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Hetero Female Mistress, 54,  North Eastern, Oklahoma
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If i see pics of penis, ass, vagina or breasts exposed when I look at my whos viewing me page, I will immediately and without second thought delete it. Your profile will not be viewed by me.

*****************Men that identify as DOMINANT, PLEASE dont write me looking for whatever your idea of a conquest is. I am NOT interested in you. If I were, I would identify as a submissive female. If you want to act like a gentleman and have a conversation, I will welcome that but give me the respect that you desire.**********************

If you are married, separated or otherwise attached or involved with another adult in a one on one interpersonal relationship. STOP here, there is no need to read further or contact me.


I am just tired of all the games people play. If you want to put in the work it takes to have a DOMINANT in your life, send me a message. If not, dont bother me. I will be checking back a couple times a week to see if there is any e-mail.

First and foremost, if you have ANY racial, body type or age hangups, please leave me alone. This includes hangups about being seen in public because your friends or associates have hang ups about it. If you as an adult cant associate with anyone you want on your own time, then you dont need to participate in this way of life.

Please dont talk to me about VANILLA. you are who you are regardless of what you do. If you feel like you have to change who you are to eat a bowl of cereal then change back to rub my feet, then you are working way too hard to try to be a slave.

Are you a conditional slave or a consensual (consentual) slave?

Are you vested in being a slave as I am in being a DOMINANT?

Is this a lifestyle for you or a way of life? The differences are monumental.

I am not a spoiled princess nor do I care to be, I am a slave owner. I am not interested in games or those who are not sure about their desire to be a slave. I am not afraid to get my hands dirty thus I am not afraid of hard work. Please dont mistake my kind and caring nature for weakness or submissiveness.

I am seeking those that are human with a slave heart. I am seeking those that dont have conditions on their slavery but are slaves to their very core. I am a very sane and caring person and when I take a slave as my own, he**she will be loved, nurtured and cared for. Although he**she will be owned property, it will be akin to owning a pet. I am not seeking pets but that is as close as I can come to what your status will be within my household.Now I have a few rules I have to live by

If you are under 35, please dont write, I dont want to disappoint you.

If you live outside the US, I am not interested.

If you have interest in anything outright illegal, immoral, dangerous, unsanitary or otherwise out there* Please dont bother contacting me, its not worth your time or mine.

Spirituality matters, I am a Christian. Please dont upset my spiritual sensibilities. I believe GOD made me who I am and gave me the desires I have in my heart and no I dont feel any guilt about what I do within this way of life.

If what I have said has piqued your interest, please feel free to write me.

*The term out there is a relative term. It can mean anything of an outrageous nature. If you think your interest is not out there but could possibly be in my view, please ask.

**When I speak of SheHerSister or any female moniker, I am interested in straight andor bi-sexual females I am not interested in lesbians.

I am weary, leary and disappointed. There have got to be a few golden apples in the orchard.

Ive made some lifestyle changes. I have made the choice to become a van dweller. I want to travel and I see this as the most cost effective way to do it. I am currently in the process of building out my van. I hope to be in it by November. Im going to stay in my general area for a couple more years to tie up loose ends, then its the open road. I plan on Working seasonally taking advantage of various employment opportunities. If the nomad lif is appealing to anyone, send me a message. Im really looking forward to traveling.












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 Dominant Female

 North Eastern 


 Willing to Relocate

 6' 1"

 300 lbs



 Not Listed



Actively Seeking:

Submissive Male

A Poly Household

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Journal Entries:
10/4/2016 11:40:32 AM
I'm almost at the point where putting forth effort is too much work.

12/11/2014 10:04:51 PM
You know what's funny, people that were several years older than me several years ago are  now younger than me.  Change your ages in your profiles and/or quit lying about it.  Be who you are, it will serve you better in the long run.

12/11/2014 9:59:03 PM

If you aren't sure of who you are within this way of life, be up front about it.  Don't pretend to know what you don't know then blow a good thing only to come back begging to have it back.  People are not disposable, nor are we made to be put away only to be pulled out later when it suits you.  This is not to say that you shouldn't explore just don't lie about it.  I for one and tired of you guys that are testing the waters and discover it is too deep for you to stand up in yet pretending you know how to swim.

9/24/2013 5:42:05 PM

Hey Fella's, if you believe that posting a pic of your naked privates, a drawing of someone serving a DOMINATRIX, you serving a DOMINATRIX  or any pictures in close proximity to the aforementioned as your main profile pic makes you seem more real or makes you more endearing to a DOMINANT, you very mistaken.  Post a generic pic of a tree or a body of water or something of that nature if you don't want to post a face pic.  Save the fetish pics for that DOMINANT that wants to share them with you.  There is nothing more appalling than having a dick or an ass in your face when you open someone's profile.  Show you have some class, show you are a gentleman show that you are not the run of the mill wannabe wanker slave.  That is all.

8/17/2013 11:17:12 AM

Hatred of any person is unacceptable in my book.  You can dislike the way they think and the things they do but to hate a person for being an individual is completely unacceptable. Someone recently told me they hate pro-lifers.  However, I feel that this is a contradiction. We want people to have the right to choose but when they don't choose what we want them to choose, then we hate them?  Someone explain that to me please.

8/11/2013 5:11:51 AM

Just bought a house, it is quite a fixer upper.  Any handy slaves out there?

8/10/2013 3:07:50 PM

WOO HOO!!!!! A new Sushi restaruant is opening up within a mile of my home.  YUM, I love Sushi, can't wait.

7/17/2013 8:59:37 PM

Pet PEEVE:  People who put themselves on my admirer's list and never even say hello.  Then when you try to contact them, they delete your message unread.  Take your idiot self off my admirers list if you can't have the decency to speak to me.

12/25/2012 6:10:43 AM

Happy Birthday Jesus,

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and Seasons Greetings to Everyone Else.

11/23/2012 7:23:56 PM

I don't want a lot for Christmas, there is just one thing I need.  I don't care about the presents underneath the Christmas Tree.  I just want you for my own.  More than you could ever know.  Make my wish come true.  All I want for Christmas is.......YOU!!!!

10/21/2012 7:42:09 PM

pet peeve:


People that I have talked to in the not so distant past that disappear then reappear a couple months later pretending that its the first time they have read my profile.


solution to my peeve:

Just be honest, you know you messed up and you want another opportunity to impress.



6/12/2012 4:06:17 PM

I have been craving some Sushi for a few weeks now.  There is no Japanese restaurant in my immediate area (closest one is 25 miles away)  If you are a slave that enjoys Sushi and is skilled in making Sushi or is willing to learn, hit me up.  Healthy eating has become a Biggie for me and Sushi is close to the top of my list

5/20/2012 1:02:10 AM

it is 3:00 in the morning and I need a coca cola...where is a slave when you need one?

5/13/2012 3:09:42 PM


1/11/2012 12:49:08 PM

Making a trip to Vegas Feb 10 - 13.  Going to a wedding on the 11th and nothing planned for the rest of the time there.  Perhaps we can meet Sunday for drinks.



12/30/2011 6:25:07 PM

I see a lot of people wanting that 1950's household.  I have to say that June Cleaver wasn't what was happening in my fam and that is not really appealing to me.  Now a reverse 1950's household might be much more appealing.  Ask me if you don't understand what I mean.

12/17/2011 5:03:04 AM

I have an affinity for CD's.  However, in my experience, most CD's only want women in their immediate lives as smoke screens for relationships with men.  If you want a woman for a smoke screen, I am not her.  If you are seeking that elusive "BBC", the only one you are going to find with me is either rubber or silicone.

12/15/2011 5:38:47 AM

Wow, so many men present themselves as Dicks and Asses, Literally...all these pics of penis' and butts as the first representation of themselves.  I would rather see a generic picture of the sunset or something if you can't show your face.

7/26/2011 4:35:58 PM

Going to Vegas in Feb 2012

3/11/2011 8:32:34 AM

The process of building my Strawbale house has begun with the education of building with natural materials.  Can't wait to get my hands in the dirt and actually break ground.

2/3/2011 6:35:51 PM

"There is no account for the misuse of intelligence"- Miss Rita

1/25/2011 11:13:33 AM

Girls week has started.  Got together with my Girls last night and had an AMAZING game of BUNKO!!!!.  Next up, Thursday with Bill Bellamy with some more of my Girls...Ladies Night Out.  LEAVE your man at HOME!!!!

1/21/2011 6:18:38 AM

There has been a strange influx of male DOMINANTS viewing my profile lately...wonder whats up with that.

10/13/2010 5:15:02 PM

I wonder if people want a truely lasting relationship or do they just want hit and miss relationships. 

This age of instant gratification floors me.  I don't know maybe I am old fashioned in a sense, but I would really like to get to know someone before getting physically intimate with them.  I have never been a bed bunny and I don't ever intend to be. 

What happened to: "that, that is worth having is worth working for and waiting for"?  Some things are worth the wait

8/23/2010 11:08:18 AM
**UPDATE** Due to my recent and unfortunate accident and breaking my leg, My Vegas Vacation will have to be postponed until February of next year.  Not sure of the dates yet but I am sure Mid month will be the time.

I am planning on going to Vegas in Mid October, anyone going to be there?

3/22/2010 4:24:54 PM
Sometimes perfection comes with WONDERFUL FLAWS

3/22/2010 2:59:37 PM
Is there a way to send out a Mass Mailing here on CM?  It has become increasingly obvious to me that the subs on here send what seems to be a heartfelt and sincere letter to many people.  Once they get a bite, they have no idea who you are.  So again is there a way to send out a Mass Mail or is it all just copy and paste?

3/4/2010 5:06:41 AM
It's sad when you tell people the truth and the only one who believes you is you.  UNTIL they go out, put themselves in situations that are detrimental and get hurt one way or another.  It's even sadder when they come back to you after this experience humbled but damaged and want you to pick up the pieces.  Sorry, I'm not a garbage collector.  I know...Harsh

2/19/2010 2:06:14 PM
The permission to have semi to full nudity on collarme has created a flood of people with no sense of respect for others much less self respect.  If you feel it necessary to use a semi or full nude display on your main pic, please refrain from contacting me. 

1/31/2010 5:51:21 AM
I am planning a vacation to Vegas in early to mid April.  I would love to meet and socialize with anyone who lives there or is going to be there at that time.  Let me know 

Revision:  Trip has to be postponed.  I am hoping for sometime in September or October. 

12/31/2009 11:42:46 AM

Have a Happy and SAFE New Year

12/25/2009 3:20:05 AM

Merry Christmas


12/23/2009 7:46:39 AM
Do traditional sub males switch to get more play time? 

11/8/2009 12:00:32 PM
If you wrote this to me

"slave heart.. that is a beautiful concept. i hope i can fulfill that dream.."

Unblock me so I can respond

10/29/2009 7:33:59 PM
Why do people equate female genetalia with weak men?  I personally don't like my genetalia referred to in such a manner. 

Do you people really consider them the same things and if not, why do you use the same vulgar term to refer to both of them?

9/5/2009 7:48:23 AM

9 times out of 10 you only get 1 opportunity to make a first impression.  When you get that opportunity, don't blow it, make sure it is appropriate.  Sending pics of your penis, ass or other things that might be happening is not always appropriate for everyone.  Error on the side of caution.  Read the profile, look at the pics posted.  Take a clue about the appropriateness of pics from the person you are contacting.

8/20/2009 7:02:22 AM

I got a letter the other day from a man that told me he desires to "serve me to satisfaction with his penis" (not the word used)  I responded to him by saying, "at this point in the game, the only way he could satisfy me was with his brain and asked him if he had any.  His response was, "I have a brain and I don't generally talk dirty but that is what the majority of women on this site want to hear" and he apologized.  After reading his profile that began with how he wanted to use his Penis (again not the word used) to satisfy a DOMINANT, I was convinced that that is the way he chooses to represent himself and I told him I was not interested. 

The point I want to make here is when you are presenting yourself to someone, be who you are, not what you perceive someone wants you to be.  If you represent yourself in a false light, you end up in a bad situation and you run the risk of alienating the very person you are trying to impress

4/1/2009 8:10:47 AM
I won't be answering any mail for the next few days.  I have the flu and I feel awful.

4/1/2009 8:02:02 AM

To: Therepoman,  Honestly, I don't know who you are or why you feel the need to attack me.  If I have done something to you, kindly spell it out.

2/15/2009 6:46:56 AM
I have gotten some letters from a few gentlemen lately that just fall short.  I think they have the potential of being what I seek, yet they can't/don't/wont put it down in Initial communication.  The profiles are not what they could be either.  They either let their laundry lists speak for them, they say so little that there is little to nothing to find interest in, or they highlight everything about their sexual interests (then they repeat it)and downplay everything else about themselves.  I am not looking for a novel, but I am looking for something of interest.  Its not about what you look like, its about who you are as a person.  Anyway, just my thoughts.

1/22/2009 10:02:15 AM

Lately I have seen a slew of "angry" profiles from sub/slave males complaining about the financial DOMMES on here.

Understanding that a financial relationship is not what you are seeking, ignore them.  Literally click the ignore button and never see them again, prevent them from sending you e-mail or contacting you in any way on here.  That is your right.  However, a profile that is filled with complaints wont get you the viewers and true interest you are on this website to get.

Its real simple, catch those you seek with honey and bypass those that annoy you.

10/3/2008 8:06:20 AM
**DISCLAIMER*** Perhaps I am wrong but this is my take on things. ***DISCLAIMER***

If you are not seeking a PRO then for the most part, you have to offer more than playtime to be of interest to a DOMINANT. 

If you have a profile, then have a PROFILE.  A picture, stats and a laundry list generally don't suffice.  Otherwise you are going to get passed by with barely the blink of an eye. 

9/28/2008 6:28:24 AM
I read a LOT of profiles on here.  It seems there are many people who seem to have a real understanding of what a relationship is with the dynamics of that relationship being D/s.  However, there are so many more that claim to want a D/s relationship but don't indicate that they understand it requires more than playtime to make that type of relationship work.  Domination and submission is a mindset that allows you to be free to be who you are in the midst of those that share that mindset.  Its not a free pass to the kinky playground. 

9/18/2008 8:00:01 PM

It sickens me to have to say this, but if you feel the need to request a dessert with one of the ingredients being my fecal material, don't ask me...SHEESH.

6/10/2008 6:34:49 AM
About a month ago, someone I really felt drawn to told me an outrageous lie.  As time went on, he kept getting deeper and deeper into his lie until he could do nothing but admit he lied and tell the truth. 

This killed any possibility of him ever serving me.  He proved to be a colossual waste of time. 

If you feel you need to lie for whatever reason, then the best thing for you to do is step out of the situation and let it go.  Lies don't help anyone, all they do is hurt.

5/27/2008 7:47:47 AM

I find it to be a turn off when "slaves" will  advertise for an owner one day, the next pay written homage to someone they are "owned" by and the following day, advertise for an owner again.  The look of desperation is upon you, and its not attractive.  It is especially unattractive in the older "slaves" who should know that it takes more than an overnight cyber session (not necessarily implying anything sexual) to find out whether you truely clique with someone or not.

4/14/2008 9:35:09 AM
Yesterday I was told I take too long in getting to know a person online and that I am providing those that don't want to move offline a service.  So I have a question.  What is the appropriate time to take getting to know someone online?

3/11/2008 10:39:52 PM
I second the sentiments expressed by Hisownerforlife on her journal entry for today.  Midori was outstanding in her presentations.  Jay Wiseman was very informative in his.  If anyone has the opportunity to be audience to either or both of these people in a BDSM setting, don't walk, RUN to get a front seat and be there early so you don't miss anything.

1/15/2008 10:11:24 AM
We all have things in our lives that affect us in a multitude of ways.  Something that might affect me negatively, might affect you positively. 

One should never be ashamed of a negative reaction to something that they didn't realize they would have a negative reaction to.  We are after all human.  This way of life shows us and allows us a modified way of having experiences that lay a marker on our lives.  We should all look at these markers as learning trees or stepping stones to becoming our full selves.  Embrace them, face them and move forward. 

1/12/2008 11:15:11 PM
I and a Dominant friend of mine met with a slave this evening.  Although the evening didn't go as we had hoped, we were both pleased with the outcome. 

It became a very enlightening evening filled with many suprises. 

S.,  I just want you to know that although things didn't go as planned we were both happy that they turned out as they did.  We learned about about ourselves and about other potentials.  I hope the outcome doesn't turn you off of this way of life and that we get to see you again soon.

Ms Loren

1/8/2008 5:34:40 AM
About a month and a half ago I shaved my head to get my hair to grow back stronger and in better condition.  Since that time, I have been told many times how sexy a bald woman is.  I don't find it sexy at all.  I find it very cold most of the time.  What exactly is sexy about a bald woman?  If you wanna see, it is the last picture in my line up.  Let me know what you think.

9/16/2007 8:48:47 AM
If you are married and not part of a sub couple, PLEASE DO NOT WASTE MY TIME.  I am NOT interested.

9/1/2007 6:02:35 PM
Football season has started = High levels of Testosterone = even fewer male slaves

8/20/2007 6:46:20 PM
WOW, Black Beat was quite the experience.  Although not everything was perfect, I did enjoy myself overall. I met some very nice people, witnessed some interesting things and learned a few things.  I plan on attending again next August so I have to start socking back my pennies.  I hope to see some of you there.

7/28/2007 12:07:14 PM

I am going to be in the Baltimore area Aug 16 - Aug 19 for the BlackBeat Conference.  If anyone else is going, send me a message if nothing else perhaps we can wave at each other from across the room and make a kinda real time online friend.

6/23/2007 7:37:41 PM

A MUST READ for all submissives desiring to serve a DOMINANT WOMAN

Go to my Forum Entries and access:

"What can a sub have to offer a Dominant Woman"

Scroll up to the first entry, read and take heed.

6/23/2007 7:35:40 PM


5/3/2007 5:10:59 AM
I went to see Billy Joel Tuesday Night.  What an AMAZING concert.  That man is quite the performer/entertainer.  I turned into a teenager again, didn't want it to end.

4/7/2007 6:37:43 AM
Is anyone else going to Black Beat?  Hope to see you there.  dub u dub u dub u dot black beat inc dot org

3/6/2007 8:43:57 AM
I am still seeking my Alpha. 

2/26/2007 3:11:41 PM
I am NOT interested in ANYONE outside the US.

11/5/2006 11:11:49 PM
I am still in KC MO.  Today we(me, my sister, her boyfriend and their son) took a road trip to St Louis to see Baraka Obama speak on behalf of Clair McCaskill (she is running for the Senate).  I never did hear them speak.  They were an HOUR late, my Nephew and myself were freezing so we went back to the car to warm up.  My sister thoroughly enjoyed herself but her boyfriend told me through chatter teeth "I am only here because I love your sister you know."  I smiled and thought ain't love GRAND (and overrated)

11/1/2006 9:58:10 AM
I am in KC MO for 10 days.  Although I will be busy during the days during the week, perhaps we can meet in the evening or on the weekend.

10/24/2006 8:32:33 AM
Its a real shame I have to put this here but.  I don't allow the consumption of waste products.  This includes but is not limited to:

* Urine
* Fecal Material
* Vomit
* Menstrual Blood

For any of you that find these things appealing or have an affinity for them, please do not contact me.

9/20/2006 12:13:53 PM
The arrival of the newest member of my family.  My Nephew, Thomas Michael  7 lbs 12 ozs 20" long.  Haven't seen him yet, but I know he is BEAUTIFUL. Headed to KC MO this weekend.

9/16/2006 6:58:15 PM

I haven't posted a journal entry in a long time but I had to get this one out.

Did you know that 6 hours no I was wrong, make that 4 hours round trip is too far to travel to serve for the weekends?  Talk about finally getting informed.  I have been misguided all these years.

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