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| If you are serious about playing with me, strive to be friends with me first. Not like bffs forevahr or anything like that, but I won't play with people I can't have a friendly conversation with. Don't say anything in a first message that wouldn't go over well approaching me in person at a play party. If you have never been to a play party then don't say anything to me you wouldn't say to someone you are just meeting for the first time.
I am a fairly experienced Masochist and submissive toward individuals who have earned my trust. I am UNDERSTANDABLY picky, and would like to find a local (Modesto or surrounding areas) dominant who is understanding and experienced to let me occasionally indulge this side of me. I am not looking for submissive/masochist partners on here, but if a good one happens to fall in my lap, you won't hear me crying about it.
As a masochist, I am experienced with flogging, punching, kicking (I especially enjoy this in the genital area), cigar play, boot licking (not really a masochist thing, so sue me), needle play, blood play, face slapping... and various forms of role play, including dark age play. Even if you just think it would be fun for me to lick your boots for a while, if the chemistry is there, that would be just fine with me. I play rack (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), and I actually am a switch and have taken classes on topping. I know my shit, and if I notice you aren't following basic safety I won't play with you. Need to know what that means to me? great, just ask. I try to make it part of negotiation, but some times I don't remember everything... I'd prefer a partner who has some experience publicly who can provide some references of people they have topped...
Don't care about your gender, even if you don't have one.
I am open to playing with novices, as long as you were interested in the things I mentioned before you saw this, and aren't trying to fit my ideal to get with me. It doesn't work that way. Also, I don't have an ideal, outside of good self determination and communication.
I won't be on here too terribly often. I glance at it while reading yaoi smut in the other window. :)
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Dominating me is like interacting with a horse in some ways. If you have any experience with horseback riding, this metaphor may be easier to understand. I am stronger than I look, a very stubborn, powerful person in my own right, so for me to allow you to take control for a bit requires some trust.
Quivering flower of submission only ever applies to me in the most sarcastic sense. I am both physically and mentally powerful, and do not require delicate or tentative handling. In fact, I require clear, confident communication to trust that you will communicate vital information to me at the correct time.
In a bottom and/or submissive role, I am very obedient as long as I have confidence in the person holding the reigns, and that person displays competence. Like in animal training, a weak, tentative hand yields very poor results. I know what I want, what I don't want, and how to communicate that in real time, within the context of play.
I like to play hard, so it's important to me that the tops I play with understand their own boundaries and limits, and that pushing my limits might also push theirs. Some of what I do could be reasonably categorized as extreme, but nothing that I feel would damage me or my top. I don't "check out" while bottoming, I stay very present in the moment, am responsive and I get an endorphin high that is transcendent of the every day experience.
One top I played with described himself as an endorphin bar tender. That it was his responsibility as a top to make sure to cut off the 'customer' before the bottom became unable to feel damage happening to his own body. Keeping with this metaphor, some of my more recent scenes, one could say I got reasonably buzzed, but not as far as I usually like to go. Basically, I would like to responsibly get endorphin shit faced. :) |
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