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Who I am, what I am not and what I want…
Firstly, I do not label myself as a ‘Dom’ -- I don’t own any latex outfits or other fancy dress – unless you count a tuxedo… However, I am seeking a submissive woman with which to develop an ongoing relationship and I do certainly get something from the dominant/submissive dynamic and the power exchange. I believe it is all about you feeling compelled and trusting enough to give up control, but this largely comes about in the mind, not from the sting of the crop or from being trussed or bound. But the sting of the crop does add some heat and spice along the way and the arousal that comes with that is something to savour. For both of us.
On the personal front, I am friendly, outgoing, educated, confident and humble, but I am also often frank and plain spoken, as I think life is too short to play games with people and not say what one means. I am fit, healthy and vigorous and have a high sex-drive. I am also creative and can be cruel at times, sensual and gentle at others. I hold doors open for ladies and men alike and believe there is always room for chivalry and manners in everyday life.
I enjoy the written and spoken word, I’m intrigued by history, have worked and lived in many countries, and enjoy food, language and culture from everywhere. I’m conversant in a range of subjects and would be happy to engage you in discussing the merits of Wagner, Steinbeck and Audioslave and then moving on to an analysis (via primary research) of the stinging effects of paddles versus crops.
In my professional life, I am assertive, driven and hard-working. As a former soldier, and now an all-too-busy executive, I have been in charge of people and things practically my whole life. Dominance, or the act of directing others to do things is something woven into my life quite deeply and I suppose I do it now without thinking about it. Since my days in the Infantry, I have lived by the motto ‘when in charge, take charge’.
I am not seeking a slave, nor am I looking to be called Master or Sir by my submissive counterpart and partner. I'm interested in intelligent, witty and deliciously complicated women who happen to be submissive sexually, but are also able to engage with me mentally on a variety of subjects and opinions. I particularly prize wit and skill with words – both spoken and written. There’s nothing like pre and post-coital banter and even heated debate, to add depth and dimension to a sexual relationship.
Who you are, who you are not and what you want
From your childhood you recall fantasies about being in the power of someone else. Being "made" to do things, reluctantly, but secretly you enjoyed them. You were transfixed with the idea that your will was not your own, that you were being subject to their whims. It was the power they had, the threat, the hold they had over you, as much as anything that was actually happening or not happening sexually, that drew you in. In your fantasies, the scenarios could also sometimes be cruel, but were often followed by kindness, in which your “bruises were kissed better”. You always suspected your sexuality wasn't quite like everyone else's, and you were rarely with anyone who quite wanted to do what you wanted, so you filed it away until now. You are now more confident and you want to act on it.
When it comes to submission though, you are not a doormat, you are a capable, intelligent, educated, professional woman, who lives her principles. You are energetic, productive, hard working and able to go the extra mile in all areas of your life. But you wish to escape every now and again to meet with a man who will fix you in his gaze, put his arms around you, hold you, control you and then compel you to be used for his sexual pleasure and yours.
You seek a man who is strong enough to take you over, one in whom you can place your complete trust in order to surrender totally. However, you will not give up your personality, your principles and your ‘feistiness’. You will be a partner, a playmate and a friend who brings all of herself to the relationship, while still being able to engage in the erotic and debauched dynamic of the dominant/submissive relationship. You want to be ‘Miss Prim’ by day and have me deflower and defile you by night.
If you resonate with this, I would like to hear from you and I promise a prompt and considered response if your inquiry is serious and thoughtful.
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