I'm the Dominant type but am not really interested in finding truly casual play partners anymore. I'm actually much more interested in finding a longterm relationship with a woman who is sexually free, submissive, and considers sex to be fun, adventurous, healthy, and a real joy of life. Or, barring that, a FWB situation where there's a good, strong, emotional connection with the woman I'm playing with, even if there's no 'traditional' relationship in place.

I really am monogamy minded; it must be in my DNA.

As a Dom, I'm not about blood and torture and the art of sexless sadism. I'm deeply sexual and believe in good old skin on skin lust more than the mental joys of, say, artful sex-free caning or fancy ligature or breath play or all that other stuff which happens without any lusty, on the floor, face pushed into the carpet, hard fucking.

If there are two schools of BDSM with one school being all art and science and the other school being all about raw lust, physical domination, and semen, then I am very much in the latter school.

My scenes revolve around the woman's submission to me. It is total. There is no debate. I am the boss. I own you. I am in charge and you will give me what I want and if you make me happy and don't give me any sneaky bullshit trying to cum without my permission, then I will reward you for your obedience.

Yes, I will bind you, or cuff you, or strap you down, or put a leg spreader on you, or put you in my swing and use you, or whip you, or flog you, or spank you, but the dark eroticism and skin on skin contact is always there.

But before we could ever go this far, of course, there already has to be a passionate emotional connection in place. Anything less is just empty usage, and that doesn't work with me.

For me, good BDSM isn't just about the Dom having his way (anyone can do that). It's really a two way street where communication is vital and both the Dom and submissive are real partners who work together to make each other happy and give each other that which is deeply desired.