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Imaginative, artistic, intelligent, fit, slim, kind, kinky, thoughtful, vegetarian, music-centred Virgo. Moon in Taurus, Scorpio rising (I am curious about all of that, it resonates too often to be random). I love words and difference, light and shade: edges, the ordinary and the extraordinary, unusual combinations, twilight, the point where opposites meld and intrigue. Crossing boundaries, literal or metaphorical, dominance to submission, pleasure to pain, intensity to ecstasy. Journeys both in the world and in the mind. Finding the magical.
I used to think I was dom but less and less confident that is so. I use the word switch now, not many in the real world are wholly dominant or submissive, but though my fantasies tend to the dominant, in practice I find my kinaesthetic self needs to feel the experience as the recipient for it to resonate ... But I am still learning, not travelled very far yet, though unleashed enough words about it!
I seek friendship in both directions, more if it happens. I have a lot to learn, but a lot to give.
I exist on alt and a few other sites. In the last year I finally stopped being the pure wannabe that so many on here are and began to make things real! I learned a lot too, thanks to people from a community site called Informed Consent, and the group of friendly souls who munch and club in Cheshire and Manchester.
I still search, seeking new experiences and friendships, more if feelings beyond it blaze like wonder, in both directions. I am separated, after a long vanilla relationship which never worked as more than friendship, we are friends still. No children, perhaps a good thing given that gulf of understanding.
What am I into? Definitely nothing destructive, unsafe or non consensual. Hedonism can be delicious and I am a latecomer to it, but it has to be allied to the mind ... and BDSM as my good friend explained to me is an eternal dance, either as dom or sub.
I am uncomfortable with the 'kneel bitch!' kind of Dominant persona, which you see a lot of on the net and sometimes in real life. Dominance for me is about empathy through control, not vulgar abuse or titanic egos. Discipline and submission too are about growth, not reduction. I like the concept of submission as a gift ...
I am not a chameleon. I do not just adopt a persona to fit, with some submissive people I find a fellow feeling, yet with others, a very few, I feel domly and directive. I can submit, to the right person, I can be good at it, and I want more of that. I want to open my eyes further to the sparkling, the delicious and the strange.
Away from DS, I like art, indie and dance music, the Celtic, astrology, vegetarian food ... festivals, travel. Making pictures both in the camera and with words. I hope to find friends on this site, as on others ...
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