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| ***Note: I do generally know what I want. If I say that something is not for me in our inbox messages, don't ask again. It's annoying. I'm not here to rush into something with someone. I will not be owned by someone before I've met them. No, you will not be getting naked pictures from me. You're not my Dominant, and you will not be getting anything of the like from me until I've at very least gotten to know you to a point where I am comfortable. Being an unowned submissive means that I'm still responsible for myself and my own safety, etc. Don't expect me to give that up easily.***
After spending time on a few other sites, I figured I'd try this one out and see how it works out for me.
I previously identified myself solely as a Switch. While I presently believe this to be my orientation, I have yet to truly explore my Dominant side either. I have a slight feeling that I lie moreso as a very Alpha submissive. I also have a rather strong little side (and a slightly bratty one, to be honest).
I believe a Master/Dom should ensure that their submissive/slave is well taken care of in all aspects; Mentally, emotionally, sexually and physically. To relinquish control leaves those aspects of one's well being to their Dominant, and I would expect them to be effectively taken care of, as for me to do it would be stepping out of my place as a submissive or a slave.
Next, I would expect that if I were to step out of line, that He would put me right back in my place. But I would also expect that He is understanding, fair, and capable of allowing some playfulness from His submissive or slave. Yes, I can be a smart ass. Yes, I know when to refrain. I am not going to change my personality to suit a Dominant. Yes, I will change my behaviour. But do not attempt to make me change my personality. To change the personality of your submissive is pointless, because it's her personality that should have drawn you in in the first place. Her personality is something I believe a good Dominant will help to make flourish in the right situation. Besides, a little smartassedness can make things a little fun. Especially if the Dominant likes to punish, or the submissive likes to be punished ;P
I would also expect that if my Dominant expected me to trust Him, which as my Dominant I would have to trust Him, I would expect Him to earn it. Just because You are a Dominant does not by any means mean that You deserve to have trust to just be handed to You. Being Dominant does not mean you're entitled. A submissive/slave serve you because they -want- to. They have a choice to leave if need be. They -choose- to serve You for whatever reason they may have. They may want to show You love and devotion. It may be an altruistic effort and may be using it as a way of fulfilling their needs as well as Yours. Whatever the case may be, they choose to serve You. They care for You. Reciprocate it and show you care for them. As a Dominant, it will be in different ways than that of the submissive/slave who serves You, but still reciprocate it.
A good Dominant will not force His submissive/slave to do anything that could hurt her in any way. That includes mentally, emotionally, physically and even sexually. As to do so would break that trust that is so desperately needed to maintain a healthy Dominant and submissive relationship. A good Dominant does not seek to damage His submissive/slaves dignity nor self respect, but rather helps her keep it.
In return, a submissive should put all her trust into her Dominant (Once he's earned it of course) and vice versa. She should have faith in the fact that He cares about her and will not let harm come to her as a result of anything He has control over. She should seek to please him to the best of her ability and within the very little control she does have. She should not break his trust, be honest with him at all times; Even if her response might displease Him. She should make sure His Dominant desires are well sated, just as He would ensure her submissive ones are.
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I have several hobbies. I am in love with music and movies. I love the Beatles (If you couldn't tell just by the username), April Wine, The Eagles, Santana and old school G'n'R (Meaning, before Axle Rose completely butchered the band and Slash was still a part of it.) I play guitar, and electric bass. I like to dance. I love sports - Yes, like any proper Canadian, I'm slightly hockey obsessed. My favourite teams are the Ottawa Senators and Pittsburgh Penguins. No, I don't fancy Sidney Crosby. He is not the motive to my enjoyment of the Pens. I don't base my love for a team off the dashing good looks of a player - Especially a big crybaby. :P ***Disclaimer: I'm not denying he's a good player, but he's no Rocket. ;P*** As far as provincial hockey teams go, my favourite is the Sudbury Wolves.
If you like what you read and see, please feel free to shoot me a message :)
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