xianxi

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Relatively new to MS and still in a bit of culture shock. Both parties are switches but lean to dom(me). We are a stable relationship with child and dog. Not interested in drama. Being discreet is a necessity. Our sexual preferences and behaviors do not extend beyond the house. Public life and appearance very important to maintain "acceptable" persona given the culture. The thing that always gets us with these sites are the labels that people place upon themselves. People are so caught up in the I must be a fill in the blank that it must dominate all aspects of my life. God forbid that I enjoy for a moment to not fit into those classifications. We are both labeled as switches for that reason. We are not looking for a mindless slave. We want someone who has a mind not a thing that is a step above an inanimate object. Someone who enjoys being the BDSM scene great! but she needs to think outside of those terms. When she leaves the house and needs a collar then the loss of self becomes to great and not what we are interested in having. Behind close doors are fun and games can commence but when walking down the street they need to be able to exist upon their own terms.