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cyrano2u
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| For those that are searching; good luck on your journey. Please hear the words below and let your soul and heart guide you on your search. To share a complete bonding is something wonderful and miraculous to find.
Two souls pass, barely touching,
Lingering for but a moment
Neither able to cross that invisible barrier
That will forever keep them apart.
~by me 2002~
STATUS: OWNED by cyrano2u. Seek permission before contacting me. Thank you.
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More entries from my Master's journal. The link is hard on submissives too, but it is a wonderful thing when it works. :)
3/19/2014 7:59:09 AM [Report Entry
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hmmm, There is a phenomena I call it the link. When you are connected to someone so deeply you have constant moments of simultaneity. You find yourself thinking the same thoughts from different perspectives. calling at the same time. Meeting each others needs at a subconscious level. Feeling a deep level of empathy and connectedness... Yeah, the link is tough for Doms.
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4/9/2014 5:14:48 PM [Report Entry
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More Relationship Crash and burn due to lack of communication rather than lack of passion or desire. Especially in a BDSM or Ds dynamic the need to communicate transparently, honestly and completely applies as we run at a much higher emotional tempo. The highs are euphoric and the low are crushingly depressive. Regardless if we are master or slave the human communication modalities still apply. Remember the idiom “we can’t hear what you are saying because of how you are saying it”For MenWhen you are listeningDon't just wait for the other person to shut up, as you think about what you are going to be saying next. Actively listen, eye contact, ask follow up questions, show you are engaged, show you care.Your response should take into consideration how the other person (who might be much more emotionally invested), want you to respond.Crushing her spirit crushes the heart that brings you joy and pleasure.When you are speaking:DO NOT GIVE ADVICE UNTIL ASKED.Communicate that you understand your slave's concerns.Emotion are not bad, they don't make a man weak, identify the emotions you are feeling and express them, I did not say act on them, but talk about them. tough for men but much needed.
For WomenWhen you are listening:Don't get even more upset if your master seems short and to the point, especially in email or text. Could just be our style of communicating always assume the best interpretation of facts. Its called trust, if you can't trust him, why are you with him. Draw him out, encourage him to share his feeling with emphatic guesses such as, 'I imagine you were frustrated when you thought....' STAY CALM SO YOUR MASTER FEELS ITS SAFE TO SHARE EMOTIONS. We will not share our feelings again if it produced more crying, to us 'its making things worse'When you are speaking:Difficult as this might be for women, when speaking to your master PARE down your story to essential details, and turn the emotional intensity down. Use bullet points if it helps you focus. But we view strong emotions as the first thing to solve, we are more trying to fix the tears and calm you down and essential points are lost in the process.Ladies, Ladies, tell us what you need, we cannot read your mind. We always default to advice and problem solve. So let us know if you just want us to listen. one could say 'More than advice and correction now, I need you to just listen'
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It's been a while since I have been visible or written in the Journal. It has been a time filled with learning and finding self in the wise, but firm hand of my Owner. Below is a journal entry that moved my heart and speaks of the man my Master is.
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3/15/2014 12:39:21 AM [Report Entry
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To understand a woman’s heart.... When she stares at your mouth [ Kiss her ] When she's quiet [ Ask her whats wrong ] When she ignores you [ Give her your attention ] When she pulls away [ Pull her back ] When you see her at her worst [ Tell her she's beautiful ] When you see her start crying [Just hold her and don't say a word ] When you see her walking [ Sneak up and hug her waist from behind ] When she's scared [ Protect her ] When she steals your favorite hat [ Let her keep it and sleep with it for a night ] When she teases you [ Tease her back and make her laugh ] When she doesn't answer for a long time [ reassure her that everything is okay ] When she looks at you with doubt [ Back yourself up ] When she says that she likes you [she really does more than you can understand] When she grabs at your hands [ Hold her's and play with her fingers ] When she bumps into you; [ bump into her back and make her laugh ] When she tells you a secret [ keep it safe and untold ] When she looks at you in your eyes [ don't look away until she does ] When she says it's over [ she still wants you to be hers ] When she re-posts this bulletin [ she wants you to read it ] - Stay on the phone with her even if she's not saying anything - When she's mad hug her tight and don't let go - When she says she's ok don't believe it, talk with her because 10 yrs later she'll remember you - Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her -Treat her like she's all that matters to you. - Stay up all night with her when she's sick. - Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think it's stupid - Give her the world. - Let her wear your clothes -When she's bored and sad, hang out with her - Let her know she's important. - Don't talk about other girls around her - Kiss her in the pouring rain
- When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is; 'Whose ass am I kicking baby
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In an earlier journal I wrote about someone that comes along and surprises you, and I had been hoping that someday I would be a rare surprise for someone, but I didn't expect someone to be a rare surprise for me. Thank you. I am grateful a Master worth having has come into my life. It is my greatest pleasure to serve you as your devoted and loyal slave. :) |
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To everyone that currently lives in hell...
...get out before your tires stick to the pavement and you're stuck here for the duration of summer. For those that are a slave to misery; then welcome and have fun.  |
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Today is memorial day and often is overshadowed by the time at the BBQ grill with friends and family. While it is good to remember those still with us; take some time to remember those that have passed or been left behind. Each and every loss is a mournful one for humanity. |
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Every once in a while someone in life comes around that surprises you. It's that moment you think you have them pegged and before you know it; you didn't, and it was a pleasant surprise to find that what you have been searching for was right there knocking on your door. ~figuratively speaking~ Perhaps someday, I can be that rare surprise for someone. :) |
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After having been recently introduced to Robert Bly; I was doing some research about him today and found it interesting that he writes about the "soft male" and the down fall of a society, because the bulk of society is made up of half humans. The half humans are the "soft males" or rather men who are not growing to adulthood, because of a lack of fatherly guidance while growing up. No one is there to show men how to behave like men except the mothers that raise them.
The most interesting part to me is that it seems that the males who want to be men come to sites like this one where the balance of Male/female relationships can be somewhat restored. Although, the bulk of society would frown upon the choices made here. A woman is frowned upon for wanting to be submissive to a true Dominant male. For some reason this is thought of as being a weak minded female. It appears that she can not be kick ass (like movies are portraying women as) and submissive to her Male counterpart at the same time. I wonder what kind of movie it would be to make her both. :)
To me it takes courage and strength to be a true submissive. While woman at their core desire to be dominated and protected; it is difficult to turn complete control over to a Male or anyone for that matter. Being in control has it's allure that many woman in society desire, at least, for a time. Many woman ignore the desire to be controlled perhaps because it takes a strong woman to turn over 100% complete control to the Dominant she trusts with everything she is. |
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| Age: 27 |
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