I am a 44 year old female, and I have been interested and participated in the lifestyle for a number of years on a limited, as desired basis. I am a busy, college educated, working professional that enjoys playtime when I find some spare time.

I am not interested in phone or cyber sex and I will not travel to you. If the connection is there and you are willing to travel, I'm open to that.

I am laid back, but I also know what I want. I don't have time for drama and will not have any part of it. I am married and if I choose for my husband to be involved, he will be, he is neither Dominant nor submissive, just non-judgmental and goes with the flow.

I am not interested in receiving one-liner emails and will not respond. If you have something to say, say it. However, say it with respect, I don't want to hear or read your filth. If I find that I am interested, I will respond. I am sweet and kind, but strict and demanding. I do not smoke and will not be involved with anyone that smokes around me or smells like an ashtray.

As far as my submissive side, I am not interested in participating with a switch. I can't separate the two personalites. I am Dominant and always in control in my work life, personal life and playtime. However, if the right person, with the right attitude came along, I would consider an occasional time to give up that control completely, depending on our schedules. My husband would know about this, but would not be involved.

For me to be involved with anyone, regardless on a Dominant or a submissive basis, that person would be a career based individual, dd free, clean and well groomed. If I couldn't be seen at a nice wine bar with you, I am not interested. I don't mean to sound snobby, but....life is too short not to have what I want.

Discretion is assured and expected in return.