SimplyBe

What is failed to be understood is that a dynamic is an honor; well, in my world, with me, it is. And, you, you are attempting to be granted entry into my world. Therefore, you will practice patience, be respectful, and show me who you are. The real you. Not the version you poorly portray on this site. 
I don't mind the watching and waiting. I enjoy the little details people tend to dismiss. So much more is obvious in the ignored details.

I appreciate the time one takes in messaging me, even if the exchange in communication trails off into the void. It's a chance taken. It's living Life. 
I don't like to live with "what ifs". I find them energy sapping, anxiety inducing, haunting. 

Waking up to falling snow...

Neediness and codependency are an ick. I don't want you clinging to my thigh. Tho, kissing my shoe might be interesting...especially, if I feel like pushing you away with it.

A little bit of an interesting visual.

Only a few more weeks of Cuffing Season! 

Google is your friend, if you haven't a clue.

I was told I come across a little harsh sometimes. I gasped, as though shocked, and then laughed. Grinning, I responded, "I know, huh?", as I walked away. 

This weekend's plans: 

Enjoying the fireplace;

Enjoying a medium rare steak, veggies, and a nice red wine;

Enjoying a weather appropriate weekend menu;

Perhaps, fireplace s'mores;

A romcom, documentary, and crime-based movie que.

Of course, these plans may change mood-depending.

I am loving these temperatures!

What is your toxic trait?

EDM Festival Radio(Pandora) and a large iced peppermint mocha coffee, a winning combination for the morning commute into town. Highly recommend!

Driving into town this morning, and I got to thinkin'...

I'm pretty fuckin' selfish. 

With...

My time,

My energy,

My space.

and I absolutely love myself for it. 

cuz ima whole damn vibe, get ya mood right, aye...

if you get down with that then you alright...

I have no interest in Dominants, unless you plan to submit to me.

I have no interest in a Mommy/son dynamic. I have raised my children, and have no interest in raising an adult. Besides, any incestual play is quite revolting to me. You should seek therapy, and take care of your trauma in a healthy environment with the appropriate professionals.

I have no interest in you relocating to me. I have only lived in New England a year. My plan is to reside here for at least three years, maybe five, before I decide if I would like to make this a more permanent move. If I decide I am not enjoying New England as much I had hoped, what will you do? 

Boston was a beautiful sight today.

Do you feel it?

https://youtu.be/zYZWbzEmWY0?si=qoywuOoSlYiG2hhW

This indie artist is a vibe!

https://youtu.be/Q8rtNJjieIc?si=0rvOQR7XOMkl6sHR

Mood ring:

https://youtu.be/18kqUNG9mO4?si=WiFRbOicrdVMK8x4

Recommendations for cider mills in the Massachusetts or New Hampshire areas?

Disappointment and boredom continue to be my experience with this site. I wish you better luck!

Perpetually. 

le sigh.

If you are familiar with 90s R&B and 90s Hip Hop, bonus points for you. If you are comfortable with singing along, additional points! Car karaoke for the win!

It was a nice 10 day vacation, eight out at sea and in three different ports. I was unsure I would enjoy this cruise experience...I enjoyed it very much! Meals prepared everyday, housekeeping completed daily, returning to a made bed for nap or for the night. 
I was disconnected from the world, briefly peeking in on two occasions, only to log out quickly. Too much negativity. I'd rather not. 

Here I am, back in MA, with new insight. 

Another weekend flight to Texas, this time Galveston port, for a 7 day cruise. 
You boys behave yourselves!

I don't think you will see this, as I am now in MA, and you tend to search in your state, but should you...

I still have it. The birthday gift you gave right before we parted ways, all of those years ago. It relocates with me, every time. 
We have both grown so much, well, I know I have. You were a part in my journey, as short lived as it was.
I do hope you find she who makes you happy, and you make her happy. I wish you the love you deserve.

- V
 

I reviewed vehicles for about two years before I finally decided on my purchase. 
Reviewing included maintenance requirement, recalls, input from owners or previous owners, vehicle mechanics, insurance costs, comparisons against other vehicles I was interested in, safety ratings, noted issues, noted benefits, luxuries, test driving multiple vehicles, utilizing weekend, weeklong, and monthlong rental opportunities, for an actual experience with whatever vehicle held my interest at the time. 
I am thorough. 

Mood

To grab you by your hair, pulling your head back. Or, placing the palm of my hand against your forehead, pushing your head back.

Either way, your neck is exposed to me. I trace my nail along your jawline, pressing into your skin when I've reached your throat. I lean down, near your ear as I quietly whisper. A steady warm breath, the soft sound.

"Open your eyes."

"Look at me." 

I smile at you, right before you feel the sting of the slap to your cheek.

I'm in a playful mood.

The tip of my tongue explores the tender skin on your neck, I enjoy the tiny nips I take, as I gently caress your struck cheek, which is warm to the touch. I leave a soft kiss where I see my hand imprint. 
"Mine."

I take you by the hand,

"Come on. I'm in the mood for spaghetti and meatballs for dinner."

I identified as a submissive when I first began this journey. 

I was quite repulsed by this side of Life when I first encountered it(2008). After witnessing acts of submission, several times, I grew curious to understand the why for the behavior; and so I read. And read. And read some more. I asked questions, engaged in online group discussions. I began to understand. The more I understood, the stronger the draw and the inner conflict(due to my field). 

09/11/2024, to be updated, it's late. Had to put thoughts down to "paper" and out of my head.

It's Cuffing Season well, at least the lower temps are indicating that it is near.

Which means it's hibernation time, or, perhaps, I have found myself bored on this site, once again. 

El Capuchino

I recognized him as he entered the coffee shop, a mom and pop place, only because he appeared nervous, unsure of himself. Honestly, I was a little amused by it. I watched him as he looked around, trying to recognize me. The fact that he had walked in as the cafe owners' daughter and I were in the middle of a conversation only made him look more unsure. He heard me state that I was originally from Texas, that being the first hint that I was I. 

He messaged, "Are you here?", as he stood at the counter, the cafe owners' daughter asking to take his order. I responded, "cappuccino, please."

The previous weekend, we missed one another at the munch. Based on the information he gave, I was sure he had shown up. An actual Doer, and not a Talker. So often I read excuses for failure to follow through. 

Thank you Stephanie :) 

Back up, back up, back up, Terry! Oh Lord, Jesus! Wha-whatta, whatta, whatta, whatcha' doin', Terry?!?!?!

Bloody hell, that soundbite is exactly what I heard as I read Random Married Stranger, Could-Be-A Serial Killer/Serial Rapist Terry's message. 

The offer? For me to fly across the country, for the day, so that I could torture him. "Criminal like torture with no safe words and few limitations". Room, dinner, and drink would be taken care of, but flight and rental car are my responsibility.

How can I say no to a "NSA, one-time encounter of a lifetime for a true female sexual sadist"?

Afterall, "neither one of us would be the same ever again, after that night."

In the criminal justice system, sexually based offenses are considered especially heinous. In New York City, the dedicated detectives who investigate these vicious felonies are members of an elite squad known as the Special Victims Unit. These are their stories.

This is why we can't have nice things. 

Mini Humpapolooza Mini Flea, September 14th!

A great opportunity to peruse vendor creations, and add to your toy bag collection, or the start of one!

The Ick

The one who can not keep track of who he has chatted with, the history of the chat...cue second-hand embarrassment. 

LOL

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The one who sends this loooooooooooooooooong message, quoting a loooooooooooooooong Master/slave contract, stating that is what he would like...and signs the message as "slave"...bruh, you were Chad just the previous message(s). 

Oh, Chad. Such the roleplayer you are. Such the newb. Ignoring the advice I have so graciously and generously gifted you. What you continue to present to me is that you want to be serviced, and not be of service. I am not a Pro-Domme, and that is what you desire. The issue for you is that a Pro-Domme provides a service for a fee, and you are too cheap to fund your roleplay. You are attempting to be sly, and offer yourself as a gift, manipulative and obvious you. Tsk, tsk. 

Tricks are for kids. Bless your heart. 

Mood Ring

Weren't you prayin' on your knees for Me?

 https://youtu.be/rR0HMixfwg8?si=WGTdcIN1KDRqCs_E

Your takeaway from a munch, should ultimately be that you have experienced one. You now see it's just a group of normal looking people, dressed as one would, while out in public. 
It's not as scary, or as easily identifiable, as you built up in your mind. 

As for missed connections, a coffee and a chat always work.

:)

Tiki munch this Saturday. Say "hi" if you're there!

Have had a number of people, from both sides of the slash, reach out to me, sharing their experiences here. 
Over the last week or two, I've been mulling over a few ideas, in hopes to fill a potential niche.

Massachusetts has been a unique experience in regard to these specific things we enjoy engaging in, and living. The scenes in Texas and Arizona provided me the opportunities to, first and foremost, accept and enjoy this natural side of myself. Second, the educational resources were abundant. I am grateful for the friendships made, the opportunities for membership at the dungeons, and the play parties. 

Imagine the stifling feeling one has when arriving to a state where BDSM is considered illegal. Some days, I miss the freedom I once took for granted. 
I smile at the memory of being at a play party, and the Phoenix PD arriving. Quite an amusing moment. 

As I said, I have a few ideas i am working on, in hopes of meeting a need for those who view this as something more than most in this asylum do. 

We never really know the people we communicate with here. People have all types of demons they struggle with. It's important to observe for a pattern of red flag behaviors. 
Manipulative behaviors include gaslighting, love bombing, minimizing, attempts to pull you into an argument, attempts to guilt trip you, playing the victim, lack of taking accountability, website login stalking.

If you decide to meet someone, arrive(and depart) at the PUBLIC destination by your own means. You don't want a stranger to know where you live, because, in all honesty, you don't know how dangerous and vindictive they can be. 

If you decide to take communication offline, use a Google Voice number, and make sure that number is connected to a throwaway email account, not your personal one. You don't want to share your actual phone number, as that can provide all kinds of personal information. As a matter of fact, you want to share as little as possible personal information until you've been able to observe and assess adequately.
If you decide to take communication offline, be aware that you might receive calls, unhinged voice and texts messages, at all hours of the day, from people who do not regulate their emotions, and have a tendency to act out. 

Stay safe out there.

 
For the women, submissive and Domme, after reviewing TOS, I am able to share information on this recent experience. I will share the concerning pattern of behavior, how interactions began as pleasant, on Tuesday morning, only to be quite out of control by Friday evening. The predator, and abuser, continues to harass, which is why I decided on this journal entry. 

If we don't take care of one another, who will?

The thing with being impatient and impulsive is that one is prone to behave in a manner unbecoming, you make rash decisions, which are then followed by unfavorable consequences.

When you make your bed, you have to lie in it.

Anyone familiar with ClubFem New England chapter?

Some of you have these enticing profile pictures, in which I find myself wanting to snap my fingers at you, and command, "Here. Now.", while pointing at my side.

So many spiky, stingy, ouchy, tortuous toys, and tools, at KinkyCon Co-Op! I experienced such regret at having given away my toy bag of tools when I packed. 

The ideal would be to connect with one who complements the pleasure I take in such things.

Issa mood.

Him:What attracts you to such a dynamic?

Me: The power given. Especially when he's bigger than I am.

Him: How deep the control, Miss?

Me: I want to own the air he breathes. 

Given the messages I have received regarding munch attendance, I'm quite curious as to what exactly you believe a munch is, and what do you believe occurs at said munches?

I decided to attend this evening's munch, glad I did. 
I took a break from kink events, just as I did from here.
It was nice to interact with those who get it.
It was nice to interact with adults who CHOOSE to conduct themselves in a mature manner; who view me, and others, as people, and not as kink or fantasy dispensers.
If you have never attended a local munch, you are really missing out. 

I was reading through my FL fetish list, and a memory was triggered by "men wearing cologne" and "well-dressed men".

Presentation has meaning. The way you carry yourself, your interactions, both online and off, are noted.

If your only selling point are your self-proclaimed talented oral skills,

let me hold your hand as I tell you this,

you and every other male submissive on this site claim exactly the same. 

Blah

Bored once again.

Having a well-maintained physique is great eye candy, but it does not make up for the dullness.

Excerpt from a message received:

"I find it pleasurable to be the weak submissive one instead of being the alpha as I'm forced to be in public".

Anyone have an opinion on this? What say you?

When you say you have no limits, what do you mean? 
What exactly are you attempting to convey to others?

Too often, from what I’ve observed, people don’t take this seriously.

It’s role playing to them. It’s easy to discard when it’s no longer useful or fun.

For me, it’s quite serious. There’s mutual respect, loyalty, a responsibility to one another.

The difference is that you play a numbers game, meaning you tend to practice the copy pasta form of communication. No one you reach out to means anything to you. 

In all of my previous lives as SimplyBe, I will likely remember you. 

I did say quality, ¿que no?