For my submissive friends out there some thoughts:

What is Safe, Sane and Consensual. 

Its the primary principle to what it is we do that 1.) justifies our actions 2.) it "somewhat" protects you when matters of the law come into place. 3.) it is the protective gate around the relationship. You agree to certain perimeters in the relationship on an equal basis. A safe word is instituted. Again a "safe" word is put in place and limits are set. Anyone who says they don't need a safe word or they have no limits should be avoided at all costs. There are exceptions which are very complex and take years and years of relationship development. 

With SSC explained, there is also RACK- Risk Awareness Consensual Kink. I am not a proponent of this because if you are practicing things that are super risky just saying your are RACK while your sub is lying dead on the floor and she was aware and consensual just doesn't do it for me. With that said even with SSC everything and anything can go wrong. which brings me to point 2.

Poor Behavior on the Net is only a Precurser to Poor Behavior Offline.

If the D-type is acting strangely even before you meet and NOT considering your limits with online communication. DO NOT MEET THIS PERSON OFFLINE. DANGEROUS AND SHOULD BE AVOIDED AT ALL COSTS. BDSM is fun, it can be very also dangerous, even with the most trusted D-type. Things happen. But if he is not respectful of your limits online, do you think he is going to be any different offline. If he rude to you in initial emails, is begging for your picture, or requiring your to take pictures, making threats etc. he does not understand the responsibility nor complexity of being a Dominant or the dynamics of D/s relationships. This person is not a dominant but a poser. Repeat, this person is not a dominant. 

Somethings To Consider To Cut Away the BS

Education is not just something you learned in 8th Sex Class when it comes to BDSM. He should be conscience of your safety at all times, have knowledge of what things you would like to do together and how to properly execute those kinks to ensure safety. A newbie- be it S-type or D-type- are very risky to play with and play should be developed slowly as they grow and learn. A newbie should try to learn as much as they can about the lifestyle and practices. 

If he claims to be a master than he should have some skills and expertise in an area of kink practice. In Old Guard, someone is given the name Master by another, it is not simply a username that they decide to use on Collarme. 

I also take a little more caution to those who are so vehement against the local scene. I completely understand people who have high-profile careers and BDSM is an alternative lifestyle that is still completely taboo to many. BUT I question someone who is against community. Community give accountability. Community gives credibility. Community provides education and support.  Community helps protect S-types and D-types from dangerous people. Some have been oust by the public scene because of bad behavior or poor play practices. If you say out of the gossip and focus on your relationship as a couple and the friendships you develop in the local scene. The community is great for the development of a D/s relationship.

Trust, Honor and Respect

Trust takes time. Honor comes with discipline of self. Respect comes with development. All of which is an exciting journey that does not occur over a few Collarme chats and a meeting. But it is an exciting and fun journey and I wish you all the best.

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