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Hetero Female Submissive, 54,   Charlotte, North Carolina
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Seeking a life less ordinary....

Sweet, sassy submissive softly seeking. Sapiosexual, demisexual female looking for kink and connection. A complex bouquet of sugar and spice, lady and tramp. The lioness who seeks her Lion King.

Well read, well travelled, looking for her masculine Dominant partner in crime. Intelligence and manners are a must.

I only ask for what I bring to the table as well. Flirtatious and fun, with a yearning for emotional connection.

I enjoy the finer things, and the simple pleasures. Forehead kisses and smacks on the ass.

A love of reading and champagne. A killer backgammon game, and a great cook.

If you don’t think that what lies between my ears, is just, as if not more important than what lies between my legs, we won’t be a good fit.

Some of my favorite kinky fuckery involves bondage, sensation play, wax, medium impact masochism, and teasing. I will be happy to discuss these and other interests in further detail after mutual ground has been determined.

Pronouns: she/her/hers

Some people identify with or use pronouns that may not be obvious based on their appearance. By stating mine clearly, I hope to encourage others to share theirs. Please help make our culture more inclusive, safe, and comfortable for everyone.

Please be between the ages of 45-60, Dominant, male and single/divorced.











 Submissive Female


 North Carolina

 5' 4"



 Not Listed



Actively Seeking:

Dominant male


 Amusement Parks

 Fine Dining







 Hair Pulling



 Role Playing



 Horse Racing


 Art Galleries




 Mental Bondage

 Sensation Play

 Lifestyle BDSM

 Classical Music




 Rock Music

 Seventies Music

 Ice Hockey

 Curious About:

 Opera Music


 Female Led Relationships



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Journal Entries:
1/26/2023 6:20:54 PM

There is a lot of squick on this platform.

5/25/2014 7:03:36 PM

rainbows, and kittens, and palomino ponies. hot sweet milky tea, best friends and sunshine. playing in the rayne, alaskan malamute puppies, and butterflies. pearls, snowflakes, and chocolate mousse. corsets, cabernet and the perfect red lipstick. silk sheets, the smell of Him, and wicked high heels that don't hurt your feet. ice cream cones on a hot day, giggling, and love. football, sleeping in and sex. christmas, family and bubble baths. champagne, good books, and the time to read them. music, dancing and whip cream. comfy jeans, candles and stars. thuddy elkskin floggers, handcuffs, and rope. smiles, art, and beautiful Men. coffee, tulips and travel. college hoops, rooting for the home team and aimless cruising on a summer night. bbq potato chips, mountains and imported beer. submission, trust and '68 camaros'. autumn and hula hoops and the fact that He called. ray-ban sunglasses, diet coke and honesty. really good pizza, slouch socks and bacon. collars, pedicures, and being Wanted.

8/8/2009 8:45:26 PM

the best conversations take place in the dark.

6/12/2009 6:45:58 PM

If you looked up the word "funky" in the 'audio dictionary',
You'd hear the bass line to Stevie Wonders "Superstition"

6/12/2009 6:27:39 PM

I don't like being the mouse.




6/7/2009 5:25:57 PM

I massaged my first horse today.
Go me!!

5/16/2009 4:06:55 PM

YAY!!! And the filly takes the Preakness!!!
  Congrats to
 Rachel Alexandra
and her connections. 
GO BABY (girl) GO!!!

5/10/2009 2:52:26 PM

Just because I don't cook cook
Doesn't mean I can't.

5/3/2009 10:48:36 AM

i shall love Him quietly, and from afar.

5/2/2009 3:35:41 PM

OMG, I just love that Calvin Borel!!  He and Mine that Bird just won the Deby :)

5/2/2009 10:52:15 AM
It's spring, and a girls' fancy turns to the sleek flanked, silken maned, graceful, strong, high spirited, original horse power.  Actually, I fancy the ponies all year, but, that's another story.

The 135th Kentucky Derby is today. YAY!!  I've got my hat on, and a bottle of Beaujolais, because, let's face it...Mint Juleps are nasty...blech. 

I do so love the "Call to the Post"

The field:

West Side Bernie
Mr. HotStuff
Hold Me Back
Fresian Fire
Papa Clem
Mine that Bird
Join the Dance
Regal Ransom
Chocolate Candy
General Quarters
I Want Revenge-scr
Atomic Rain
Pioneer of the Nile
Summer Bird
Nowhere to Hide
Desert Party
Flying Private

I like Fresian Fire, Dunkirk and General Quarters.  Enjoy the Race!!! :)

3/11/2009 7:33:34 PM

I aspire to grace

3/2/2009 5:31:11 PM

Have I mentioned........
that i really, really, really
snow days

3/2/2009 11:42:17 AM


I love snow days

2/28/2009 1:45:31 PM

It's all madness and anarchy

2/6/2009 8:14:55 PM

They sure put a lot of m&m's in a 1.5 ounce bag. :D

1/8/2009 9:06:29 PM

Gotta love a Man who can use the word aegis
correctly in a sentence.


12/30/2008 3:05:55 PM
I'm really sad right now.  

12/27/2008 3:00:19 PM


For an intelligent woman, I am such a ditz sometimes.

12/25/2008 6:37:52 PM
Merry Christmas everyone :)

I hope Santa left lots of present's under your tree.  Even the "naughty" folks.

12/19/2008 10:44:44 AM
Yeah, yeah, I know...same old song and dance :P

My profile muse seems to have gone on holiday vacation.  I had originally taken this profile down due to a spate of e-mails I sent to Doms that weren't returned.  I first thought, hmmm, must be my profile.  Then I came to my senses and thought, well if those idiots are too classless and rude to respond to a friendly overture; well then they don't meet my standards.

12/14/2008 12:34:37 PM

Why is it?.............that the less time I spend at home.......the messier it get's?


It's the most wonderful time...of the year :D

12/11/2008 7:28:33 PM
A leap of faith is easy, when you have someoone to hang on to. :)

12/7/2008 1:57:20 PM
*shakes head*

I just don't get it.

11/23/2008 2:52:13 PM
Ask me to show you poetry in motion......

and I'll show you the horse.


11/19/2008 8:02:40 PM
It takes a helluva lot to render me speechless.

But damn if that e-mail didn't do it :)


Thanks ****

11/16/2008 4:33:57 PM
Well now........

that was an interesting 36 hours.


11/14/2008 6:28:33 PM
Bravery can take many forms.

11/7/2008 6:54:14 PM

My new guilty pleasure?

"Say Yes to the Dress"

TLC. Friday's at 9

What can I say?  I'm a sucker for a happy ending :)

11/4/2008 4:36:41 PM
I voted today :)

11/2/2008 8:16:21 PM
Adam Vinitari is a TRAITOR!!!!

Booooo Hisssss

10/31/2008 6:32:10 PM
I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisons.  I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisions.   I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisions. I will not make rash decisons.  I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisions.
I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisions.  I will not make rash decisons.

10/24/2008 1:45:19 PM

I do so adore the "Call to the Post" :D

It's "Ladies Day" at the Breeders Cup


10/22/2008 7:24:43 PM

                        i hate this

10/14/2008 4:42:17 PM

**** said He wanted me for as His birthday!!!

happy, happy, joy, joy!!!

10/12/2008 10:03:52 AM

                   THE GREEN DOG

1. I love you not only because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am
with you. 

2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry.
3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. 
4. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.  

5. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.
6. Don't waste your time on a man/woman, who isn't willing to waste their time on you. 

7. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.  
8. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.  
9. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know you. 

10/5/2008 3:22:44 PM
Note to self:

styrofoam plate+microwave=not so good

10/5/2008 8:22:05 AM

It's cold and overcast here today, yet the sun shines upon me, and i bask in His warmth

10/4/2008 3:46:30 PM
mood:utterly amazed

Ok, i need to find that there "Dom Handbook" because i really, really, reeeeeally want to know how You do that!!!!!

Talk about being kept off-balance.

From being upset, then thrilled to shocked, saddened and confused, then zipping off to laughing out loud, to self awareness to..well, utter amazement.


9/27/2008 4:22:07 PM
Today we spoke of embracing the fire inside.


what if i do?

and am consumed by it

do i then rise


from the ashes?

9/21/2008 1:21:52 PM
My Pat's got spanked today by Miami.

*grumbles, lucky devils*

9/16/2008 5:29:30 PM

SomeOne called me a willful little hussy today.


9/13/2008 10:32:35 PM
Wow.  The freaks come out at night.  And for this site...that's saying something.

9/11/2008 6:20:08 PM
Today is September 11th. A defining day in not only Americas', but in the worlds conciousness. I am still sad. I am unusually quiet today. Someone asked me.......why? did you know someone that died? To that I yes.

They were my mother, my father, my sister and brother. My aunt and uncle and cousin. They were the clerk at the dry cleaner, my dentist, my doctor, my friend, and my neighbor. They were the cute fireman I asked for directions when I got lost and the woman who cleans the building where I work. They were my babysitter, and the ones I babysat for. They were sons and daughters, bankers, laywers and fast food workers. They were my garbage man, my butcher, the florist, and the secretary. They were my cashier in the cafeteria, and my mechanic, they were my lover and they were loves I had not met. They were the bus driver, the accountant and the police officer. They all had someone that loved them. They all have someone that misses them.

i know i still do.

And they all, regardless of what their passport might have said, on that day....

They were all American.

So ya, I guess I do know them.

9/10/2008 7:56:35 AM
Oh dear Lord.

What in the HELL have I gotten myself into?

9/7/2008 7:12:36 PM

Brady has a torn ACL???
No SuperBowl for my beloved Pat's this year?
I am heartbroken!!!

9/6/2008 4:58:33 PM
i feel sooooooo sexy tonight.

8/8/2008 4:37:44 PM

************GO USA!!!!**************

8/4/2008 6:36:26 PM
I read the best book this weekend.  "The Art of Driving in the Rain" by Garth Stein.  Absolutely fantastic.  Loved it!!!  The narrator of the book is the family dog, and it is hysterical in it's "dogginess" because you can just SEE your dog thinking like this. Enjoy!!

6/15/2008 6:39:35 PM
Do capers ever go bad?

6/15/2008 6:38:45 PM
Hmmm...someone on Cme is scared of me.  I wonder why?

6/7/2008 3:47:19 PM
I am devastated :(

Poor Big Brown

6/7/2008 3:35:50 PM

6/7/2008 2:44:01 PM

*********BELMONT BABY!!!***********

Let's send up a collective prayer to the Thoroughbred Horse Racing God's that Big Brown get's it done today.  I was 10 years old when Cruget rode Seattle Slew to the Triple Crown.  It was the beginning of a lifelong love affair with the horse.  I think I might be as nervous as Kent Desourmeaux :P
Since Casino Drive has been scratched, so it seems as though the door is wide open.  Denis of Cork seems to be getting some play though.  Well, that's why they run the race.

*********GO BABY GO!!**************

!. Big Brown
3.Macho Again
4.Denis of Cork
5. Casino Drive-scr.
6.Da' Tara
7.Tale of Ekati
8.Anak Natal
9.Ready's Echo
10.Icabad Crane

Let's have a safe race, GO BIG BROWN!!

6/6/2008 7:42:40 PM
Once again...not enough.  What is wrong with me?

5/17/2008 3:27:59 PM
**********GO BIG BROWN!!!!!**********

Yes, the Derby winner takes it with style and ease.  Just coasting for home the last eigth of a mile.  Hopefully he has enough left for the "Test of a Champion", the mile and a half Belmont.

5/17/2008 2:15:33 PM

Second leg of the Triple Crown, and the shortest of the three.  Big Brown's convincing Derby win has everyone talking Triple Crown for this colt.  I do so hope this happens, as it would be wonderful for the sport of racing.  Oh, I just heard Big Brown will be standing at Three Chimney's farm for stud.  And me without a mare *L*

Now, as for beverages, while the Black Eyed Susan sounds a lot better than that damn Mint Julep, I will be sticking with my Blue Moon today, hopefully watching Big Brown continue on the trail towards that most elusive of prizes, the Triple Crown.

Enjoy the race :)

**********GO BABY GO!!!!*************

1.Macho Again
2.Tres Borrachos
3.Icabad Crane
4.Yankee Bravo
6.Racecar Rhapshody
7.Big Brown
8. Kentucky Bear
9. Stevil
10.Riley Tucker
11.Giant Moon
13.Hey Byrn

5/10/2008 3:54:05 PM
*****On your knees BITCH*****

You know those e-mails, right?  Well, if your a femme sub you do.  Or the always popular:

*Come and serve Me now!! I am your Master*

Easy enough to deal with, just laugh then delete.  Hell, most find those ridiculous no matter what side of the D/s slash they fall on. So what makes it any different, in an IM conversation?  When the first thing out of your mouth is......Are you sub or slave?  I think to I am NEITHER as far as your concerned right now.  Do I jump right in with...are you a Dom, or a Master? Do you have a dungeon? How many toys do you have? blah blah blah. (No I do not) Is it the relative anonymity of the internet that allows people to give reign to such attrocious manners?  Or do they simply lack home training?

Is it wrong for me to assume that someone should perhaps get to know me a bit, before inquiring to which depths I will go to serve them?  There is another actual PERSON, on this end of the screen yanno?  I have thoughts, and hopes. Dreams, interests,
hobbies and friends, insecurities and strengths. Submission is a big part of who I am, but it's not ALL that I am.

I always thought that patience was a key element in Domination, one which I admired tremendously, seeing a lack in my own self. This seems not to be the case however.  I suppose one can't even blame the Dom's, as there are so many faux submissive's/slaves out there who I am sure will say or do anything....oh Sir, oh Master, i'll do anything, i'm a no limits slave, please, oh please allow me to serve You!!!!....just have someone, anyone in their life.  Being continually approached like that surely must have some bearing on how you interact with others.  Does it give you the right however, to treat me as no more than a commodity?  Allow me to set the record straight.  It does not.

I love being a submissive woman, it is something I am very proud of, and hold most dear.  But if you think that arrogance, impatience and rigidity are Dominant traits, please think again. 

Am I perfect? Hell no, not even close. After all I'm only human.  Something that those I choose to speak with, would do well to remember.

5/4/2008 5:26:15 PM
The key, to a really good tuna to cook it slowly enough, so that it get's heated all the way through :D

5/3/2008 3:24:56 PM
Oh my God.....they just euthanised Eight Belles...she broke both her front ankles.

5/3/2008 3:19:48 PM
Big Brown win's the Kentucky Derby!!!!

Eight Belles was second, and Denis of Cork places.  Shoulda played the trifecta :P

5/3/2008 2:16:19 PM
*sniffles*  I miss Barbaro.

5/3/2008 1:56:52 PM
Today is one of my favorite days of the year.  A true rite of spring, the first Saturday in May brings the best thoroughbred horseflesh in the world to race in the Kentucky Derby.  The sport of Kings.  The Run for the Roses!!

So I'm sitting here drinking my Blue Moon....none of those icky mint juleps for me..ugh..have you tasted one of those things?   Nasy business.  And I've got my hat on, so I'm all set to go.  If I was a wagering woman, which I'm not, but if I was, gender compels me to go with the filly Eight Belles.  I know everyone's all hot on Big Brown or Colonel John, but I'm sticking with the filly.  I do have a soft spot for Denis of Cork simply because Calvin Borel is the jockey and he's adorable, but he's a longshot. 

Enjoy the race everyone.

GO BABY (girl) GO!!!!!!!!

Cool Coal Man
Tale of Ekati
Anak Nakal
Court Vision
Eight Belles
Z Fortune
Big Truck
Colonel John
Z Humor
Smooth Air
Bob Black Jack
Denis of Cork
Cowboy Cal
Big Brown

4/19/2008 7:04:11 PM
Also...I have very poor impulse contol. *sighs softly*

4/19/2008 6:35:01 PM
Drinking wine...when you're sad, probably isn't the brightest idea.  Even if it's really good wine.

4/18/2008 6:33:32 PM
It's a hunter's moon tonight.


4/12/2008 11:38:23 AM
Suddenly, I'm starting to totally dig on Texas ;)

Uhmmm.....yeehaw? *L*

4/11/2008 9:53:21 AM
From an e-mail:

There is little in life that compliments a lady's beauty quite so well as intelligence.

Lovely, isn't it?

4/5/2008 2:34:02 PM

4/2/2008 4:55:41 PM

Asking the cutest guy in the room to dance.....isn't all it's cracked up to be :(

4/1/2008 8:11:08 PM
We're Baaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!!!

Leave it to the women to accomplish what the men could not :P

The UConn women are Final Four bound!!!


Watch out Stanford!!

3/16/2008 5:05:51 PM
Westward Bound!!!

I love Selection Sunday :D

16.Mississippi State
9.Texas A&M
12.Western Kentucky
13.San Diego
7.West Virginia
2.D***....(boo hiss)

*shakes her pom-poms*

WOOHOO!!! let's go boy's!!!!

3/15/2008 11:40:00 AM
It never ceases to amaze me, the number of so called men on this site, who want all of the benefits of being a Dom, but none of the responsibility.

3/8/2008 6:48:41 PM
The melody of U2's "Bullet in a Blue Sky" sounds like really good sex.

2/28/2008 4:41:07 PM
"The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world, is a womans' heart."

Josiah Holland

2/22/2008 5:17:17 PM
Didja ever....hit that "send" button, and think..oh dear God, what have I done!!!  And then you get to sit,

and wait,

for a reply.

Hoping against hope, that things are going to work out ok, but also having a niggling thought in the back of your mind that maybe, just maaaaybe, ya done f**ked it up royally?

2/18/2008 5:22:29 AM
...all in all, it's just another brick in the wall.

2/16/2008 7:33:54 PM

I'm kinda bored tonight.  Someone entertain me :D teehee 

2/16/2008 10:23:19 AM

Someday someone will see me...
For who I really am.
He will see beyond my smile and 'big girl' attitude.
He will look in my eyes and see my NEED,
burning hot in my soul.
He will see the real me, the sensitive me,
the submissive me.

Someday someone will know me...
He will know I hide behind a mask.
He will know how I yearn.
He will know that I'm scared and he
will take my hand and lead the way.

Someday someone will touch me...
He will free my true spirit.
He will touch my body like no other.
He will use this body as an instrument,
with which he will play a beautiful song.
He will hold me, bind me, love me.


2/12/2008 10:02:44 PM
I'm pretty sure....that everyone needs to floss more :D

2/3/2008 7:06:23 PM

2/3/2008 7:03:36 PM

1/31/2008 5:44:42 AM
Is there anyone on this site that ISN'T married?  or, the always popular..."separated"? *snorts*

1/27/2008 5:51:27 PM
I am SUCH a good girl!!  I have responded to 11 e-mails, sent 1 new, am down to 5 messages in my mail-box, excercised, cleaned the bathroom, paid bills, washed my hair and shaved, cleaned the cat box, got my clothes ready for work tomorrow, and changed the sheets.  I got my car serviced this weekend, had lunch at my Mom's, went to dinner with my sister and her family.  Had a lovely chat with my Mentor, went grocery shopping, did laundry....ahhhh, life. *L*  Now I am going to finish off my e-mails and have some tea; hoping that a certain Gentleman that I had a friendly, albeit short, e-mail exchange...would write me back, as I would absolutely love to get to know him if your listening....a*******, well, I'd love to hear back from you.

1/26/2008 4:45:18 PM
I am confused.

Why would someone, on one hand, write a beautiful profile, extolling the virtues of honesty, and trust and open communication; saying how "real" they are, and they are looking for a r/t relationship.  That they understand the D/s dynamic and the honor needed, yet not even have the decency to respond to a polite introductory e-mail?  Even if they were not interested, you would think that they would at least have the courtesy to reply.

And yes, I know, I have an in-box full of mail that I am trying to respond to, and will, but much mail do male Doms get on this site?  If it follows form from the other alternative sites, I'd have to say not much.  So....what's the deal?  Is this guy just an a**hole not worth my time?  Because thanks to CM's wonderful mail service, I know he's read my note.

See, it's guys like this that give the good guys a bad rap.  It's guys like this that make one's wall's go up just a little bit higher.....making it that much harder for the sincere one's to get a shot. *sighs softly*  And the sad bastard part of it is.....I don't want to be jaded, and in a lot of ways I don't think I am, but damn.  Has simple courtesy gone the way of the dinosaur?

1/25/2008 2:34:31 PM
***purrrrrrrrrrrrs and stretches***

Mmmmmmm, I just woke up from the most delightful nap.  My cat Owen and I had a lovely little snuggle together.

1/23/2008 6:18:28 PM
I hit a little bump in the road last night.  I thought I needed a little compassion, and hand holding, but apparently I just needed a good swift kick in the a**!! *L*  Once more into the breech, once more into the breech.

1/16/2008 4:54:13 PM

Oh yeah......and another thing.  Dallas lost to the Giants?...the GIANTS?!?!?!? wtf?  It's like the world was spinng backwards or something, between them and the Chargers.  Well at least I got the Pats and the Pack right :)

1/16/2008 4:52:13 PM

So I told myself....ok, tonight you are going to answer ALL of your CM correspondence, and yet, here I sit....quasi-blogging, drinking coffee, surfing the net, like I have nothing else to do.  I need to focus!!!

1/13/2008 1:23:57 PM
Holy shit, I can't believe the Charger's pulled that out.

1/12/2008 5:14:12 PM
GO PATS!!!!!!!!!!!

1/11/2008 5:07:39 PM
i got flowers today :)
From a dear old Friend

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