man will be very cautious in selecting you because he knows you have great desires, hopes, and dreams, and it is he that has to live up to them. Above all things he will wish to be good for you. He attempts to choose wisely but may at first make many mistakes in his choices as he finds his way. - A dominant man will make mistakes and have no fear admitting them. The dominant guy knows he is not All Knowing, for he is human. A guy who believes he never makes mistakes or does not admit to them with good cheer is most likely not dominant. - A dominant man will never send you a cock shot at first greeting and it is highly unlikely that he’ll have one on his profile. - A dominant man will not beg you for naked photographs. In fact, he won’t beg for anything. He will simply wait till you’re dying to send him your naughty pictures unsolicited and accept them with lordly composure (or a rock hard-on, depending on the photo). - A dominant man will never lie about being married or already having a girlfriend. If he’s married to vanilla, he’ll simply say so. If he’s dating vanilla, he’ll break up with her before venturing in with another (less he’s doing a poly thing and brings her along, or in an open relationship). The dominant guy is straightforward, will wish to be plain about his true desires and needs, and if he is attached, will be forthcoming with that information. If he’s cheating on his vanilla wife, he will say so. He made his choice and is going for it. - A dominant man won’t lie about much, though he surely will keep some of his thoughts from you. A Dom who feels swallowing golden showers to be right up your alley may well know telling you straight out might have you running for cover. This is not in itself lying, he’s just taking the appropriate steps first and at the speed he thinks you can absorb them (he may well discard such thoughts as he gets to know you; he will discard his thoughts often). The lying ‘dom’ will have an agenda that has no bearing on your needs. The real dominant guy wants no part of someone for whom he cannot be good. A man who attempts to get with a woman he cannot handle or vice versa is desperate. - A dominant man will not be heavy handed in his approach. He will be skilled at drawing you in, opening you up, making you feel at ease or on edge (depending on his tastes). His efforts will seem effortless; even aloof at times. He will grow on you. Capture you. Enlighten you and make things seem clear that may have been once blurry. You will feel better about yourself when communicating with him (even if your desire is to live in debasement!). Only an impostor will try to tear you down in order to raise himself to higher ground. The dominate gets off by watching you soar, not fall. In essence, taking on a submissive is both invigorating and empowering yet also a humbling experience. He may err constantly, particularly if he is new. Yet he will always, always strive to be better, and though longs and seeks challenge, he will avoid that which he knows he cannot handle, or will in some near future be unable to handle. It may take time but he will understand his own limits as well as his woman’s. A submissive is a truckload of challenge (ask their ex-vanilla lovers), and so the dominant man needs you like he needs air. He wants your worship not simply for worship sake but because he has gone beyond the call of the norm, ventured into the realm of risk, and passing across the dangerous abyss where footing is treacherous, hopefully breaks into the sunshine of success offering you something glorious. THAT alone is why he seeks your worship; because he has earned it and deserves it.�If a man does not seek risk and challenge in his life, if he wishes worship without venturing his ego, if he does not persist continually toward excellence in handling a woman as he does in many things, he is not a dominant man. -Author unknown.

6/7/2017 11:07:55 AM
The Truth About Kinky Women This was written in response to another social networking sites post. The poster was wondering why no one was responding to his profile or his entreaties to be invited to parties. You want to meet a girl that you can explore your kinky side with. That’s wonderful. Let me ask you something: • Do you have a or OK Cupid a profile that says “I’m a guy. I’m looking for a girl. If you’re a girl or know a girl, would you send her to me please?” • Suppose you’re into stamp collecting. Do you go into stamp-collecting forums and say “I’m a guy who thinks he may like stamp collecting, and I’m looking for a girl to fuck and teach me about stamp collecting.”? • Do you see a girl at Starbucks drinking coffee and say “Hey, I like coffee, too. Wanna fuck?” Every time you post on here asking for people to “help you out,” that’s exactly what you’re doing. You seem to think that just because a woman is into getting tied up, beaten, and fucked in the ass, she’s somehow different from a “normal” woman. You seem to think that just because a woman likes to have sex, talk about sex, and sometimes be naked in front of people, she should want to do that with you, without knowing anything at all about you except that you like women to get naked in front of you. Submissives aren’t submissive to everyone You’ll hear submissives say “I’m submissive, but I’m not your submissive.” No matter how many times you’ve read The Story of O, there is no chateau full of submissive women who are available on demand to anyone who wants to use them. Kinky women are not whores Some kinky women may like it when their partner calls them “whore,” but they’re not sex workers. They’re not in the business of making sex of any sort available to all comers. (And contrary to popular belief, there is not a rule that actual sex workers have to accept whoever is willing to pay them.) Kinky women are not easy Some kinky women have multiple partners. Some women will do some sort of limited play with people they just met. As a rule most women will not get intimate with a guy they know nothing about. Kinky women are no different. Kinky women are not objects Sure, some women like being objectified, to be used as furniture, ashtrays, fuck toys, even toilets. But you know what? The women who like that trust the people who do that to them, Do you know why they trust them? Because they know them as people. They have connected as human beings before they connected as kinksters. Kinky women have feelings Do some kinky women want to be humiliated, degraded, hurt, and used? Absolutely. This may be hard to understand, but while they may want all those things, they want them in a supportive, trusting, and caring environment. You call my girlfriend a bitch, she’ll kick your balls. I call her a bitch, and she melts in my arms. See the difference? The Truth About Kinky Women by Xxxxxxx0000

1/1/2016 8:27:21 PM
~The modern self-conscious woman knows that she only has to pull her seducer towards her, whilst she, as the seducer herself, with every initiative that she takes, shows her desires and thus her vulnerability...

12/29/2015 12:10:55 PM


Honestly, every single time I visit this site there is some new trite twist!  For the love of all that is sacred...what "is" the appeal?  Is it really that difficult to understand why I turn my profile off, or just take my leave of this site for months at a time?  Can one ever be blamed for their lack of willingness to give out any of their personal details?

While I have seen innumerable version of this scam plague first private email, then messengers, and finally make the cross over to social media...I was actually a bit shocked that there is an attempt to propagate it on collarspace! 

Tsk tsk, shameful!

Ladies and Gentlemen, I present for your review:





 From: militarygentleman


 12/28/15 3:35 PM 
 This user does not have an active profile 
Hi charnel, i took a pic for you this afternoon., I am not here to waste your time or mine so


please if you are honest and serious and know what it takes to please a soldier and for his


pleasure you are willing to do what you have not done before than write me. I am a 6'4 Tall


Dominant Caucasian Male with Piercing Eyes, Large Solid Frame. Very masculine, strong,


manicured and well groomed, I am intelligent, educated, outgoing, and posses excellent


communication and writing skills. I will be retired soon after a successful career in


military. I lead my life, my vanilla life and my D/s life all with a high level of honor and


integrity. I am strict but fair, compassionate, understanding and loving. I am described by


my friends as Insightful, Empathetic, Thoughtful, Creative, Intuitive, Balanced My life


revolves around principles of loyalty, honor, trust & respect. Respect is not given, unless it is


earned, if you give it, you'll get it. it's a lesson well learned. I am a soldier and presently in


Afghanistan. If you are looking to start online and take things to real with time let me


know. regards

No joke, this is the the unedited original email.

Cute pic...nice work with photoshop!

April 26, 2006

7/17/2015 11:54:22 AM
It is with extreme displeasure that I feel it necessary to institute the following...

Under no circumstances do I wish to be contacted by any individual that has the least bit of interest in hypnosis as it pertains to this forum!  PERIOD!!!

I have sound reasoning on the subject, and am no longer willingly to be questioned on such...

5/30/2015 11:28:45 AM
                     If passion drives you;
                             let reason hold the reins....
                                                        ~Benjamin Franklin

5/29/2015 7:37:14 PM
Purely for entertainment purposes yet other website has popped up with their two cents in armchair psychology for interrupting just how kinky your kink is....

== Results from ==

100% Submissive
84% Degradation Receiver
80% Bondage Receiver
75% Exhibitionist
75% Voyeur
70% Primal (Prey)
63% Switch
56% Masochist
54% Primal (Predator)
50% Slave
50% Vanilla
38% Dominant
28% Sadist
20% Degradation Giver
20% Non-monogamist
16% Master/Mistress
15% All-Rounder
15% Bondage Giver

See my results online at

Archetype details

Submissive (100%)

Submissives like to follow. Some like to give the control away to their partner(s), some like to have it forcibly taken from them. Some are submissive only in the bedroom, others are submissive throughout their daily life as well (usually with limitations). Unlike the bottom roles (receiving pain/bondage/degradation), being submissive is more about who decides what happens (and takes the responsibility that comes with it) than about the contents of what happens.

Submissives typically pair up with dominants


Degradation Receiver (84%)

Degradation receiver like to be degraded and humiliated by their play partner(s), either by being acted upon in a degrading way, or by being forced do things they consider degrading.

Degradation receivers typically pair up with degradation givers


Bondage Receiver (80%)

Bondage receivers likes to be tied up and restrained, using rope and/or other attributes (chains, cuffs, speaders...). Whether for sexual enhancement, for art or just for fun, they enjoy being totally at the mercy of their partner(s).

Bondage receivers typically pair up with bondage givers


Exhibitionist (75%)

Exhibitionists enjoy showing their naked body or a sexual activity to other people. Definitions vary with respect to whether those being shown this, should be looking for such encounter or not.

Exhibitionists typically pair up with voyeurs


Voyeur (75%)

Voyeurs enjoy watching the nakedness or sexual activity of other people. Definitions vary with respect to whether those being watched should be aware of this, or not.

Voyeurs typically pair up with exhibitionists


Primal (Prey) (70%)

Primals are mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. The key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey (you) can become a snarling, growing, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator.

Preys typically pair up with predators


Switch (63%)

Switches like to... well, switch. Always taking a dominant or top position is not for them, neither is always taking a submissive or bottom position. Some prefer to switch with the same partner or partners, others have a dominant play partner and a submissive play partner, but in either case they don't fit on one end point of the spectrum.

Switches typically pair up with other switches.

Masochist (56%)

Masochists enjoy receiving (certain types of) pain from their partner(s), usually in a sexual context. Masochism is independent of pain tolerance: it is purely about the ability to enjoy certain levels of pain.

Masochists typically pair up with sadists


Primal (Predator) (54%)

Primals are mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. The key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey can become a snarling, growing, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator (you).

Predators typically pair up with preys


Slave (50%)

Slaves completely hand over the control and responsibilities over their life to their master/mistress. They go a step further than submissives in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as during their office jobs). Serving their master/mistress is their primary focus in life and they rarely have limits for them.

Slaves typically pair up with masters/mistresses


Vanilla (50%)

Vanilla people have a more traditional view on relationships and sexuality. They're not in need of kink at all, instead they settle for the standard sexuality and relationship model that our society presents them.

Vanillas typically pair up with other vanillas.

Dominant (38%)

Dominants like to be in charge. Some like to have their partner obey them without questioning, others like some resistance while taking it their way. Some are dominant only in the bedroom, others are dominant throughout their daily life as well (usually with limitations). Unlike the top roles (giving paina/bondage/degradation), being dominant is more about who decides what happens (and takes the responsibility that comes with it) than about the contents of what happens.

Dominants typically pair up with submissives


Sadist (28%)

Sadists enjoy inflicting (certain types of) pain on their partner(s), usually in a sexual context. Consent hereby is always assumed.

Sadists typically pair up with masochists


Degradation Giver (20%)

Degradation givers like to degrade and humiliate their play partner(s), either by acting upon them in a degrading way, or by or by forcing them to do things they consider degrading. Consent hereby is always assumed.

Degradation givers typically pair up with degradation receivers


Non-monogamist (20%)

Non-monogamists don't see sexuality as necessarily a 1 on 1 thing. Whether this means they will have several relationships or just see other people outside their relationship (or have even more exquisite constructions) depends entirely on the person and the situation, but they all have one thing in common: their sexuality is more than just between them and one fixed partner.

Non-monogamists typically pair up with (several) other non-monogamists.

Master/Mistress (16%)

Masters/Mistresses receive complete control over the life of their slave(s), and all responsibilities that come with it. They go a step further than dominants in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as during their office jobs). Their primary focus is to create a stable and safe environment for their slave(s), to allow optimal servitude.

Masters/Mistresses typically pair up with slaves


All-Rounder (15%)

All-rounders have no specific preferences to either category. It doesn't matter who's in charge and who inflicts what on who, they all like (or dislike) it equally much. They have no other suitable category here.

All-rounders typically pair up with other all-rounders.

Bondage Giver (15%)

Bondage givers like to tie up and restrain their partner(s), using rope and/or other attributes (chains, cuffs, speaders...). Whether for sexual enhancement, for art or just for fun, they enjoy having their partners completely at their mercy.

Bondage givers typically pair up with bondage receivers


5/12/2015 9:38:18 AM
He who controls others maybe powerful;
        but he who Masters himself is mightier still...

~Dao Philosopher

7/16/2013 6:39:36 PM

Guide to being a Bratty Submissive


 Sing “Happy Birthday to Me” and blow out the candle during wax play.


Draw a picture of an open hand on your ass. Then draw a red circle around it. Finish up by putting a slash through the circle. (should turn out to be the international no-spanking zone sign) ...


In the middle of an intense cropping, close your eyes and start to snore.


During a scene, do a Howard Cosell impression and provide a play-by-play account of what is being done to you.


 If your Dom/me tells you to 'Look me in the eyes', do it cross-eyed.


 If your Dom/me decides to do a verbal humiliation scene with you in public, stick your fingers in your ears and say, “Neener, neener, neener, I can't hear you!”


Decorate your Dom/me's leathers with oil painted neon polka dots and stripes.


Place a whoopee cushion on your Dom/me's favorite chair.


Use the toybag for dirty laundry.  "Forget" to switch the contents back before the next play party.


Stick an Alka-Seltzer tablet in your mouth at the beginning of a scene. Work up some saliva to get it fizzy, and then call out your safeword.


When getting flogged, start singing "This is the song that never ends..."


Become a sarcastic practical joke.


Learn a language your Dom/me doesn't know and then speak only in that language when you are together.


Become prone to incessant giggling.


If you're trussed up and ordered to count, inform your Dom/me you can't do it unless you can use your fingers and toes.


Have a wig made up matching your hair color and style perfectly.  It'll be worth the expense to see the look on your Dom/me's face the next time your hair gets tugged and it comes off.


Hold up a scorecard after each blow delivered (like in figure skating or diving)


When your Dom/me hints at foot worship, hand him/her a package of Odor Eaters.


 If you take a message for your Dom/me, write it on a post-it and stick it to your rear.


 Tell your Dom/me a better way to do whatever it is being done to you at that moment.


 Learn the following phrases:


            Get off your lazy ass and do it yourself!

            What do I look like, your maid?

            This isn't a restaurant.

            In your dreams!

            Who died and left you boss?

            I don't think so!

            Homey don't play that game.

            Yeah, right!


 Use them as often as possible.


 Only speak in movie quotes.


 Give your Dom/me a massage while wearing a joy buzzer.


 Send your Dom/me an invoice for your services.


 After a particularly hard blow, pretend to pass out. When your Dom/me checks to see if you're OK, jump up and yell, "Gotcha!"


 Go in the toybag and superglue the nipple clamps shut.


 Ignore your top until he/she utters the magic word.


 Starch the floggers.


 Attach clappers to all the outlets in the dungeon just before a paddling. (Clap on, clap off...)


This was proudly brought to you by somewhere on the internet... i.e. it is not my own.




1/7/2013 8:36:09 PM

Tigress Unleashed…


He sears her with words
Whipping them over her delicate flesh
Teasing, Provoking
Fueling the flames which send heat
Coursing through her blood
And sets her to squirming
While moisture seeps
Coating soft creamy thighs

She growls low in her delicate throat
Mind churning as she plots
Contemplating the best way
To extract her revenge

She may be submissive in nature
But when provoked
Her fierce hungers
Strength of determination
Are such that even the strongest Master
Would be hard pressed
To subdue or satisfy her
Here is a mere man
Toying with such a tigress

Baring gleaming white cuspids
In a wicked grin she wonders

Is he ready...
To feel her bite
Capturing his pulse
Urging it to quicken
Until it beats to fast to count

To feel her french-tipped nails
Raking over his shoulders
Marking him with welts
From her passionate claws

To feel her muscular legs
Wrapping around and pinning him
Until she can claim his swollen member
To quench the fires burning deep within her…

To feel her molten heat
Encasing his sword
Squeezing, pounding, working it
With the hammering hunger of her need

He has no idea
What he is creating
With his burning, vivid, deliberate words

But he will...

1/7/2013 5:46:32 AM

Class, style, dignity...


Not merely words, but an essence that procedes one in life if you are lucky enough to possess such.  For those that find this concept difficult to comprehend life will surely find many doors closed to you.  Most certainly mine! 


If you cannot be civil and respectful; be off with you!  I shall not tolerate disrespect in an form, from anyone on this site or in life. 


Praemonitus, praemunitus... Sapere aude!


6/22/2012 2:34:25 PM


I'm a modern man, digital and smoke-free; a man for the millennium.

A diversified, multi-cultural, post-modern deconstructionist; politically, anatomically and ecologically incorrect.

I've been uplinked and downloaded, I've been inputted and outsourced. I know the upside of downsizing, I know the downside of upgrading.

I'm a high-tech low-life. A cutting-edge, state-of-the-art, bi-coastal multi-tasker, and I can give you a gigabyte in a nanosecond.

I'm new-wave, but I'm old-school; and my inner child is outward-bound.

I'm a hot-wired, heat-seeking, warm-hearted cool customer; voice-activated and bio-degradable.

I interface with my database; my database is in cyberspace; so I'm interactive, I'm hyperactive, and from time to time I'm radioactive.

Behind the eight ball, ahead of the curve, ridin' the wave, dodgin' the bullet, pushin' the envelope.

I'm on point, on task, on message, and off drugs.

I've got no need for coke and speed; I've got no urge to binge and purge.

I'm in the moment, on the edge, over the top, but under the radar.

A high-concept, low-profile, medium-range ballistic missionary.

A street-wise smart bomb. A top-gun bottom-feeder.

I wear power ties, I tell power lies, I take power naps, I run victory laps.

I'm a totally ongoing, big-foot, slam-dunk rainmaker with a pro-active outreach.

A raging workaholic, a working rageaholic; out of rehab and in denial.

I've got a personal trainer, a personal shopper, a personal assistant, and a personal agenda.

You can't shut me up; you can't dumb me down. 'Cause I'm tireless, and I'm wireless. I'm an alpha-male on beta-blockers.

I'm a non-believer, I'm an over-achiever; Laid-back and fashion-forward. Up-front, down-home; low-rent, high-maintenance.

I'm super-sized, long-lasting, high-definition, fast-acting, oven-ready and built to last.

A hands-on, footloose, knee-jerk head case; prematurely post-traumatic, and I have a love child who sends me hate-mail.

But I'm feeling, I'm caring, I'm healing, I'm sharing. A supportive, bonding, nurturing primary-care giver.

My output is down, but my income is up. I take a short position on the long bond, and my revenue stream has its own cash flow.

I read junk mail, I eat junk food, I buy junk bonds, I watch trash sports.

I'm gender-specific, capital-intensive, user-friendly and lactose-intolerant.

I like rough sex; I like tough love. I use the f-word in my e-mail. And the software on my hard drive is hard-core—no soft porn.

I bought a microwave at a mini-mall. I bought a mini-van at a mega-store. I eat fast food in the slow lane. I'm toll-free, bite-size, ready-to-wear, and I come in all sizes.

A fully equipped, factory-authorized, hospital-tested, clinically proven, scientifically formulated medical miracle.

I've been pre-washed, pre-cooked, pre-heated, pre-screened, pre-approved, pre-packaged, post-dated, freeze-dried, double-wrapped and vacuum-packed.

And . . . I have unlimited broadband capacity.

I'm a rude dude, but I'm the real deal. Lean and mean. Cocked, locked and ready to rock; rough, tough and hard to bluff.

I take it slow, I go with the flow; I ride with the tide, I've got glide in my stride.

Drivin' and movin', sailin' and spinnin'; jivin' and groovin', wailin' and winnin'.

I don't snooze, so I don't lose. I keep the pedal to the metal and the rubber on the road. I party hearty, and lunchtime is crunch time.

I'm hangin' in, there ain't no doubt;

and I'm hangin' tough.


Over and out.


George Carlin

6/20/2012 8:54:30 PM

The Triple Goddess



Blessed be, and blessed are,
The lovers of the Lady.
Blessed be, and blessed are,
The Mother, Maiden, Crone.
Blessed be, and blessed are,
The ones who dance together.
Blessed be, and blessed are,
The ones who dance alone.
She’s been waiting, waiting.
She’s been waiting so long.
She’s been waiting for her children
To remember, to return.


6/20/2012 8:50:58 PM

Summer Solstice 2012

Litha Ritual



The time of the Sun's greatness, strength and the zenith of the year has come as the wheel turns onwards into this joy-filled moment of warmth and as we feel the warmth of his rays he softly kisses the Earth's skin with the warm ardour of self-knowledge. She has busied herself in her growing and fertile strength and now lies before him in all her mature splendour. Still and secure in the beauty of fulfilment she offers life grown from her body and his warmth back to that same life which is part of her as he shines golden light on all who partake of the wealth. I raise my voice with the teeming, giving and receiving life all around me and sing back to his kissing rays:




Light, oh golden light
I feel your coming and know your going.
The time of your great shining is here
And in the fire of my spirit I nurture your flame.
I lie long and rest under the kisses of your rays
And know the fulfilment of
Fertility brought to fruition.
With the Earth I recline in joyful bounty and rejoice
To feel your light on my skin as she does.
Now to the life of all I offer all the life I have,
One to the other given and received
In a constant cycle of the wheel
Whose turning never ceases.


May I listen for and hear you,
May I look for and see you,
May I reach for and touch you,
May I wait for and find you.


6/20/2012 3:33:41 PM

The Rules...


The FEMALE always makes The Rules.

The Rules are subject to change at any time without prior notification.

No MALE can possibly know all The Rules.

If the FEMALE is wrong, it is due to a misunderstanding which was a direct result of something the MALE did or said wrong.

The MALE must never change his mind without the express written concent of the FEMALE.

The FEMALE has every right to be angry or upset at any time.

The MALE must remain calm at all times unless the FEMALE wants him to be angry and/or upset.

The FEMALE must, under no circumstances, let the MALE  know whether or not she wants him to be angry and/or upset.

The MALE is expected to mind read at all times.

The FEMALE is ready when she is ready.

The MALE must be ready at all times

Any attempt to document The Rules could result in bodily harm.

The MALE who doesn't abide by The Rules can't take thhe heat, lacks backbone, and is a whimp!




6/19/2012 5:34:22 PM

ARIES - The Daredevil

(Mar 21 - April 19)
Energetic. Adventurous and spontaneous. Confident and enthusiastic. Fun. Loves a challenge. EXTREMELY impatient. Sometimes selfish. Short fuse. (Easily angered.) Lively, passionate, and sharp wit. Outgoing. Lose interest quickly - easily bored. Egotistical. Courageous and assertive. Tends to be physical and athletic.

TAURUS - The Enduring One

(April 20 - May 20)

Charming but aggressive. Can come off as boring, but they are not. Hard workers. Warm-hearted. Strong, has endurance. Solid beings that is stable and secure in their ways. Not looking for shortcuts. Take pride in their beauty. Patient and reliable. Make great friends and give good advice. Loving and kind. Loves hard - passionate. Express themselves emotionally. Prone to ferocious temper-tantrums. Determined. Indulge themselves often. Very generous.

GEMINI - The Chatterbox

(May 21 - June 20)

 Smart and witty. Outgoing, very chatty. Lively, energetic. Adaptable But needs to express themselves. Argumentative and outspoken. Like change. Versatile. Busy, sometimes nervous and tense. Gossips. May seem superficial or inconsistent. Beautiful physically and mentally.


CANCER - The Protector

(June 21 - July 22)
Moody, emotional. May be shy. Very loving and caring. Pretty/handsome. Excellent partners for life. Protective. Inventive and imaginative. Cautious. Touchy-feely kind of person. Needs love from others. Easily hurt, but sympathetic.

LEO - The Boss

(July 23 - Aug 22)
Very organized. Need order in their lives - like being in control. Like boundaries. Tend to take over everything. Bossy. Like to help Others. Social and outgoing. Extroverted. Generous, warm-hearted. Sensitive. Creative energy. Full of themselves. Loving. Doing the right thing is important to Leos. Attractive.

VIRGO - The Perfectionist

(Aug 23 - Sept 22)
Dominant In relationships. Conservative. Always wants the last word. Argumentative. Worries. Very smart. Dislikes noise and chaos. Eager. Hardworking. Loyal. Beautiful. Easy to talk to. .Hard to please. Harsh. Practical and very fussy. Often shy.

LIBRA - The Harmonizer

(Sept 23 - Oct 22)
Nice to everyone they meet. Can't make up their mind. Have own unique appeal. Creative, energetic, and very social. Hates to be alone. Peaceful, generous. Very loving and beautiful. Flirtatious. Give in too easily. Procrastinators. Very

SCORPIO - The Intense One

(Oct 23 - Nov21)
Very energetic. Intelligent. Can be jealous and/or possessive. Hardworking. Great kisser. Can become obsessive or secretive. Holds grudges. Attractive. Determined. Loves being in long Relationships. Talkative. Romantic. Can be self-centered
at times. Passionate and Emotional.

SAGITTARIUS - The Happy-Go-Lucky One
(Nov 22 - Dec 21)

Good-natured optimist. Doesn't want to grow up (Peter Pan Syndrome). Indulges self. Boastful. Likes luxuries and gambling. Social and outgoing. Doesn't like responsibilities. Often fantasizes. Impatient. Fun to be around. Having lots of friends. Flirtatious. Doesn't like rules. Sometimes hypocritical. Dislikes being confined - tight spaces or even tight clothes. Doesn't like being doubted. Beautiful inside and out.


CAPRICORN - The Go-Getter

(Dec 22 - Jan 19)

Patient and wise. Practical and rigid. Ambitious. Tends to be Good-looking. Humorous and funny. Can be a bit shy and reserved. Often pessimistic. Capricorns tend to act before they think and can be Unfriendly at times. Hold grudges. Like competition. Get what they want.

AQUARIUS - The Sweetheart

(Jan 20 - Feb 18)

Optimistic and honest. Sweet personality. Very independent. Inventive and intelligent. Friendly and loyal. Can seem unemotional. Can be a bit rebellious. Very stubborn, but original and unique. Attractive on the inside and out. Eccentric personality.

PISCES - The Dreamer

(Feb 19 - Mar 20)

Generous, kind, and thoughtful. Very creative and imaginative. May become secretive and vague. Sensitive. Don't like details. Dreamy and unrealistic. Sympathetic and loving. Kind. Unselfish. Good kisser. Beautiful.

6/13/2012 1:44:09 PM


Your eyes taste her

From every position

You read her curves

Without permission


Your mind spins wild

She’s your obsession

You seek to own

That sweet possession


More than desire

Your longing need

More than hunger

You feel so deep


Sweet twisted pain

These lusting dreams

Soon it must end!

Your heart does scream


She burns your soul

With primal heat

She knows you not

But makes you need…

6/10/2012 4:15:06 PM


Bide within the Law you must, in perfect Love and perfect Trust.

Live you must and let to live, fairly take and fairly give.
For tread the Circle thrice about to keep unwelcome spirits out.
To bind the spell well every time, let the spell be said in rhyme.
Light of eye and soft of touch, speak you little, listen much.
Honor the Old Ones in deed and name, let love and light be our guides again.
Deosil go by the waxing moon, chanting out the joyful tune.
Widdershins go when the moon doth wane, and the werewolf howls by the dread wolfsbane.
When the Lady's moon is new, kiss the hand to Her times two.
When the moon rides at Her peak then your heart's desire seek.
Heed the North winds mighty gale, lock the door and trim the sail.
When the Wind blows from the East, expect the new and set the feast.
When the wind comes from the South, love will kiss you on the mouth.
When the wind whispers from the West, all hearts will find peace and rest.
Nine woods in the Cauldron go, burn them fast and burn them slow.
Birch wood in the fire goes to represent what the Lady knows.
Oak in the forest, towers with might in the fire it brings the God's insight.
Rowan is a tree of power causing life and magick to flower.
Willows at the waterside stand ready to help us to the Summerland.
Hawthorn is burned to purify and to draw faerie to your eye.
Hazel-the tree of wisdom and learning- adds its strength to the bright fire burning.
White are the flowers of Apple tree that brings us fruits of fertility.
Grapes grow upon the vine giving us both joy and wine.
Fir does mark the evergreen to represent immortality seen.
But - Elder is the Lady's tree burn it not or cursed you'll be.
Four times the Major Sabbats mark in the light and in the dark.
As the old year starts to wane the new begins, it's now Samhain.
When the time for Imbolg shows watch for flowers through the snows.
When the wheel begins to turn soon the Beltane fires will burn.
As the wheel turns to Lammas night power is brought to magick rite.
Four times the Minor Sabbats fall use the Sun to mark them all.
When the wheel has turned to Yule light the log the Horned One rules.
In the spring, when night equals day time for Ostara to come our way.
When the Sun has reached it's height time for Oak and Holly to fight.
Harvesting comes to one and all when the Autumn Equinox does fall.
Heed the flower, bush, and tree By the Lady blessed you'll be.
Where the rippling waters go cast a stone, the truth you'll know.
When you have and hold a need, harken not to others greed.
With a fool no season spend Lest you be counted as his friend.
Merry Meet and Merry Part bright the cheeks and warm the heart.
Mind the Three-fold Laws you should three times bad and three times good.
When misfortune is enow wear the star upon your brow.
True in love you must ever be unless your love is false to thee.
Eight words the Rede fulfil "An' ye harm none, do what ye wilt".




6/10/2012 2:27:28 PM

Intelligent people talk about ideas.

Average people talk about things.

Small people talk about other people.

6/10/2012 2:26:09 PM

A pedestal is as much a prison as any small, confined space.
-- Gloria Steinem

6/10/2012 2:23:23 PM

After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't mean security,
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises,
And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open, with the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child,
And you learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure... that you really are strong,
And you really do have worth.















6/10/2012 10:08:49 AM
J'ai trouvé mon esprit, corps et âme...
Je vous souhaite bien dans les efforts d'youe...
Salutations chaleureuses...

6/8/2012 12:20:58 AM

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary." - Steve Jobs

6/7/2012 11:46:39 AM

This one is soo so true -

People come into your life for a reason,

negative people usually are there to teach you what you don't want to become,

to treat you how you don't want to be treated,

and to show you what you don't deserve!

Embrace them,

let them teach you,

and then let them go. ♥ ♥

6/2/2012 3:20:10 AM

Through Love all that is bitter will be sweet
Through Love all that is copper will be gold.
Through Love all dregs will turn to purest wine
Through Love all pain will turn to medicine.
Through Love the dead will all become alive.
Through Love the king will turn into a slave!


6/2/2012 2:04:31 AM


Yet another entry into the "You have got to be kidding me pile"...


hello, are you........

Are you looking for a Master to push your boundaries? Submit to him and discover the pleasure of domination. ...

are you looking to explore your fetishes with an understanding Master? Whether you are new to BDSM, or an experienced submissive.

I am a man ...who understand dominance over women an natural way, ....not a fake way.

I am not one of those .....who think that finding a dominant man is the solution to her life frustration.

I am interested in tearing down a slave and creating a usefull slave of it.


Good evening UH...

Thank you for your time and effort in contacting me. Clearly, you did not read my profile. This is just simply your lose... For if you had you may have gleaned just a tad bit of useful information...such as THIS IS NOT MY FIRST RODEO, COWBOY! One cannot be an expert on thier first day, or (for some) even thier first decade in the lifestyle.

Yawn, stretch...drool!

To understand Dominance over women in a natural way, mu ha hah...With that logic all women would be submissive to all men.

To think finding a dominant man is the solution to her frustrations...maybe wanna-bes, newbies, fakes, or those that read a book, article, or story... and got hot and bothered. Those that could not possibly grasp the concept of D/s with both hands and a flash light to shine their way!

Oh dear me, and my all time favorite line...I am interested in tearing down a slave and making a useful slave of it. Please tell me you read this somewhere and thought it would fly. Those interested in tearing down another person are insecure in their own right! MONDO HUGE RED FLAG! They need to feel power over another by stripping way that which would make her (not it, you do not lose your gender in D/s) a natural submissive. Oh and create...pie in my eye! You want to strip something and create it buy a piece of used furniture and refinish it! Manipulation is no more domination than it would be submission. Just in case you do not know...submissives and slaves are two separate catagories.

You may consider this the last communication between you and I! It is somewhat doubtful you will adide by my request.

I wish you well in your endeavors. Even though, I feel nothing but sympathy for the individual(s) that buys into your foolishness!

Warm regards...

P.S. Spelling and punctuation count...all the time, every time. It is your first impression to another.

6/1/2012 2:19:52 AM

Sarcasm inserted below....

Apparently CollarMe has a flixation on me.  Wants me, needs me, desires me 24/7/365!


Facts inserted below....

NO ONE can actually be online 24/7/365.  Certainly NOT me.  No matter what I do...log out, restart, shutdown, turn off wifi....I still appear to be online!

So if you email me and I do not respond instantly (because of course I sit and wait for your email to appear) please understand....I AM NOT ONLINE!


....SIDE NOTE...

Bulk mail filters, I use them!  If you never hear from me it is most likely because you are too young, too old, or not what I seek.  So smart a$$es that put 99 as an age, how is that working for you?





5/29/2012 7:12:24 PM

I thought I had heard of some truly nasty things...but I was surprised today! 


Ladies (using the term loosely) what in the world would possess you to sell your dirty panties?  Goodness...have some self respect!  That is really absolutely disgusting.


What is next?  Men selling used condoms? 


Do not serve up your dignity for a few dollars!

5/29/2012 9:00:50 AM

It has been my pure delight to friend a true British gentleman on this site. His charm and enthusastic far and away consume the mind. Although should not be fooled by his demeanor, as he really is one of the few true Dominants on this site.


It is truly unfortunate that one has to go across the pond for such warmth and dignity! However, a delight to know that a few good men/Doms do still exsist.


Thank you Martin!

5/14/2012 4:50:35 PM



Don't get conned ladies.  Only took me a day to start searching the internet.  Found this beauty in two minutes!


Milton Phillip Gary

12/20/2007 9:56:22 AM


~Maxim for Life...


 Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.


 Memorize your favorite poem.


 Don't:   believe all you hear,

                            spend all you have,

               or sleep all you want.


 When you say, "I love you", mean it.


When you say, "I'm sorry", look the person in the eye.


 Be engaged at least six months before you get married.


 Believe in love at first sight.


 Never laugh at anyone's dreams.


 Love deeply and passionately.

 You might get hurt,

        but it's the only way to live life completely.


 In disagreements, fight fairly.

             No name calling.


 Don't judge people by their relatives.


 Talk slow but think quick.


 When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer,

smile and ask,

                     "Why do you want to know?"


 Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.


 Call your mom.


 Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.


 When you lose,

                           don't lose the lesson.


 Remember the three R's: Respect for self,

               Respect for others,

         Responsibility for all your actions.


 Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.


 When you realize you've made a mistake,

                               take immediate steps to correct it.


 Smile when picking up the phone.

                            The caller will hear it in your voice.


 Marry a man/woman you love to talk to.

As you get older,

                                                                             his conversational skills will be as important as any other.



 Spend some time alone.


 Open your arms to change,

                but don't let go of your values.


 Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

Read more books and watch less television.


 Live a good, honorable life.

            Then whenyou get older and think back you'll get to enjoy it a second time.


 Trust in God but lock your car.


 A loving atmosphere in your home is so important.

            Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.


 In disagreements with loved ones,

               deal with the current situation.

                        Don't bring up the past.


Read between the lines.


Share your knowledge.

            It's a way to achieve immortality.


Be gentle with the earth.


Pray -- there's immeasurable power in it.


 Never interrupt when you are being flattered.


 Mind your own business.


 Don't trust a man who doesn't close his eyes when you kiss him.


 Once a year,

             go someplace you've never been before.


 If you make a lot of money,

         put it to use helping others
while you are living.

That is wealth's greatest satisfaction.


 Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of



 Learn the rules,

                   then break some.


 Remember that the best relationship is one

where your love for each other

   is greater than

                        your need for each other.


 Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.


 Remember that your character is your destiny.


 Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.


12/14/2007 10:54:22 AM

as though no one is watching you

as though you never have been hurt before

as though no one can hear you

as though your heaven is on earth


11/14/2007 11:06:22 AM

If you have found better living through psychotropics or need to....please DO NOT leave me a message!  Pharmaceuticals are an intricate part of modern life.  However some individuals do not rely on them, and just cope.

9/24/2007 5:51:06 PM

Once you familarize yourself with
the chains of bondage
you prepare yourself to wear them....

9/24/2007 10:48:54 AM
A personal apparently it is not possible to think about a quote.

If you are not going to read a profile, why write?

Why write if you can not form a sentence?

Spelling counts...we are all suppose to be adults.  Sentence structure gives the reader a glimpse as to who you are, and how you carry yourself in the world.

9/24/2007 1:27:06 AM
Those who walk upon the earth, no matter what tradition, can no longer afford the luxury of ignoring the affairs of humanity.

9/15/2007 3:57:13 PM

Boldness has genius,
 power & magick
 in it...

9/15/2007 10:14:25 AM
As you come to seek and see the virtues and strengths and nobilities of others, you begin to seek and see them in yourself also.

9/12/2007 1:30:22 AM
Appearance captures the eyes, but personality captures the heart....

8/26/2007 12:17:33 PM
Once you familarize yourself with the chains of bondage you prepare yourself to wear them....

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