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bgodess2
Here to learn more about my sexuallity and the lifestyle of a Sub.

Love to be dominated in the Bedroom (or anyroom while in private) but am very private about this in the open world.

My current reading and thoughts are delving deep inside myself to be able to answer these few but I believe very important questions.
(Have I missed any? message me if you think so...)

· what is a submissive?
· what does being submissive mean to me?
· what are my expectations of myself in this role?
· what qualities must I have in order to be a good submissive?
· why do I want to be a submissive?
· what is a dominant?
· how should my dominant treat me?
· what things do I want to have included in my D/s relationship?
· what are my limits?
· what are my desires for this relationship?
· what do I feel are punishments that will teach me to be a better submissive?
11/19/2009 7:40:24 AM
What is a Submissive?

It seems to me there are many different types of Submissives;

Role Play Sub; These Subs like to "play" the part for a few hours minutes or maybe even a weekend, then go back to their vanilla life, they seem to want to decide when where they will play the part.

Online Sub These sub vow eternal obedience to their Dom and follow every order as they should, then change their screen name or site and find more and new Dommes to do the same with.

Sexual Sub; these kinds of submissive's want the kink or fetish. They  
want to be restrained, blindfolded, spanked, flogged, beaten or whatever  
their fetish is. Once the sex act is over they go away happy until the  
next time.

A true Sub; "serves from the heart, they don't need an Owner driving  
them to do something, they do it willingly, gladly, eagerly.
 
They see their Owner's glass half empty and they fill it, they take care  
of their Owner's needs sometimes before the Owner realizes what it is  
They want.
 
They don't need words of praise, the fact that their Owner is content  
and comfortable is praise enough.
 
They don't need others to see that they're submitting, the fact that  
they are is more then enough."

With that said, it seems I fall into the category of "Sexual Sub"

Now is that a BAD thing?
Should I forget about the BSDM lifestyle and just find a kinky partner?
I do not think many Dommes would be interested in a Sub like this, would they?

I am interested in any comments you may have.
11/17/2009 9:13:25 AM
Is collerme.com a Community or a MeatMarket ProDomme Classified Site?

So Far 30% of those I have had contact with are very genuine and helpfully.

40% are just pic collectors (yes you are that obvious)

and the last 30% are just ProDommes, that demand you read their entire profile, then do not read the messages sent to them but just post back their hourly rate.

I have joined collerme.com to learn and delve into my own personality to see to who I am.

(and for the Dommes that  thought "hmmm you are selfish, its all about you, you just want to play"
Well YA!, right now it is about me, I am not your Sub nor your Slave, maybe some day I will be some ones, but first I need to learn who I am and what I want)

Rant over.


For those who have helped and guided me so far, thank you very much your wisdom is greatly appreciated, and I will continue to learn and practice and read what you have directed me too.
Domme2SlaveErica
 
 Age: 39
 San diego, California