One can't justify the proper address of an individual. The have to earn the respect. In this lifestyle to simply tell a submissives you will address me as," sir" at the beginning of a meeting is wrong. Here you will find a 44yr old 6'4 male with 10 years experience in the lifestyle enjoying discipline . After retiring with 20 years in the army and dealing with control. This sir is seeking a lady to become a sub..One that is devoted to him as I will to her. The lifestyle consists of 80%mental and 20% physical don't forget it . Others on here see the opposite and confused the subs . Control is the minds ability to be consumed by a desire to succeed. If you claim the mind the body will follow. Are you her if so lets talk.