Collarspace.com

I've been on and off site over the years, and I am coming on, which is either a sign of hopefulness or masochism. Of course, considering this site, not sure which would be more appealing. I am a confident, engaged person who can take either the dominant or submissive role, depending on the energy in the relationship. I know some people consider switches to be flaky, but I think this is balanced -- the whole yin and yang thing. I have a real life outside of BDSM, and in fact BDSM is only a very small part of my life. I spend more time exercising, volunteering, exploring LA, and running my own business than I ever will in the kink scene, and that's the way I prefer. I am tall, strong, fit and toned. My mind is curious and engaged. I focus on the possibilities that are always there. I'll be happy to exchange photos if there is mutual interest but don't post any publically. And if there is interest, I prefer to meet for a drink or coffee relatively soon rather than exchange emails forever. I am not into cybersex, and will only discuss my BDSM proclivities to a degree that is reasonable to see if we are a match. If you want online kicks, I will bore you. If you want something real, you will be happy you reached out to me.