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a•cute [uh-kyoot]
adjective
1. sharp or severe in effect; intense
2. extremely great or serious; critical; crucial
3. sharp or penetrating in intellect, insight, or perception
4. extremely sensitive to even slight details or impressions
"Love and relationships are a series of really humiliating and depressing failures, and then, at the very end, you get one victory and that's all you need. It's the only thing in life like that. If you write 20 stories and 19 are terrible, you've failed. If you go out on 20 dates and 19 of them are horrendous but one of them is amazing, then you win."
-- Justin Halpern
The quote above essentially captures the reason I'm on CollarMe: If I browse 1,000 profiles and they're all attached to terrible people but then I stumble across 1 person who is amazing, I win!
If you think you might just be that person, the message box can be found above. If you're not, scram.
You are most definitely NOT the person I'm looking for if your profile contains any of the following:
(1) An age less than 20 or greater than 30. Sorry!
(2) Any reference to blackmail, tribute, or so-called "financial domination". Fuck off.
(3) The words "pathetic," "useless," "loser," or any of their synonyms used in reference to submissive men or women.
(4) The word "dominate" used as a noun.
(5) S/slashy speak. Give me a break, people.
On the other hand, please, please, please (I beg you humbly on my knees in a collar, matching cuff set, and ridiculous outfit of your choosing) DO feel free to message me if:
(1) You joined this site to find an equal who submits to you out of trust, intimacy, and mutual respect -- not a simpering doormat who just craves abuse.
(2) You keep your private life mostly private, but you have an interest in experimenting with strong elements of power exchange and ownership both in and out of the metaphorical bedroom.
(3) You're comfortable with the possibility of a casual meeting eventually developing into a longer-term intimate relationship.
(4) You like to cuddle.
(5) You have a big, sexy brain and a killer smile.
Monogamish and generally monoamorous, I usually prefer to keep all of my interpersonal fulfillment eggs in one particularly fantastic metaphorical basket. I've been in poly relationships before, but while I'm comfortable with my partner having multiple partners, I'm fairly unlikely to pursue the same. Play-wise, I'm seeking casual friends and play partners of all sorts, but I generally don't play with people unless we've already become very good vanilla friends and I'll always prefer a deep and meaningful relationship to something that isn't.
In vanilla life, I'm a grad school student working towards his Ph.D. I can enjoy the occasional night out, but my favorite evenings have always been ones that include good books, long movies, strong drinks, deep conversation, and lots of kink :)
I do switch on occasion, so I have another profile or two set up on both Collarme and other websites that display me from that angle. That said, I much prefer relationships where I can spend 100% of my time in one role or another, and, with the right person, subbing just feels much more natural to me.
If you're interested in learning a little bit more about me, I run a blog: unconventionallover dot tumblr dot com. And, of course, you can always use that message box.
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