SteveVanDa		stevejroda		stevetheon

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I stand at 5' 11" and am of medium build. I work as a freelance graphic designer and design for print and for the Internet. The creativity and control in BDSM are my motivating forces rather than sex. I am term myself a gentleman Dom and although have experience in past i am recently returned to kink within the last year or so. My previous wariness to seek out D/s relationships was born of misunderstanding. Thankfully I have had my eyes opened by one individual whom retains my gratitude to her. I now fully realise that I am not alone in my view of what I want a M/s relationship to be. A sub to me is not an object for abuse. Instead they are a valued possession. Owned but not disregarded or willfully broken. I want a sub to give themselves to my control. Entrusting me with there welfare and being nurtured and disciplined to encourage them to be best sub they can be whilst punishing traits and behaviours that hamper that. Which is one of many reasons I am strongly inclined to kitten play and sissy ownership. I feel both are strong in femininity and favour the nurture and discipline I seek to give. Both allow for varied other play and bondage/restriction that I favour in the main over impact play without context. I'm not a sadist and consider the pain that may result from serious discipline to be contructive. It is for the sub's own good to improve them. Although punishment may be given at unexpected times it is not arbitrary but given for a reason whether general behavioural or infraction of defined rules. I am fully aware that some subs desire punishing and I am happy to do it within context. Most of us know punishing bad behaviour can encourage it when the sub feels desire for said punishments. In a deeper lengthy M/s relationship the aim in my mind is to have awareness of what is genuine punishment to the sub. I know one sub who would blissfully take most punishments I would give but if I fully expressed my profound disappointment at them and decreased my interaction it would be worst I could do. This fits with my view on collaring being potential punishment area. The retraction of a collar or downgrading to lesser kind of collar such as rough string one is an option for punishing by showing decreased status as sub. For me a sub earns their dom/me or owners control and care of them whilst the dom/me owner needs to deserve the respect and devotion of the sub. I am an visible and active member of the local scene in York and attend events in Leeds and Manchester.