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A long overdue update to my profile. Definitely long anyway. :-)
This is all about me, isn't it? I LIKE that.
So why am I having trouble coming up with interesting things to say?
I'm new to BDSM, just been playing with a partner for a year or so. I
still don't know enough to ask the right questions yet. Still exploring
slowly, getting to know people, feeling my way around.
Attended one Munch recently and got to meet a few more people. Raised my comfort factor a bunch.
I'm 52, in an open relationship, exploring my mind and body and
having a ball. I want to spend more time with BDSM related activities
and see where it takes me. I've been in management positions for most
of my working life and the idea of handing off total control to another
is very attractive to me. An unusual experience.
Other than that, trying to be open to most all possibilties, trying
to not offend too many people and wondering.... what can a newbie bring
to the table here? I know I'd like to find people to help guide me in
the right direction but what can a person who's totally new to this
offer in exchange.
Also wondering if anyone will read this far.
Going through the list of possible fetishes is exhausting and it'll
require a lot more effort. Maybe easier to mention what I'm "not"
interested in. My turn offs include smoking..... ummm.... dead things,
kiddies.... ummm.. have to work on this some more too.
"Interests" Lessee.... motorcycling has been a passion all my life.
Riding, wrenching, racing, building, talking about them, being around
them. Love being outdoors, not into fishing and hunting though.
Reading, can't live without that. Recently got into sewing a bit. Hope
to spend more time at it this winter and maybe some costume ideas will
pop into my head. People. Really interested in people. I've been told
that I give good "listen."
I wrote a post, a few days ago,in another chat room that I thought might be suitable for my profile. As follows:
What am I looking for? I'm at the "kid in a candy store" phase right
now. My life was turned upside down about 4 years ago and I've had time
to reexamine every facet of it. It's opened me to many more new ideas
and emotions and that's what attracts me to BDSM. The physical kink of
it all, the mental stimulation and the power exchange are all areas for
me to explore. I don't know what's going to be a passing phase or
what's going to jump up and bite me in the ass or what's going to
connect on all my levels so experiences would be my one word answer.
I have a partner in crime who may or may not travel the route with
me, depending where I go so I'm open to contact with others. I'm very
happy with moi, overall, and I'm not searching for a 24/7 relationship
with anyone but I'm not actively discouraging it either. It's just not
something I need right now.
I don't want to be limited by my thoughts or other people's labels,
I just want to be a big sponge and soak it all up for a while. grin
Honesty is likely my most important "must have." I don't want to
mess with anyone nor be messed with by anyone, without mutual consent
of course.
I hope I can continue to follow my instincts and not get too carried
away here. I have a good intuition but my little head does do the
thinking some days. I'm anxious to try one of everything but I have to
feel comfy. It took me several months to work up to my first munch and
when I did go, I felt entirely comfy and it was a very positive
experience. I don't have expectations of anything, just trying to be
open and take things as they come along but the temptation to dive
in..... woaahhhh.
To which another member replied: "A clean slate, fresh canvas and a
different perspective." That would definitely be me. I guess I can
offer a body and mind that's waiting to be molded and guided.
Reading some of the replies reminds me of my years in
the motorcycle industry. After a couple of decades you become jaded by
all the latest and greatest and the really basic, simple things get
lost. Newbie riders help reintroduce to me the basic thrill of riding.
I feel better now. Knowing that a newbie has some value. Maybe this won't be such a hard slog to get into.
Thanks all!
Cheers!
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