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I am a sadist through and through - that said, I love to push, be pushed, and fight to be on top from time to time.
I seek intensity in all I do, and have found a great deal of it. I have found this fix in many varied settings over the years - wrestling(high school), academia (to those who think this holds no intensity, you're doing it wrong), music, skydiving (for the last year or so) and - of course - kink. I aspire to learn always, and will doubt I will ever be at a point where I think another human being has nothing to offer me intellectually or physically.
In kink I seek that same intensity. I enjoy helping submissives find their edge - from light bondage through intense objectification, degradation and pain. That said, I have played S&M "light" enough times, and I now solely seek more extraordinary experiences.
What I Seek
I am looking for extraordinary connections. I hesitate to enumerate specifics as I don't believe the most interesting interactions can ever be predicted - life is far too fractal to predict. That said, I'll mention certain larger patterns to give an idea of the range I am interested in.
-Intelligence, surrendered
In day to day life I am accepting of anyone, but in partners I look for a high degree of intellect. I love the dynamic that is created with another creative and driven person, and the places it can push a relationship. With regards to D/s, though, I love the relinquishing of that intellect to my will. Knowing that I have bent the desire of a strong and capable woman to my own is much hotter for me than one who bends their will more readily.
-Objectification
Tying very strongly into the above, I love objectification in its many forms - from suggestive bubble-brained clothing at a bar or a club through full latex body suits worn for a day at a time. There is a level of mental control implicit here that I love above the physical - shaping a sub to be the exact avatar of my desire in a given session is very enticing.
-Intense Bondage
Not a whole lot to say here - I love rope and knots, I have more than enough experience to play, but love the idea of working with a partner to explore the more artistic sides that are available (not to mention the extremely painful ones...).
-Pain, with trust
Though I am very much a sadist, it gives me no joy to give pain without the explicit knowledge that the sub receiving it is in a mental state ready and willing to receive it. In other words - if I am going to enjoy brining a sub to tears while exploring their limits, I want to know that they will enjoy that process in and of itself after the fact. This takes time and trust. I am looking for those that I can build that trust with, with whom I can have the privilege of bringing to their own edges - to look over the precipice that few consider approaching.
-Normalcy
I am also seeking kinksters that I can have a regular evening out with - I loath to apply any one label to myself, and I am not here to remove myself from current social circles or activities. That said - I have nothing against a normal night at the bar with friends where you just happen to have a plug up your ass the whole time :)
That is a tasting - there is always more. I hope to be somewhat active on the message boards, feel free to browse there for more on what I think.
One last aside - I have started picking up photography again recently (like any good San Franciscan 20 something), and I am looking to get better at taking pictures of other people (kinky or not). If you are willing to be the guinea pig of an amateur photographer and his d7000, definitely shoot me a line.
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