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NEWSFLASH: Research has proven that the ability to vividly imagine an experience happening in the brain can produce the exact same physiological benefits or damage as that caused by completing the same task! AND HE KNOWS WHAT THE "s" NEEDS. As a Dom, I believe that I am most effective in the art of torture (what a shame it has any negative connotation) and elicitation of pain when I am so familiar with and knowledgeable of the "s" that I know completely what is NEEDED ... this occurs when the IRON RULE (see journal) is applied. The darkness reveals the intrigue and danger of the night. Seek gratification from all that stirs inside you ... this is true enlightenment. Seek answers to the questions that perplex you ... this is true wisdom. Innocence and naivete deprive you of the pleasure that is yours to know. Follow the flame to leads to MY dark space. BIGstem ********* READ ******** A Dom, I know asked Me if I would be willing to recruit 5 subs/slaves to service guests at a midwestern BDSM B&B ... the sub/slave would have their own room and service the guests who come for Dom/Domme training. It could also serve as opportunity to be placed with someone who actually knows, and lives the lifestyle. If you are interested, let Me know and mediate the contact. ******* MORE ********** I was approached recently about an opportunity to teach Business executives Spanish. The plan is to take groups of upto 10 Men/Women, all high-power executives, to Costa Rica for ten days and teach them conversational Spanish. The twist is that they are also Doms/Dommes and would be needing slaves/submissives to serve them the entire time they are there. Speaking Spanish is not a requirement, but being available to serve for at least 12 hours each day is required. If you are interested in serving and having an all expense trip to San Jose, Costa Rica with four star accommodations, contact me.
2/11/2015 9:39:58 PM
RANT
What I am about to write is important. Being in the lifestyle means many different things to each person. That is the beauty of the KINK! The challenge is finding, through diligence and perverseness finding the O/one that is right for you! Doing this is often tedious, frustrating and disappointing. I can't even count how many times I am asked by a sub/slave who was deceived why it happened. Countless, in the hundreds. Experienced Dom/Domme(s) end up having to restore the basic degree of human dignity to the hurt and wounded. I am working on a book, that will serve as an orientation for those at all levels. Why? Because, hurt people - hurt people.

If you have been damaged? Seek out O/one who will accept you unconditionally and restore your faith in the BDSM lifestyle. There are educated, successful, financially independent Doms, Dommes, Masters, Mistresses, submissives, and slaves. Stop giving BDSM because YOU are a predator! One day you will be found out, and those who have the POWER and the RESOURCES will hunt you down and pour out the wrath that you deserve. On that DAY, you will regret ignoring THIS ONE's advice to leave now while you still can.

I have spoken My peace,  "HARM NONE!"
1/29/2015 1:26:25 PM
TAKEN AWAY ... have you ever imagined being stalked and abducted and sold into slavery? Discontented with your vanilla lifestyle, marriage, current circumstances that you imagine being stalked, snatched, drugged, tied up and ripped out of your life as you know it? There are hundreds of Masters/Mistresses waiting to purchase you (male or female, straight or gay or lesbian) for a price for lifelong service.

I will make it all cum true!
12/28/2014 1:20:47 PM
Punishment and torture typically involve the infliction of both external and internal pain. Interestingly, the skin is the largest body organ/system. As a real human organ, it provides multiple sites where external experiences can be felt internally. The degree of sensory potential can vary by site … for example, there is a high concentration of nerve endings in the breasts and genitals with fewer on the back or buttocks. Internally, the largest human organ is the brain, not to get too boring, but the primary area of focus for S&M is the hypothalamus and amygdala … this is quite simply, the emotional gateway to the mind. There is just as much pleasure arising in the mind as their is in physical stimulation of the genitalia. This is also true for emotional and physical pain.

Why is this even important? Well, My kinky friends … I am journalling to pass along what I have learned over the past 30+ years as a Sadoerotic Dom. It is My hope that can help both sub/slave/Domme/Dom become more skilled and more effective. Being a Sadistic Dom, requires Me to be knowledgeable, deliberate and masterful in what I say and do.

In the future, I will journalling about the four sensations - touch, contact, temperature change and pain. Additionally, I will be talking about the four methods of introducing pain/pleasure - mechanical, thermal, chemical and electrical. Join Me on this journey.
12/28/2014 12:05:39 PM
I call it the SPC Protocol.
Simply stated, the strategic and moderated use of shock (electric play), poke (insertion of large objects into and available orifice), and choke (breath play) can produce amazing results when used skillfully. The goal is NOT harm, but the optimum stimulation through sadistic activities. If you want to learn more, just ask.
12/26/2014 5:32:27 PM
I get asked, frequently, why I am a sadistic Dom. The answer is simple, for me. Torture, pain, and the anticipation of the same test the limits of trust. Trust is the product of the accumulation of knowing that a person will do what they say they will do … this is never more the case in the SM relationship. Where, out of mutual want for each, both the sadist and masochist desire the giving/receiving of attention for the purpose of strengthening the bond.

Let me explain - the anticipation of pain and torture is usually indistinguishable from the actual experience. For example, in the “Slow Cutting” experience, superficial cuts are made around those body parts which are symbolically removed. The real torture method is called Lingchi (凌遲). Originally, the torturer would have a container with sharp cutting tools labeled with the names of various body parts. Systematically, he/she would reach into the container and randomly remove a tool and then slice away the body part (ie., calf, bicep, breast, genitals, finger, toe, knee, lung, heart, or head). The torture and suffering could be sustained for days …

In the SM version, since death is not the desired outcome, only superficial cuts are made around the target organs. This cutting would discontinue, when the heart or head is removed. In the dungeon, this ritual and symbolic disembodiment can be used at the initiation of a new sub/slave - the loosing of self, where superficial cuts do not draw blood. Or, this ritual can be used at the freeing of a slave, as if by death. This ritual would involve making more serious, although NOT fatal cuts, where the goal is the spilling of blood.
12/16/2014 12:35:35 PM
The Iron Rule
Based in sacred writings, so there is something of merit to its teachings.
Consider the following passages ...
(Leviticus 26:18)
If after all this, you will not listen to me, I will punish you for your sins seven times over.
(Hebrews 12:11)
No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful.
Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace
for those who have been trained by it.

The Golden Rule - states - "do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
The Platinum Rule - states - "treat others the way they want to be treated"
BUT!!!
The Iron Rule - states - "treat others the way they NEED to be treated"

Here are MY list of practices (arsenal of techniques) employed during training. If you have questions, just ask.

20 hour interrogations
abdomen strikes
asphyxiation
attention grasp
beating (with rods)
binding
blindfolding
blinding (abacination w/ heat or bright lights)
boilings
bone breaking
branding
branks
bronze fetters (chains)
buried under heavy weights
burnings
castration
Chinese water torture
choke pear
coffin torture
continuous narcosis
control fear (use of dogs)
cramped confinement
cramped confinement with an insect
crown of thorns
crushing
cutting
denailing
dietary manipulation
dismemberment
disfigurement
drugging
dunking
electric shock
environmental manipulation
facial hold
facial slap
flagellation
flaying
foot roasting
foot whipping
forced ingestion
garrotting
genital mutilation
Glasgow smile
hamstringing
head crusher
heretic’s fork
humiliation
hung by their hands
hypothermia
impalement
incentive approach
Iron spider
Judas chair
kneecapping
kneel hauling
lake of fire
loud music
mock executions
necklacing
neck torture
nudity
oxygen deprivation
piercing
pitch capping
pressure points
prolonged isolation
prolonged sedation (< 4 days)
rack, the
rape
rat, the
rectal feeding
rectal hydration
reverse hanging (strappado)
riding the rail
rope torture
sawing
scalping
scorpion stings
scourging
sensory bombardment (noise and light)
sequential sedation
sexual assault
sexual humiliation (ravished)
shackling
shaking
sleep deprivation
smoke
starvation
stockades (feet, hands, head)
stress positions
submersion (in mud, ice cold water)
suffocation
suspension
taliq
tasering
tarring and feathering
temperature manipulation
thumbscrew
toilet deprivation
threats
threats of harm to person, family or friends
thrown down
tongue shredding
tramp chair
trampled
tub, the
violent shaking
walling
wall standing
water boarding
water cure
water dousing
wooden horse
wheel torture
yelling
11/17/2014 1:33:10 PM
TRUTH revealed in DARKNESS
Over the many years that I have learned to gratify the longings within my soul, I have come to realize that there is no such thing as aberrant. All that we are meant to be is that which we crave and cling. Would you like to hear about my experiences?