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A.) I've listed below things that interest me, things that attract me to a person, and things that exclude me from being interested in a person. If the only characteristic you possess that I desire is your dominance, we are not a match.B.) While I have no interest in challenging anyone's self-view, your personal identification as a dominant does not mean that I will automatically assume a role of submission to you. I am a dualistic person - I am strong and independent in my everyday life. My submission is private, and is reserved for the ONE man that will become my rightful owner. In the simplest terms, that means no man other than my future owner has the power or the right to tell me what to do, say, think or feel. I do not submit to people simply because they identify themselves as dominant, just as I would not give a thousand dollars to a stranger that assures me he's from the IRS.C.) I am not looking for friendship, online romance or chatting. While getting to know you, I will communicate via email only because I feel that is the only safe way for me to get to know anyone in this potentially dangerous environment. I will not be rushed into telephone calls or meeting in person. We may eventually move to telephone calls, etc., once I feel comfortable with the authenticity of who you are and whether or not we share a mutual romantic connection, but I can tell you now - taking that step will a slow one.
I am looking for something real with someone real - and that means being extraordinarily careful and down-to-earth about every step of this process.2. ABOUT MEI'm five-foot-seven, dark-haired, brown eyed, warm, open-minded, funny, honest, liberal and direct. I prefer to know a small number of people extremely well, rather than a lot of people only minimally. I tend to be very personally private. I am a professional performer, so when my job requires me to be flamboyant or showy, I am capable of doing so... HOWEVER, in my private life, I am far from exaggerated and prefer people who are the same.I dress well - creatively and individualistically, but not with the sole purpose of drawling attention to myself. I respect individuality and uniqueness. I prefer people who don't have anything to prove - people who use their attire, actions, creativity, etc., not in defiance of others, but as an _expression of their own personal style and taste. I am not an exhibitionist in any sense of the word, (unless I am specifically performing for the public in my job.) In my love-life, friendships, etc., I prefer subtly and discretion.I'm creative, artistic, musical and off-beat. My humor ranges from slapstick and goofy to dry and sarcastic, but I am not a cynical person. I am a nonconformist, but believe in everyone's right to their own opinions and civil liberties. I am a very positive person. I am introspective and try to empathize with others, often taking the time to look a both sides before making any decisions. I'm rational, analytical, and intellectual - but I'm far from card-board, stiff or stuffy. Regardless of whether or not I agree, I always believe that everyone has the right to their own opinion and try to keep in mind that if someone else's opinion or liberties can be stifled, so too can mine.The following are just about the only things that make me irritable: Rude behavior, violence, animal cruelty, inconsideration or intolerance for others, dishonestly, pompous or pretentious attitudes and racism. If anyone infringes on my own personal rights, I can be downright blunt in my objections.I am slow to trust, but once I trust it is completely. I am not a jealous person and do not surround myself with people who are. I prefer people who can accurately communicate their thoughts and feelings. I can't take drama, hot-tempers or people who assume the worst of everyone and every situation.When it comes to d/s, I don't require ANY of the typical tools, props or approaches. I don't need rope, restraints, whips, chains, paddles, fancy clothing, special furniture or anything like that. In fact, when beginning a bond with someone, I prefer that all of the tools and equipment be left out until our interpersonal dynamic is stable and completely secure. The only thing I really need or want is a dominant to love, who can take care of me, who makes me want nothing more than to please him - a man that I CAN please. I want what I consider utterly normal... a natural dynamic that doesn't require anything other than the complete involvement and commitment of two willing people. Any other elements, I consider nothing more than spice. It is the simpleness, perhaps even "old fashioned" roles of man and woman, of protector and protected, that I feel most embodies my needs. As for any techniques, tools, etc., they are only interesting to me if they can be used to strengthen an already existing bond. They themselves do not create my submission nor any man's dominance over me... The tools of d/s are only interesting to me if they can be added or left out with no disruption to the existing dynamic. In otherwords: I do not fantasize about the ROPE... I fantasize about the MAN holding the rope. If the man holding the rope is not the right man for me, the rope will be absolutely irrelevant and uninteresting. The RIGHT man will not need any props to cause or create feelings of excitement in me. In that he will have the freedom to use or abstain from using any prop or technique that he desires, knowing that it is not any "lifestyle" or prop that I swoon over - it's him.THE FOLLOWING ARE HARD LIMITS; THINGS THAT I AM NOT INTERESTED IN
a.) If you are looking for an online or telephone-only relationship, or if you're looking for "hot chat" of any kind. I'm simply not THAT lonely.b.) If your dominance is a purely sexual, fetishistic or sensation-driven thing, and therefore, you are incapable of creating or being involved in a real-life, real-time, 24-7, healthy, monogamous, d/s dynamic that is realistic, livable, and enjoyable for both parties involved. As I've mention above... there is nothing fetishistic about my submissiveness or my need for a dominant. D/s is simply a natural dynamic for me. If we were stranded on a desert island together with no access to whips or restraints, I would need to be with a man who's dominance was reliable and intrinsic - reassuring and comforting. Hot-headed, sexually driven urges are not the foundation on which I could happily build a life.
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