usernameunknown on Collarspace

1/21/2015 3:02:17 AM

hello to all in the world of Collarspace.

i have been asked to put up a few word on my view of Dominants and submissive what my view is of such relationships.

like everything and everyone in this lifestyle, it and those in it are always changing, growing, learning and evolving. my ideas and views are my own, should someone take offence by them well thats your problem not mine.

ok lets get started, Dominants and their role in the lifestyle.

for me the role of a dominant is one of caring, a dominant is a person who has been given the gift of someones submission be it as a sub or a slave it is the duty of a dominant to care for the wellbeing of this person, to treat them with respect. the respect that they deserve for the gift that they have given.

from time to time i have a look at some of the Dominant profiles on here, female profiles that is, just out of curiosity. i always find it hard to understand why anyone would start off a profile by insulting the people that they are trying to attract. fair enough i can understand the profiles for those that are only here looking to make money, the pros and the findoms. but the profiles that doesn't state that they are either. it is a shame that some people have so little regard for others, for the ones that give a gift so amazing as their submission should be treated with a lot more respect, to address someone as worthless without even knowing them, well it doesn't say much for the kind of person who owns the profile. how quickly people forget that with out the submissives the dominants that like to think so highly of themselves would be well anything they want but they wouldn't be dominant.

Submissives. everyone has their own view on how one should treat a submissive, and submissives on how they themselves should be treated.

from my time here i have noticed an increase of profiles that are to put it in short, i am here take me, do what you want with me, use me, abuse me, treat me like crap, i am worthless.

if this is on your profile you can expect to get dominants who treat people this way. people who do not know the difference between being dominant and being an abusive person. we are not living in the dark ages. this lifestyle has but two important aspects that forms the foundation of everything. trust and consent, without these two things nothing works. anyone who thinks otherwise is only fooling themselves and are only going to end up either hurting someone else or getting hurt themselves, and not in a pleasurable way

for me submission is the greatest gift that one person can give to another, it is something that is to be protected, cherished, nurtured and respected. it is the role of the dominant to cherish this gift because without it they are nothing. it is the role of a submissive to expect these things in return for what you are giving. any dominant who thinks that this lifestyle is all about them and that submissives are there for the dominants pleasure are misguided and not worth the title of dominant. any dominant who thinks that they do not have a duty of care for their submissive in both physical form and mental is about as low a form of life that one can find. I'm my personal opinion a dominant who has no care or regard for the submissive they are with is not much better then a rapist, or even a pedophile.

there is pleasure in this lifestyle, there is pain in this lifestyle. above all else there must be consent. submissives need to learn that they have a right to give and take that consent, it is not the dominants job to take it.