I will no longer respond to emails if you are not within my range of preferences. I  don't care how local you are.

I will automatically block you after a rude email.

Why are manners and etiquette so hard to come by on this site?

While I appreciate all of the emails I receive (from those that know it takes respect to get respect... yes, even in the lifestyle.) I feel the need to clarify what I'm looking for since so many people don't understand what the term friendship means (to me).

FRIENDSHIP... not f-buddy, not FWB, not random nor occassional hookups. If that's what I was looking for then those terms would be on my profile instead. I want someone I can get to know and hang out with platonically before even considering moving to a physical relationship. I know exactly where to go if I'm looking for a casual fling... this site isn't it.


Furthermore, if you insist on writing me please:

~ Be respectful (I used to politely reply if I am or am not interested. Now, if you do not hear beack from me then it's safe to assume that I am not interested in speaking with you. Please be mentally mature and move on. It saddens me when 60 year old men act 10 after being rejected. Also, if I told you I was not interested sometime in the past, please don't ask me every other month if I'm now interested in you. It's annoying so please stop before I feel the need to block you.)

~ Be local to me (If I'm interested in you  then I'd like to meet you in person to see where things lead. I probably won't drive more than 1 hour to get to you.)

~ Be between the ages of 26 & 36 (I'm not looking for another father. If you are older than 36 then we probably don't have that much in common and you might need to re-read my definition of FRIENDSHIP because I'm not offering what you're seeking.)

~ Also, if you insist on being considered for something more than friendship, please be aware that after meeting all of my previously listed preferences I will impose one more. I am not attracted to, nor do I have an interest in being with, anyone of my own race/ethnic group. I don't care if you consider this wrong, offensive,  unfair, etc.

These are my preferences... get over it!

So I'm back again, what more can I say? The vanilla world keeps me entertained about 75% of the time but still I need more. I want something local but it doesn't have to be serious!

Since my last entry I've reconnected with the one I was searching for. I'm not sure what that now means in terms of being on here but I will say that I'm still not seeking any type of romantic relationship from those on this site. Simply put, I already know where to go if/when I need it. However platonic friendship is always an option but dont be disappointed if it never gets further than that when you write me. I'm still wishing everyone out there the best of luck in 2007. =)

I can't believe I'm reactivating this profile after only a few months of leave. I guess I'm doing this because I hope the eyes of the one who still has my heart falls upon this entry to know that I still love him...

You know who you are...

So as you read this please know that
I miss you
I want you
and
I need you.

I'm disappointed by the quality of Doms I've met on this site. While I'm sure there are good ones out there (somewhere) I have yet to meet them despite the numerous emails I recieve daily from those local to me, as well as those out of state. I'm sick of talking to boys who feel the need to assert power from behind a computer screen or over the phone. Can't you get a clue?!? It's pathetic.

So I'm deactivating my profile by the end of the week in an attempt to regain my sanity and not completely give up on this which I cherish so much. Sometimes we need to take a step back in order to move ahead... or something like that. I should still be on Y! but if I dont see you there then take care, I wish you better luck.

I need a distraction!

You cant lose what you never had, but it sucks when you feel you did.

It really is sad when my block button gets more action than my favorites. Please read my profile and journal entries before writing me to limit the number of dumb questions asked. It's not that I'm unfriendly but stupidity irritates me.

Do you know what I want?

I want to be shocked. I want to wake up one morning and find a reply waiting for me in my message center. Not just any reply but a special one. A profound reply from someone with unbelievably deep thoughts and feelings about what this lifestyle means to them. A reply very much unlike the spiel that everyone else sends. This well crafted reply contains no arrogance or double meanings, but would need to be read at least twice to take in its full meaning.

The person who wrote this might have 20 years experience or they might not. What mattered is that everything they wrote about came from a sincere place. I know this place would be sincere because it focuses on what I'm looking for...  and not their own agenda.

Reading this message would make me giddy and remind me of a time I've experienced only once before... when I was just starting out. When I believed that Doms really did things to promote trust, honesty, and loyalty. When that first speech about going at *MY* pace and making sure *I* was comfortable and ready wasn't so scripted. It would take me way back, to that time where my body trembled nervously at the touch of my first Master and the eagerness I felt to properly please him radiated within my heart and shone from my eyes .

This is a lot to hope for but this is what I want. I dont feel it is impossible, but i do wonder if it'll ever happen again...

All I'm asking is if the men on this site can please READ my profile BEFORE writing me. If you are not within a reasonable driving distance then YOU ARE NOT WHAT I'M ASKING FOR !

It's frustrating that i need to say this twice or more because others dont feel like listening.