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I'm here to try to explore the switch side of my personality that wants to play the part of the submissive from time to time.
I'm a single white male, 38 years old, in Topeka. I don't smoke, I don't use drugs, and I barely ever drink because I turn into an asshole when I drink. Looking for a single, dominant or switch, woman or trans.
The one word deion I would use for my looks is the term "bear" from the gay community. I'm fat, hairy, not that tall, and occasionally bearded when the mood strikes me to let it grow. And like my screen name suggests, I consider myself ugly. Size queens be warned, my penis is pretty small, with troubles getting/staying hard on a regular basis.
Like everyone else, I have a mixed set of baggage and quirks in my personality that makes me an individual. So don't expect Mr. Perfect. I'm a lazy, low energy person, I hate the outdoors, I can get moody and depressed on a regular basis.
Tattoos are my number one turn off. Sorry but it's not going to work if you have some.
Not interested in swinging, swapping, poly, or having an affair with a married person.
I'm only interested in meeting someone that believes in the safe, sane, consensual motto, and uses a safe word rule, and practices safe sex. I'm not looking for anything crazy or dangerous.
So, do I expect to find anyone after being this honest? Hell no. But I really do believe in being honest and upfront. What's the point in meeting someone and trying to hide a bunch of flaws, only to end up disappointing the other person, and end up being disappointed myself, that things didn't work out, when honesty could have avoided a ton of unfulfilling encounters?
If you're still reading, I should get into more details about what I'm looking for.
I'm attracted to women, and to transgender men. What attracts me is femininity. Either a woman that knows how to dress, look, and act like a woman. Or a man, that has shaved all his body hair. And wears makeup and wigs, and dresses, and acts like a woman during sex. Not attracted to tomboy women, nor to hairy guys in dresses.
Age and weight are not a problem for me. In fact I prefer older women or trans that have some extra weight on them for me to hold onto.
I have never gotten to submit in real life before. I have been interested in, learning about, and exploring bdsm since my teens. I've had a few subs of my own, both in real life and online only, through the years. Though I'm currently not with someone, so there is no need for you to worry that I am cheating on someone to be with you.
There is something that I need to make really, really, REALLY clear here. I am not a real or true or 100% submissive, or whatever other term you like to use. I am a switch. I have a part of me that is deeply looking forward to some kinky bedroom role play where I submit to someone. But, I have another side of me, that is equally as strong about being in control, being anti-authority, and being rebellious. I can handle role play where I am the submissive. I have enjoyed it online on many occasions. BUT, when the person I am role playing with begins to try to flex their domination over me outside of role play, things go bad. The best way I can describe it, is that it makes me feel like a deeply claustrophobic person, finding themselves trapped in a tiny elevator.
So please understand, my submissive side only exists during some kinky bedroom role play. Outside of role play, please do not try to give me orders. I don't follow orders, I don't do tasks, I don't do assignments, etc. I'm making such a big deal out of this point because this has ruined a few real life attempts I have tried in the past. The person I am trying to get to know forgets about this, tries to start bossing me around, and we end up dropping everything before it even started. Then I get turned off to the idea of trying to submit, for a few months, while I get over it ... rinse and repeat.
My number one turn on is leather. The sight of women in leather in movies and magazines is what led to me find out about bdsm in the first place when I was young.
I also like satin and spandex. But it's not even close to how much I love leather.
I love to role play. For me, sex without role playing involved, is like sex without an orgasm.
Stuff I would like to try:
Dirty talking, role play, handjobs (aka cum milking), leather, sex toys, sexy/slutty clothing in the bedroom, stockings, over the knee spanking, teasing, strap on & anal training, ass worship, breast/nipple worship, clothed sex, cross dressing, foot worship, hair pulling, muscle or fat worship, breast smothering, face sitting, footwear worship (if it's leather, and clean, and only worn during sex), verbal abuse, cum on clothing (and then being forced to lick it clean), degradation, humiliation, face slapping, hand cuffs, leash & collar, light bondage, sissification.
Limits:
Photography/videotaping, exhibitionism, anal fisting, rimming, CBT, electric shocks, piercing, tattoos, choking, orgasm control/denial, cock cages, cuckolding, cages, whips, gags during bondage (it's one or the other but I need a way to let you know if I need to stop), heavy/extreme bondage, objectification, public humiliation, puppy/pony play, suspension play, wax play, diapers, scat, watersports, beastiality, bloodplay, burning, pins and needles, risk of pregnancy.
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