I must say coffee shop meetings are a hard limit for me .

If you wish to meet then let's meet for a drink.

If you are too cheap to buy a simple drink for  a Dominant lady then chances are we wont be meeting anytime soon !

Tired  of all the games s types play 

I have since cut off all my hair 

I have short hair at the moment

 I am currently seeking  a live out service submissive  must have attention to detail.

Live in Hamilton or with a half hour drive  and be available weekly

I want flowers.

I want to whip you.

I want to stroke your cheek and smile into your eyes.

I want respect and awe and understanding and love.

I want foot rubs and leg rubs and back rubs and anywhere rubs.

I want you to know when to reach out to touch and when to kneel and wait.

I want you to want me fiercely, desire me utterly.

I want kisses. Little ones, fast ones, fierce ones, thigh-clenching-good kisses.

I want you to touch me like you’re trying to memorize the texture and shape of me.

I want affection and cuddling.

I want you to drop your eyes when I demand and meet my eyes when we talk.

I want you to miss me terribly when we’re apart.

I want you to know what you mean to me, how I cherish you.

I want humor and debate and dialog.

I want you to kiss the side of my neck while your hands grip my hips, my back.

I want to see you crawl – just for me.

I want to look at you in that special way and see you breathe deeply with desire and anticipation of what you know is to come.

I want to fuck you, penetrate you, tease you, deny you, please you, torture you.

I want

You.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               

   Submit to yourself and to the idea of submission. Give in. Give it up. 

  She will see it. She will be drawn to it. She will know.  

   She will hear your cry and see your hunger and it will cause Her own to rise 

  Express it without hesitation and without vulgarity. 

  And most importantly, express it with dignity and in a language of whispers only She will hear. Live it from your center, from your soul. 

Tips on Courting a Domme  

Over the years I've had my fair share of good luck when it comes to successfully courting Dommes and I've given out quite a bit of advice to subs looking to court Dommes. I consider myself to be average to below average when it comes to my looks and physical attractiveness, job quality, etc. so I must have done something right in making a good impression.

Now that I have a blog I figured I would post my advice in full. I covered several of these a little over a week ago but I figure they could easily have their own post.

1. Be courteous, respectful, and have good manners.

This should probably go without saying but one of the biggest turn-offs many Dommes have are subs who fail to meet these basic requirements. This is the most important thing in making a good first impression. If you are contacting them through an adult dating site, make sure you read her entire profile first and adhere to any requirements she might have. Write out a well-thought message (complete with spell check) that indicates what you find interesting about her (aside from her looks and your fantasy) and what you have to offer. Do not send a picture of your penis unless she specifically requests it. It doesn't take a lot of effort to be a perfect gentleman. 

Most Dommes on adult dating sites receive 20-300 messages per day from potential subs, 90% of which are disrespectful, thoughtless, or downright crude. If you are approaching a Domme in public (at a munch, play party etc.) you have to be twice as well-behaved since there is only a limited chance that she is actually looking for a sub. If she says no, be courteous and get out of her face. If you don't, you can basically assume you will be blacklisted within that community. 

2. Be a real person.

No one is "just a sub" all the time. No Domme is "just a Domme" all the time. Even if both of you are seeking a 24-7 lifestyle relationship, you have to come off as more than just a live in servant(unless that is specifically what she is looking for). Have interests. Have feelings. Have dreams. Have goals. Have a personality. Have a sense of humor. Just like in vanilla relationships, all of these things will be important if you want to be an appealing life partner. 

If you are as interesting as a box of hair, expect to be discarded as easily as a box of hair. She won't want to be burdened by having to keep you occupied and entertained all day every day. That is higher maintenance than being needy. 

What are your favorite movies? Books? Music? Hobbies? Sports?

If you can pique her interest as a person, you are much more likely to succeed in winning her over. If you are smart, funny, and caring it will go a long ways. 

3. Have a philosophy and a good gr of yourself.

It's easy to think about the sub you want to be. Hell, most subs have probably fantasized about Femdom situations for years before they act upon them. If you haven't thought about it, think about it. If you have thought about it, refine it a little more.

Step One: Define your idealized form of submission.

If she is the right match for you, your ideal and her ideal will likely coincide. This is not about what kind of play you enjoy or what kind of kinky fantasies you wish to have. Dommes an advantage since they can have rather meticulous expectations for a sub. Think about what types of characteristics and responsibilities those entail. Should a sub perform all of the household chores and domestic duties? Should a sub have any expectations of rewards or pleasures? Should a sub expect to be treated as a lover? 

There is no right or wrong (although some of them should be obvious), but more a matter of preference. If your view of being a sub involves few responsibilities, you will probably be looking for a less strict Domme or a switch. If your view of being a sub involves extensive micro-management, that will be targeted towards a particular type of Domme. Some Dommes want a sub that is their lover, others may want a strict code of Mistress/servant formality. D/s relationships that work out generally will have idealized ideas of subm

This bears reposting just about everywhere. I don't know why I bother though; guys will agree with their mouths but so many don't agree with their hearts:

What do you mean when you offer to serve? What do you mean when you offer to BE of service? What do mean when you offer yourself in servitude?

Do the answers to these questions bring up visions of you being bound helplessly while being exquisitely tortured, teased to the verge of orgasm?

Do you envision some Amazon Goddess sporting a huge strap-on taking you anally?

Do you envision yourself prancing around in some French Maid Costume and being asked to provide oral service to a Mistress?

Do you envision some woman sqatting over your helplessly bound body "forcing" you to serve her orally?

Or do you envision being put over her knee and spanked like a naughty little boy?

Yes, nice visions aren't they? However, not one of those visions is the definition of "serve", "service" or "servitude".

Oh, I'm sure many subs consider them to be just that, but if you check your dictionaries you won't find any mention of French Maid Costumes, bondage, strap-ons, oral sex, or any other fetish you may enjoy.

In fact you won't find any mention of fetishes at all in the definitions

Serve is defined as:

1. to work for, be a servant;

2. to act in a specific capacity;

3. to place food before, wait on;

4. to be of assistance to.

Service is defined as:

1. the occupation or duties of a servant;

2. the act or means of serving;

3. duties performed as an occupation.

Servitude is defined as:

Submission to a master; slavery.

When you offer to serve a FemDom, what you are offering (or should be offering) is the surrender of your control. You should know her well enough to trust her with your life. When you offer your servitude to her, you are telling her that you trust her judgment, you trust her to keep you safe from harm, you trust her to know what is best for both of you, you trust her decisions and desire to follow her orders and obey her in all things.

Your offer of service is your ability to let go of your ego and your free will (control) and allow her to control you.

Serving is, first and foremost, the act of making her life easier. It is compliance with all her desires, wishes, orders. Yes, BD/SM and fetish play, more than likely, will be included as part of the relationship. But overall, the D/s ect of the relationship will be where you have turned your control over to her and you do as she says. It is about pampering her and catering to her.

Everyday life will be a part of this, for most people do have to work, bills do have to be paid, people need to see doctors occasionally, and dentists. Then there are family get togethers, family emergencies, social gatherings with vanilla friends and also with D/s friends. For the most part, life will seem pretty vanilla, but there will be one difference. IF you have truly submitted, then your actions will be measured by how your Mistress would feel about it. Your decisions will be based upon what you are allowed, or not allowed to decide without her permission. You will treat others with respect, but especially other women. You will consider that your actions would reflect back upon your Mistress, and therefore act in a manner that would make her proud of you. There may be other constant reminders, she may insist you wear panties under your clothes at work. But you will always remember that you have submitted to her and will honor that commitment.

How can you serve your Mistress - what are the ways?

Here are some suggestions:

-Make sure her home is clean and neat.

-Make sure her clothes are clean and neat.

-Prepare her favorite foods for her.

-Prepare her bath.

-Rub her feet after she comes in from working all day.

-Offer her a massage if her day was very stressful.

-Offer to do her manicure and pedicure.

-Have her favorite music playing or find her favorite show or movie on TV.

-Surprise her with flowers.

-Serve her coffee as soon as she gets up in the morning.

-Ask what clothing she wants laid out for her.

These are just a few of the ways you can serve her once you have been trained in what she wants and likes. Don't be afraid to use your imagination to surprise her (provided of course that she has no problem with you doing this occasionally).

A happy, contented, pleased, relaxed woman is a woman who will then have no problem torturing you, using you, or even indulging you with a fetish or two that are your favorites…………just to show you how much she really appreciates your service and submission to her.

So, what are you offering?

I want flowers.

I want to whip you.

I want to stroke your cheek and smile into your eyes.

I want respect and awe and understanding and love.

I want foot rubs and leg rubs and back rubs and anywhere rubs.

I want you to know when to reach out to touch and when to kneel and wait.

I want you to want me fiercely, desire me utterly.

I want kisses. Little ones, fast ones, fierce ones, thigh-clenching-good kisses.

I want you to touch me like you’re trying to memorize the texture and shape of me.

I want affection and cuddling.

I want you to drop your eyes when I demand and meet my eyes when we talk.

I want you to miss me terribly when we’re apart.

I want you to know what you mean to me, how I cherish you.

I want humor and debate and dialog.

I want you to kiss the side of my neck while your hands grip my hips, my back.

I want to see you crawl – just for me.

I want to look at you in that special way and see you breathe deeply with desire and anticipation of what you know is to come.

I want to fuck you, penetrate you, tease you, deny you, please you, torture you.

I want

You.