My ideal dominent woman would restrain me and give me a safe word. If I used the safe word that only means for her to let up a bit or change to something else, she does not have to unrestrain me, that only happens when she is ready to.

A woman who would really enjoy the above is what I seek.

Then do it again another time time even harder, if she chooses. 

I am very curious to meet such a woman.