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| "Submission is not about what the dominant partner does TO the submissive partner. It's about what the submissive does FOR the dominant."
I am looking for a real time relationship and see the internet simple as a way of connecting with someone that I would otherwise not meet. I have zero interest in participating in any online communications/chatting or developing online friendships. I am not an unfriendly person but just very clear on what I am looking for. If you are looking for someone to share or exchange experiences with I am not your person.
The best way to get my attention is to send me a friendly, articulate and compelling email telling me about yourself –what about your life you feel passionate about, what you do for a living and what about it you enjoy, what you think we have in common and why we might be a potential fit. I am not looking for a casual play partner and am as a result more interested to learn about you as a person.
The fact that you are dominant is not in the least compelling in and of itself.
A relationship does not happen online but in person. As a result I want to be able to spend a lot of time together.
Now you know - lets' move on to the fun stuff!
I want to fall madly and passionately in love with a thoughtful, articulate, and passionate woman who can be my cherished dominant, lover and life partner, all wrapped up in to one. Someone who just like me has reached a point where the desire to meet someone to share everyday life with is the predominant need and who regards D/s and SM as tools to create an intensely intimate connection - not as a way of hiding behind a mask or a role. D/s is not something I do but rather something I am. All my long term relationships including my previous marriage had a significant dimension of power exchange and service at their core.
I am seeking someone who is emotionally and otherwise available to develop a committed monogamous relationship and who is NOT looking to just casually date or play.
I am a one-woman-man - If you are at a stage where you want to just casually date or "play the field" rather than focus on getting to know one person at a time, I kindly ask that you pass me by.
For me this is about an emotional and intellectual orientation - if you do not have a history of relationships where you put your partner in the center regardless of it being kinky or not, I doubt that we will find that there is a fit between us on the relationship level.
To me and my partner, this is not about bedroom kink but rather who we are and how we prefer to relate to each other 24/7. As we walk down the street holding hands we will to most look like a vanilla couple but we both know that underneath our clothes ……..
I am a 49 year old professional man with a quick wit, keen intellect and a sometimes razor sharp mind. I like to think that I am playful, a dependable friend, a good listener, and that I have a great sense of humor and am fun to be around. .
I have a strong intellectual curiosity and drive to understand myself and people around me; to that end I can be very tenacious and if you are not yourself committed to self-introspection and emotional growth then you might find me a tad overwhelming. I really want to get to know you as a person, your thoughts, your fears, your dreams and passions. I have little patience for superficial small talk and tend to steer conversations to topics of substance - some find that a tad intense while others find it refreshing. What your kinks are will only matter to me once we have determined that we are compatible as a couple.
By choice I do not drink alcohol but don't mind a bit if my partner does as long as it is in moderation. Any type of recreational drugs, however, is a deal breaker as I would love for my partner to also be committed to being fully present.
I make sure that I sweat daily.
I have like most people my age some baggage in the relationship department. For me that shows up as being highly attuned to discrepancies in words and actions. So unless you have a strong sense of integrity and as a default say what you mean and do what you say then we will not be a good fit. My BS meter is turned up quite high and the quickest way of killing any spark that you might have ignited in me is to have your words and actions not being consistent.
At this point in life I fully expect that the person I meet has some baggage (as do I). I find people who have just sailed through life without some setbacks to be less interesting than those who have not.
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