12/13/2010 12:08:14 PM: A couple of things I've realized:Ultimately, I'm looking for a Girlfriend.� That means someone with whom I'm friends first, submissive second, and possibly spend-the-rest-of-our-lives-together third.� And yes, that means vanilla life too.� I simply do not understand people who let the roles you see here drive their entire lives. �I just don't.� For that matter, I equally don't understand people who want to keep this all on the hush-and-hush.� Split their selves down the�middle,�keep a lid on everything, and refuse to parse out this part of�themselves as an integrated facet of�life. �No overlap. � �Nothing. �Seriously: �If this is your sexuality, why is it not your romance too? � Which is not to say that I want a '24/7 TPE' relationship- not exactly.� Actually, if you just take out the 'TPE' part of that, you'll be halfway to what I'm talking about. �TPE is basically scening all the time, from the way most people describe it. �And who can even remotely pull that off? �But if you are reading this, and you're in a TPE relationship and it *does* work, write me! �It would be awesome to know more about this. �Anyway, my point: to me, 'boyfriend' and 'slave' are the same thing. �Conversely, 'girlfriend' and 'mistress' or 'owner' are also synonymous. �That's just how my sexuality, my emotions, and my identity work. �And I can't have one without the other. �I'm either your boyfriend �*and* your slave, or I'm neither. �But we can still be friends :) � That's not to say I will only do things with people who want the same.� Far from it, I'm down with lots of different roles/styles of play.� It's just neccessary for people to be as� honest as possible about what they want.� For example, I'd be fine with being someone's play partner, sub, secondary, provided that they tell me that this is what they want- and accept a balanced relationship (I can have other play partners, I'm not expected to treat the other person as a primary if I'm a secondary, etc).Anyway, on to the juicy stuff:� What's my deal?� My main fetish?� Hypnosis.� The you-are-in-my-power, reprogrammed-into-subservience kind.� That can go all sorts of places (who do you want me to be, anyway?) but ultimately it's like this:� Bondage is interesting because it's pushing the limits of trusting someone.� You're trusting them with your body, your well-being, and the intimacy of letting them into your deeper fantasy-world.� Same deal with hypnosis, only you're�not just trusting the other person with your body.� You're trusting them with your mind.Anyhow, I'm also a big history/sci-fi/paranormal geek.� I like long coffee-fueled conversations, and almost all types of social interaction.� If you're intelligent and kind, we will probably get along.� And yes- I said kind. �If you can't tell the difference between dominance and abuse, then we will most certainly not get along. � And am I being 'uppity' and 'outrageously arrogant' by daring to demand a healthy relationship from my BDSM partners? �You know what, maybe I am. �Lord knows femdoms have a numbers game to their advantage. �But I've had multiple D/s relationships by this point that *were* Safe, Sane, and Consensual.�

9/30/2008 10:18:34 AM: This site seems to be filled with three kinds of people- 1)  Internet time wasters. 2)  Absolutely insane over-the-top Doms/Dommes who want you to devote your entire life to them after two emails. 3) Awesome people whom I've either already met in real life or are too damn far away. Grr.