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UPDATED Feb. 2019.
Well, I never thought it would happen to me but it did. I am in a relationships, and he is kinky to boot. We met the old fashioned way (introduced by friends, no internet involved) and things are moving along nicely.
So, as they say, for now I am shutting this down and not responding to inquiries here. But I do have some parting advice
Ladies Be crystal clear in your profile what you are looking for (see mine below). Even with my explicit instructions I suffered all manner of fools asking me to be their slave, move to their island, etc. You will get what you ask for in life.
Men For the love of all that is holy, read a womans profile first. Dont make her an offer she clearly doesnt want. And write more than a sentence. I know there are a lot of ladies on here and you have limited time. Be smart about it. Compose 2-3 different intro paragraphs for different situations that you can cut and paste as needed. 95 of the messages I receive are one sentence. Deploy a couple well-thought out paragraphs and you automatically stand out. The fact that you dont send me more than a few words tells me you are too stupid to manage your time and search in an efficient manner, which tells me the chance of you leading me in a satisfying dominating sexual exploit are near zero (oh, you forgot your flogger and condoms? true story). You tell me you are an IT professional and you cant create a master word document or spreadsheet with your best come-on paragraphs?
And Couples Have the woman do the searching for a third. If the woman is not searching, 99 of the time the man is looking and hoping to talk his wife into it. Men, any woman that doesnt want to the search for your third herself or jointly isnt into it and she is humoring you - as in sure, you find a woman to join us. Any woman worth having here or on other sites isnt gonna respond to that nonsense.
Good luck to all.
OLD PROFILE BELOW
I am newer to the area but not to the scene. I am a sub seeking a Dominant man, a woman (Dom or sub), or a couple. I dont set limits other than the obvious (no kids, scat or blood, and safe sex). I find that each coupling defines its own boundaries. There are people I sub with where I feel so safe and so inhabit my subspace, that I will let them take me to the edge - harder, tighter, pain. There are others I enjoy my time with, but I am less comfortable allowing it to go that far.
I will be honest. I dont want to be anyones girlfriend or Poly this or Poly that. I like sex, I like the connection that comes from sex, and I always have plenty of options. So I may play with you once, I may play with you several times, but its play and nothing more. I am looking for a partner I can trust to use me in a way that I am totally free to explore every feeling and sensation, no matter what it is. I like pleasing others, so if what you want is for me to mainly please you, I can do that - but were probably not going to see each other again.
What does it take to grab my attention?
a) You must be employed in a real, 40 hr a week job or retired. Extra credit for active duty or retired military. I dont need your money, but I cant let a man use me who cant hold down a job.
b) You must be at least 6 ft tall. Sorry, but I like taller men.
c) I like facial hair, I like clean shaven, I like bald men and I like long hair. But be CLEAN, shower and wash your hair and body (trust me women know if youre not fresh before we take off anything). Ditto with brushing teeth, having a clean mouth and smile.
d) Im an attractive lady, and I expect my man to know how to dress like a grown up. T-shirts and shorts will get you nowhere. Its fun to unbuckle a belt, unzip pants, and find your way inside. Pulling down elastic gym shorts? Not so much.
e) You must be able to carry on a conversation. Unlike our current President, you must be able to think, talk and write in complete sentences. Which brings me to...
f) If you happen to be a supporter of Trump, you can move along. I find respect for all people of all races and religions very sexy. I find racism and paranoia not.
g) Here is how this will go - I will message you on here a couple times, to see if we have a connection then, we will get on Kik and set up a time and place to meet in public. I live North of I-70 in KC KS. I will travel to you if we are seeing each other to start you WILL travel to me.
h) Married men. I am OK with married men. But I am an ethical slut, meaning I need some sort of verification that you are in an open relationship (really) and not trying to get away with something. Cheating doesnt offend me and I wont think less of you - its none of my business really - and monogamy is an unnatural state, but I respect other women.
i) Couples. I love being with couples. I am a true unicorn and being that rare I can be selective. I will only initiate an encounter if the wifewoman is leading the online search. If you are a man searching for the couple have your wife contact me. All of my successful couple encounters have been with the woman taking the lead in the search.
You got that? I know what I need to make me happy. Message me if you are interested. If I dont reply, I am probably not, so you better make your first message to me good.
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