There seems to be a common misunderstanding that because I'm submissive that I should be a doormat. ?Nowhere is it written that a sub gets no say in how, when, where, and to whom she submits. ?

I will never be a doormat. ?I will always be a strong, independent woman with a voice. ?You cannot "break" me. ?LOL... I won't be anyone other than who I am - a complex, multi-faceted, dynamic woman with a bright smile and who loves to laugh. ?A woman who can be fierce when necessary but who prefers to show her nurturing tenderness... playful and engaging.

My response is proportional to how you present yourself. ?Please bear that in mind. ?Particularly online, perception is reality. ?All I see... and all YOU see is a collection of words on a screen. ?I do not see intent... I do not hear tone of voice... I don't have the luxury of reading your body language. ?

I find myself lately reflecting once again on what submission means to me.  Of late I've had a number of Tops trying to define MY experience of submission.  I will pretty much never fit into someone else's preconceived notion of submission.  

Here's where I'm coming from.  My submission is something I CHOOSE to give.  Yes, I'm submissive by nature, but I'm also very demonstrative, strong, and yes sometimes stubborn.  I don't HAVE to do anything.  I CHOOSE to submit because of the connection I have with a Dom, not because he claims the title and demands I get on my knees.

So many Doms miss that the D/s relationship is a reciprocal one... at least for me it is.  I have to choose YOU as much as you choose me.  I'm not some doll sitting on a shelf for you to come along and pluck up.  This isn't some dalliance that I dabble in for giggles when I'm with a guy who gets off on smacking my ass.  This is ME.  This is who I am.  My submission to a man is a journey... I'm not a light switch you can flip on and flip off again.  Either you  make a connection with me that means something to me or I'm going to politely move on with my life.  

FORCE is not the key to this submissive heart.  FORCE will not prompt me to give you what you want from me.  There are far more enjoyable routes, gentlemen.

Remember... my submission is a CHOICE.  It is a privilege as much as serving you is MY privilege.  

Just sayin.

Ok... have to say it.  As much as I LOVE all the attention you fabulous Doms are sending my way, if you're not age appropriate to me, please just don't.  READ MY PROFILE.  I'm looking for a life partner - not a playmate.  I have playmates.  I want the whole package.  That means a vanilla life to go with the D/s.  Oh, and I want to be a breeder - so be real here, guys.  

Compliments are always welcome (and very gratefully appreciated), but c'mon.  If you're old enough to be my father its just never gonna happen.