Good morning,
there is a moment when it is necessary to live as one is, with one's faults, one's qualities, one's desires, one's passions, one's aspirations, especially when these are anchored in oneself since adolescence, but for lack of meeting the right person, not daring enough, persevering in looking for the right person, we put all this in a pocket. The pocket also ages (smile) and there comes a time in life when you just have to let what is in this pocket flow.
It is true that it is easier to live with another person when their personalities complement each other, especially from a sexual relational point of view. BDSM is one of them.
Everyone carries their riches within themselves and discovering them is always wonderful. We never finish discovering each other.
This may be paradoxical, but for me, living an SM, BDSM relationship is a freedom. Expressing your desires, aspirations, being submissive, dominated, allows you to free yourself. Even to be constrained, immobilized, attached, ... by the right person, is to be free, it is to be free of mind and body for the other.
I open my door wide, to those who wish and want to cross this door, and initiate a project of life, of exchange, of sharing, ...
Kind regards