Messages I get from people claiming to be worthless and humble aren't appealing at all.  My hubby is strong, self assured and confident in himself and still knows his place.  If he were the opposite, what would be left to take?  Seems pointless to ask to be broken if you've already done half the work yourself.

Rituals

I'm quite an organised person, I like things to be just so and I believe that in a sense, a slave is like a child, or a baby, in that he benefits from authority most when it is consistent, structured and ordered.  That's not to say there's no room at all for improvisation.  For example, if hubby ever asks to be let out of the device, I simply cancel his next tease, or hygiene session.  

This benefits us both:  He knows exactly what he stands to lose by doing so and I don't have to spend time dreaming up a new and imaginative punishments.  In the days when we first began experimenting with chastity, it was no big deal to wait another week or two for release.  These days, with a month between tease times, there's a great deal more at stake.  

I find this punishment, and often merely the threat thereof, very effective deterrent against a multitude of sins.  (I can't remember the last time he bugged me for release.)

During our journey into chastity I've established a number of rituals that provide structure, order and consistency, and can be used as a tool for behaviour modification if necessary.

As much as I enjoy hubby's attention and devotion I'm also partial to my own space, particularly first thing in the morning and late at night.  (I don't need much sleep and am something of a night creature.)  Unless I decide otherwise, hubby adheres to a strict 11pm bedtime.  These days, I no longer have to remind him and will usually get a peck on the cheek, (or the feet) before he takes himself upstairs to the guest room, though occasionally I do have to remind him.

Once upstairs, hubby fastens his ankles to the bedposts, puts on a canvass straight jacket and waits until I'm ready to come upstairs and fasten his arms across his chest to two eyelets in the bed frame.  Then I spend a few minutes talking about his behaviour throughout the day, letting him know what I am pleased and displeased with.  if his behaviour has been good, I'll allow him to kiss and suck my breasts for a few minutes as a reward (it's amazing what pleasure a man can take from such a simple act when in the depths of such a deep sexual hunger) before finally drawing the covers tight around him and turning out the lights.  

Sweet dreams x 

FAQs (Take Two)

The Belt in the Picture

From BoingBoing:   The rare 19th century item is made of copper and was designed to be worn by boys so they could not commit the 'sin'. Attached to a belt it would have encased the genitalia. The bizarre antique dates back to around 1880 and was used in Catholic France. It is being offered for sale on auction website eBay with a starting price of £750.

Seller David Burns, of Curious Science, says that during a quarter of a century dealing in medical curiosities he has never had one for sale... "This is the first example we have offered for sale in 24 years. The condition is excellent. Three and half inches top to base."

Do I Cuckold My Husband?

The answer is yes!  Chastity was hubby's idea and while I enjoy it immensely, I see no reason why it should mean I am denied sexual pleasure.  I currently have two lovers, one is what I suppose what you'd call a traditional 'bull', who fulfils my vanilla needs and the other is a sissy-type who is kept chaste when not in my presence.

Do I Offer a Keyholding Service/Can You be My Slave?

Unfortunately I have neither the time nor resources to take on any new slaves or chastity boys.  One is quite enough, thanks!

What Type of Belt is Hubby Locked in?

Hubby has been locked in a neosteel since I presented it to him at Christmas.  I chose this after he had a nocturnal emission, (all over my back!) whilst locked in the CB-6000.  I think the CB range is a great starter device, but ultimately doesn't provide the level of security I require.  There have been no messy little accidents since then, but hubby only allowed to sleeps in my bed as a treat (usually after a cuckold session.)

When Was Hubby Last Allowed to Orgasm?

Christmas day, 2012 - on the same day I presented him with with the new belt.  One of the problems with a full belt is that they must be removed regularly for cleaning, but on these occasions he is not allowed to orgasm.  On average, he cums once every two or three months, though I am beginning to ruin those with greater frequency.

Hope this answers your questions!

I've written two long journal entries and neither have been published!  Suppose I'll have to start again.  Not impressed with this site so far!