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Hello, please read this before contacting me. I hope it doesn't run off good people, but I will save time for both of us by clearly communicating my desires.
Been on here before, a couple of years ago, for several years. Some of you Texas guys still have the same photos as then: do you still look the same?
Please don't be misled by my age: I'm told that I look at least ten years younger.
I haven't been in the scene for the past two years, so I'm still a novice. Not that I am dying to try a bunch of stuff just for the sake of trying it, nor am I interested in playing with a bunch of different partners.
I am interested in a local (Houston/Galveston area or maybe some other areas of Texas or Louisiana) relationship with the ultimate goal of a real world monogamous relationship although not necessarily co-habiting. More like a steady BDSM boyfriend. With regard to duration, that remains to be seen but it would be nice to get beyond the six months period of having to use a condom for safe sex purposes (see below).
For me, sex (vaginal and other) go with BDSM and I practice safe sex. That is part of the reason that I will not be participating in casual play with multiple partners. As there are some STDs that condoms cannot protect against, in today's health climate, if you will, it leaves one with little choice but to limit one's partners.
If we are to have a real world relationship, I will first need to talk with you extensively (not all in one encounter) online,whether here or elsewhere, anonymously due to the nature of BDSM, before progressing to other stages. The relationship will begin with online communication: whether it progresses further depends. These are hard limits, if you will.
Accordingly, I will not be pressured to reveal my real name, specific location and other identifying information, nor to provide a mug shot. This doesn't mean that I won't give them: just that I won't be pushed to do so. Many doms seems to think that they are "the one" for whom I should break my rules and they want me to divulge information before I am good and comfortable doing so. When you are communicating with a sub, the sub has not consented to your domination. Just because she (or s/he) is a submissive doesn't mean that she is your submissive or that she should submit to every man who considers himself a dominant. These are commonplaces of BDSM that can be found in multiple places on the web or at least could in the past: it appears that many sites have removed themselves due to fear of prosecution, which is all the more reason for us to be careful in revealing our identities. I value myself and you should value yourself (and other people) also. The female sub is particularly vulnerable in both the physical sense and in the professional sense with regard to being outed. I am very real. It is because I am real that I have to be careful.
Since others can't view the search parameters I use, I will share them here.
I am seeking a single (unattached) straight male dom, at least 5'10" tall (I was married to a guy with Napoleon syndrome for 20 years. This is not to say that people below a certain height are insecure and abusive like he was nor is it to say that people above a certain height can't be insecure and abusive, but I am entitled to my preference. Isn't that what this site and lifestyle are about?), who takes care of his health (fitness-wise and no tobacco users unless it's an occasional high quality cigar, although I don't smoke; and no drugs other than occasional alcohol) who is looking for a single sub woman. No felony convictions.
He should believe in a power higher than himself.
He needs to be intelligent: I have this gift and I am also highly educated and teach at the college level. As such, I am a professional and he should also be one, please.
Male supremacists (those who believe that men are superior to women) need not contact me.
I prefer someone experienced, and that goes beyond how to wield the toys although I want you to know what you are doing in that regard. BDSM done safely requires at least some knowledge that can be considered medical. In addition to the physical, the knowledge should extend to the interpersonal skills. I had been studying the psychology of D/s for years before I decided to try it for real. I have attended and taken part in scene discussion groups and read books and other writings by Brame et al., the Loving Dominant guy, Jay Wiseman and others who are well-regarded in the scene and I expect my dom to be conversant in this info and have a sophisticated understanding of BDSM.
Even though I take antihistamines/decongestants and other respiratory allergy/asthma control prescription meds, I am allergic to cats. You could say that cats are a hard limit! LOL! Dogs are fine.
I do not have any children so I have a lot to offer in the devotion department.
Thank you for reading my profile. Best wishes!
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Maybe I need to rewrite my profile in a more submissive tone: I forgot that I tend to attract male submissives, and I'm just not interested in that, thanks. I do have a pretty good idea of what I do and do not want. |
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If you sent me a chat request and I didn't respond, I apologize. I intended to e-mail later, but this site doesn't save the chat requests; so, I didn't know who to contact! |
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| Age: 32 |
| Santa Ana,
California |
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