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Why some people think it has to be all or nothing is beyond me. Im looking for one I can share lifestyle AND vanilla romantic times with!

Looking for a gentle, feminine LADY (not just woman). I have a ranch that lends itself nicely to outdoor bondage. Dont let that fool you, though, as I also hold two MS degrees and have taught at colleges, and have been a police chief. I am also a published author.

Im looking for eventual RT LTR, with an eye to eventually having a subwifewifeslave. Only interested in ladies who were born that way, not guys who feel like theyre women or had to have some weird surgery to change how GOD made them. Oh, and lets face it- toilet play isnt sexy- its just unsanitary and smells bad! My only hard limits are no blood, scat, pee, vomit, or anything that will wind me up in jail.

Yep, Im a Christian, so atheists, satanists, etc., need not apply. Christian and Jewish women welcome.

When you get right down to it, I want everything. What do I mean by that? Good question, as Im not quite sure how to put it. I want a lady who understands that her place is in submission to her husbandDom. I also want one who would like to have kinky fun. Then again, I want one who would enjoy the vanilla romantic times with me, such as als (including military als), long drives, going around in December and looking at Christmas lights on houses. She need not have a higher education, but she needs to be intelligent. Also, she must not be weak-minded about life. I hunt deer and I eat what I kill. I fish, I grow vegetables, and I do some ranch work. I dont drink, but I dont mind if she does some LIGHT drinking (not interested in druggies or winos). I do smoke an occasional premium cigar, but I dont do it in front of ladies and I only do it outdoors (not even in my own truck).

About me- I have a martial side (decorated military and police veteran), a gentle side (write love stories- first one is now out), a redneck side (in the Texas of the word- rancher, not cowboy wannabe, a hard-working, church-going, God-fearing gentleman who would rather eat beans in Hondo than filet mignon in New York City). Id rather that my lady and I have an honest disagreement and get it out in the open, over and done with, than her ignoring me (good way to piss me off quickly). I was born and raised on the Texas coast, ON the water- grew up body surfing, sailing, fishing, distance swimming, and dodging hurricanes. Couldnt wait to live in the Hill Country- spring-fed rivers, beautiful countryside, even the beauty of cactus. Loved the time I spent living in the piney woods of East Texas, too. Just cant stand the flatlands around north Texas and the panhandle. Enjoyed the time I spent in Vicksburg, MS and would love to go on a vacation where I visit the battlefields of my 3 Confederate Army ancestors. Id like to eventually travel certain areas of the US, writing articles on historical aspects of those areas.

About you- although there are things I like and even prefer about ladies, they are not required pale skin, short stature, and the quiet, shy librarian type. What I do require are faith, femininity, LOYALTY, conservative ideals, and affection. I dont micromanage (remember? I want an intelligent, strong-minded lady), but I do lay down sets of guidelines in certain topics that must be remained within. BTW, strong-minded doesnt mean stubborn and confrontational. It means that you can think for yourself when the need arises (such as when to go to the restroom or in a crisis...I was a cop- my then-wife got THAT phone call). I do have some expectations, but they can be discussed over time. I would also like to cultivate and share commonalities with she who would wear my collar. I am reminded of one relationship (this is ONLY for citing an example- I do NOT miss her and havent for 30 years), in which we went out to eat. We both ordered steak and shrimp dinners. Without talking about it, when the orders came, we both lifted our plates at the same time- me to place my shrimp on her plate and her to place her steak on mine. I always thought that was one of those little things mean a lot moments. See? I do have a romantic side!

In closing, I would like to point out that we all have our demons, nightmares, and imperfections. The key is that each person can live with the others. A preacher once told me that the key to a good marriage is not a 50-50 proposition. Rather, he said that each person should be willing to give 100 percent, while expecting zero percent. If both do that, no one will be disappointed. This applies to the Ds relationship, too. The sub must be willing to give 100 percent to the Dom- obedience, loyalty, affection, understanding. On the other hand, the Dom must be willing to give 100 percent to the sub- understanding, guidance, security, loyalty, affection. Punishment must not be used to satisfy the sadistic whim (unless the sub is a masochist and getting satisfied by it, too). It should be done lovingly and to correct an errant sub, like a parent would punish lovingly and to correct an errant child.