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SubStantive

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A little about me: I'm a professional. I work a white collar job with a fair amount of responsibility, so I've elected to keep face pictures off of this website, but I'm happy to send them to pretty much anyone on request (don't worry; I don't have any crazy scars, lazy eyes, or hair lip...). I'm more than a little bit of a nerd. I play video games, I watch Netflix, and I am learning Japanese. I also enjoy machines of all kinds and I know my way around a car better than 99% of people. I actually worked as a mechanic for several years and I've been known to build sex toys if I can justify their repeated use (which lately has been like once every year, so I don't build many these days...). I remember having submissive fantasies back when I was about 5, but I didn't have my first real experience until I was 20. Unfortunately, I've had a very difficult time bonding with any Dommes and my real world experience is fairly limited. I'm generally pretty uncomfortable in large crowds and my past experiences at play parties and munches have been pretty negative, so I tend to avoid them. I'm probably revealing too much, but maybe vulnerability is endearing? What I'm looking for: I'm looking for a smart, confident woman whose strength is perceptible from a distance. She doesn't fight for control, but owns it silently. I'm hoping to find someone who I can also be friends with and really build a connection. BDSM doesn't work in one-night stands and I'd never want it to. Ideally, I'm looking for someone with at least a handful of overlapping interests, but who is different enough that she can push my boundaries and convince me to explore things I wouldn't normally do. I don't have a ton of free time, but it'd be nice to meet up at least once a month or so. Also, I'd like to find someone who enjoys chatting about whatever random things come to mind. I'm always a fan of subjects like philosophy, current events, and science. I try to keep up with the news fairly regularly, so there's always something to talk about! Final thoughts: It's important to mention that I am married with a young child. We are poly (and have been for quite some time) and she knows that I'm looking for a Domme and has no concerns with it. We're not looking for a unicorn. If you're ever interested in meeting or talking to her about this, I'd be happy to pass along her info!