Looking for realistic LTR, commitment, monogamy. A D/s relationship that entails mutual respect, trust (in time for both), between two mature adults who are not trying to live out some archaic fantasy. I am intelligent, very loving, monogomous. I have my "stuff", but live a spiritual life, no religion please. I also have a past and deal with it. I am not a child, I am a grown woman who knows her strengths as well as her weaknesses. I have a brain, opinions, values and ethics...I am not looking to be "overhauled emotionally". However, I like a loving, guiding hand in my life, strong but not cruel. Fair, but not enabling. I know a real Master when I meet one, and I have only met one in seven years. He never had to "make" me do anything. But we are better friends. Looking for the same qualities, not a replacement. So, if you got this far and are not intimidated by a sub with a brain, please respond. Oh, and btw, my first tried to "break" me emotionally. It wont happen again. I want love, emotional security and a Master I can crawl to with abandon. I wont settle for less. Also, I listed being bi-this does not mean I will do a dog and pony show. My relationships with women where romantic and havent been there in 7 years. I like women..but not for just sexual reasons.