Unfortunately, there are many fake, dumb and ignorant people on this site but there are also a couple of women who are seriously looking and put a lot of effort in their profiles and journal entries. I think that it is difficult to find an ideal partner on the internet but if you are looking for something very specific, it might still be more efficient than getting to know people in real life.

I would like to clarify a couple of things to avoid misunderstands and prevent us from wasting our time:

1.) I am not necessarily looking for a dumb woman. I just want you to appear dumb to many people because of your looks (slutty trophy wife, huge boobs, etc). I dont mind if you are not the brightest, but I like intelligent women as well. Even if you belong to the brighter ones, it is very unlikely that you will outsmart me :)

2.) I am not looking for casual sex or no-strings-attached fun. I dont need to register on a site like collarme for that. So if you are not open for a long-term relationship, please tell me in advance.

3.) It is highly unlikely that I am going to find a woman who lives close to me, so distance will always be an issue. Even if you cannot currently relocate (because of your studies, etc), this is not a deal breaker and I am sure we can work something out. If I trust you and you have proven your identity to me, I might also be willing to visit you for a first date in your area or cover your travel expenses in advance.

4.) If you did not put a lot of effort in your message, profile or journal entries, there is unfortunately a high probability that you are not who you pretend to be. In that case, I will ask you to prove your identity to me by webcam or by taking a specific photo with a digital camera. If you are not willing to do so, I will not invest further time to get to know you.

5.) It is also highly unlikely that I am going to find a woman who is looking for the exact same things that I am looking for. Obviously, the more similarities we have the better but I am always happy to discuss your own fantasies and ideas and I think that we will be able to integrate most of them. I am very open-minded and I like much more than I have mentioned in my profile. So if you, for example, like to be slapped and humiliated not only for punishment, this is something that I would also find very arousing, but it is by no means necessary for me to have a fulfilling relationship.

6.) I am a bit sceptical regarding the term slave because I personally consider a slave to be one among others and not a person that I really care about. As I am looking for a woman that I eventually want to marry and spend the rest of my life with, I will obviously always care about you, your feelings and your well-being.

I have a clear idea of what I want my trophy to look like and how I want our relationship to work.

Your primary job is to make sure that you always look perfect and sexy for me. If you fail to achieve this, I will punish and humiliate you to make sure you learn your lesson and it doesnt happen again. I will slap you in the face, talk down on you, pull you by your hair in front of the mirror and tell you that you look like dirt. But as long as you manage to look pretty and behave submissively, you have nothing to worry about and I will make you feel very loved, appreciated and protected.

I will setup a strict daily schedule for you because as a dumb slut you desperately need someone to tell you exactly what you have to do. You will get up at least one hour earlier than I do, take a shower, do your hair and makeup, make sure you smell seductive and dress as I told you the evening before. You will then wake me up with a gentle kiss and perform a good morning striptease for me. I am always extremely horny when I wake up, so this be immediately lead to a first round of rough sex.

When I am done with you, you will get back to the bathroom, fix your hair and makeup, and while I take a shower, you will prepare breakfast for me. I will get eggs, bacon and toast, while you will only eat a small bowl of fruit salad. When breakfast is over, I will leave for work.

You know that you have little time before I return for lunch, so you hurry up to get to the gym for your morning workout. When you return, you take a shower, do your hair and makeup and dress with a very slutty top, tight skirt and overknee boots. Then you start preparing lunch for me.

When I arrive for lunch, you welcome me at the door with an intense tongue kiss. I tell you to walk to the bedroom and back, so I can see what you look like. You make sure that you walk like a model on the catwalk, as you have been taught in the model course that I sent you to last month. Your looks and your performance are excellent and I feel my dick is getting stiff in my pants. When you come back you realize that I am getting horny, so you open my pants and start giving me an intense blowjob. I lift your skirt (of course you are not wearing any underwear) and start fingering your asshole. Obviously, I can use all your holes anytime I want and today I feel like my thick cock wants to stretch a tight asshole. So I give you a rough ass fucking before I eventually push you down on your knees and ejaculate a huge load of sperm in your mouth. I tell you to open your mouth and gargle with my cum. You know that you are not allowed to swallow before I explicitly tell you to, so you keep my warm sperm in your mouth when you go back to the kitchen. You serve the dishes, a large plate for me and a tiny plate for you, we sit down on the dining table and I nod in the direction of your plate. You spit my cum on your food and we start having lunch.

Before I return to work, I tell you that we will be going out tonight at 7 p.m. and that I want you to wear an elegant dress with high heels. You know that you have to hurry up again, because you have an appointment at the beauty saloon, need to go to the gym for your afternoon workout and visit the solarium to tan your skin. You eventually manage to do everything but when it is 7 p.m. you are not ready yet. I am getting angry with you, slap you in the face and tell you to hurry up.

We eventually make it on time and meet with one of my business partners and his wife for dinner. We are talking about the economy, which means that my business partner, his wife and myself are talking about the economy because you have nothing to add to the conversation. This is because you have no clue what is going on in the world because I didnt allow you to read the newspaper, listen to the news or read any sophisticated book or article ever since we met. And even if you were able to add something to the conversation at some point, I told you to forget it right away because I want everybody to view you as the stupid blonde slut that you are. I even told you to add a stupid, thoughtless comment from time to time, and when you finally did, everybody laughed at you and I added: "Come on, honey. Give me a kiss, go to the bathroom and fix your makeup." You gave me the kiss and started to go to the bathroom and everyone in the restaurant stared after you because you were the damn fucking hottest slut everybody had ever seen.

I hope the description of this pretty representative day gives you a good impression of what your life will look like. I want you to be the hottest and dumbest girl the world has ever seen and I want to show you off in public as often as I can. For this purpose, we will go out regularly (see the list of my likes in my profile), you dress up and I can present your amazing body in public.

To achieve the look that I have in mind (take a look at the pictures in my profile which come pretty close), you have to get breast implants. Its not only because I like big boobs but I want everybody to see that they are fake. With regard to your appearance, money will never be a limiting factor, i.e. I will only send you to the best surgeon we can find and I will always buy you the latest fashion and cosmetics. We will start with small implants and increase the size over time until we reach the point where any further increases start to look ugly. But depending on your body, I am looking to increase the size of your boobs as much as possible, so that nobody will ever overlook your huge boobs and it is obvious that you have implants. However, I am not interested in other cosmetic surgery because I prefer a natural look, so breast implants will be the only surgery you will get.

Everything else depends on what you look like when we meet, but I have a preference for long blonde hair (so you might have your hair dyed and you might get extensions), I want you to have flawless and beautifully tanned skin (you will visit the beauty saloon and solarium regularly and take excellent care of your body) and I want you to have a slim body with a small waist (you will eat little and healthy, work our regularly and might wear a corset).

In summary, I want you to be the hottest sexbomb around, a loving wife, a great cook and an amazing slut in the bedroom. That is all you need to be able to do but it will be a full-time job to do these things properly.

I am looking for a strict monogamous long-term relationship which leads to marriage after we are perfectly comfortable with each other and our relationship. I want you to be fully dependant on me. You wont have your own money, you wont have your own keys and our marriage contract will have you lose everything should you ever leave me or betray me. All I will give you is a mobile phone which allows you to call one number only which is my private mobile number. So, if you want to leave the apartment, you will have to call me. If you want to buy something, you will have to ask me. I will fulfil you every wish as long as you behave submissively and take excellent care of your body, but I want you to be constantly reminded that you are totally lost without me and I want you to be grateful for my love, protection and guidance.

I have been around for a while now and would like to share some thoughts that might be helpful for many submissive women on here.

My experience so far shows me that many women don't know how to deall with the hundreds (maybe thousands) of (self-proclaimed) dominantswho are contacting them and how to make a qualified decision who to meet with and who to eventually give their heart and soul to. 

Therefore, it is important to be aware of the following facts:

1.) Are there really (much) more dominant men than submissive women?

Every serious study on domination and submission conducted so far has found no evidence that there are more dominant men than submissive women out there. When you look at what is going on on collarme, however, you quickly get the feeling that there are at least five times more dominant men than submissive women. So you should ask yourself why this is actually the case. There are certainly many factors but the obviously most important one is that many men think that it is easier to get a submissive woman to have sex with them and therefore register on sites like collarme. However, this is not the case at all but creates a huge imbalance between men and women on this site that makes things for all truly dominant and submissive people much more difficult.

2.) How can I figure out who is truly dominant and who just pretends to be dominant?

Most fake guys around here are worried that they could be spotted as not being truly dominant. Therefore, they try to sound as dominant as possible in their first message they send you. So if you get a rude first message from someone, chances are high that he is not the person you are looking for, even if you like some things you read. A true dominant is actually more likely to send you a polite first message, without feeling the need to be harsh or particularly aggressive right away.

A second thing that is important is the question if your dominant can clearly articulate what he is looking for and what differentiates him from others. People who sound wishy-washy and tell you (and everyone else) that they are exactly into your fetishes without any proof in their profile that this is actually the case, are ususally fake guys who would have sex with just about any woman they can find.

A third thing that is important and often misunderstood by many is the following: There is a huge difference between being dominant and being rude, selfish and egoistic. A true dominant would actually care a lot about what is important to you and what makes you happy and it will influence how he treats you BUT at the same time he will never give you the feeling that you actually have the power to influence him in his behavior and decisions. This might sound a bit contradictory at first glance, but women who have already had the privilege to serve a true dominant will know exactly what I mean: You always have the feeling that everything you do and experience is entirely determined by your dominant's will and preferences, and yet in a magical way your life is wonderfully fulfilling, you are perfectly happy and there is nothing else that you could wish for.

Finally, a true dominant is unlikely to make you address him as 'sir' or 'master'. He will rather have you call him by his first name because he doesn't need any formalities to be recognized as a dominant. It is much more important to him to earn your trust and establish a close relationship that makes you feel comfortable.

If you are aware of these facts and keep these information in mind while reading your messages and clicking through profiles, you will quickly figure out that many offers that may initially sound tempting are not worth your time and efforts, and that you receive actually very few messages that are worth further consideration.

Here is a great idea to give you an even better feeling about myself and our relationship.

He are 8 things that I expect you to say about me in 5 years:

1.) "He was very strict and dominant from the first day we met, but still gave me the chance to get to know him as a person before I made a final commitment and we moved together."

2.) "He has an amazingly high emotional intelligence. He quickly understands how people tick, what their deepest desires are and what they are scared of. Once I became very close with Alex, there was nothing I could hide from him, which made me feel wonderfully vulnerable and dependent on him."

3.) "He is a true perfectionist. Once we moved together, he invested a lot of time to micro-manage me 24/7 during the first couple of months. It was extremely tough to remember all the little things that he wanted me to pay attention to, but his strict and unyielding hand helped me not to repeat mistakes."

4.) "At the beginning, I was a bit worried that my entire life could be only about being shown off from time to time and that during the rest of the time, I could quickly be bored. Looking back, I can say that I was shown off much more than I had hoped for and that while I have always felt primarily as a trophy and sex toy, I have also had a great vanilla life that has kept boredom far away from me."

5.) "He also has a very sadistic side that he didnt reveal to me until I got to know him really well and felt perfectly comfortable being. He did things to me that I would have never agreed on at the beginning but all these things turned out to be wonderfully stimulating and made me feel sluttier, dirtier and more vulnerable than ever before, and I love him for that."

6.) "He is a true sex machine and an absolute animal in the bedroom. After we had sex, I always felt totally exhausted and devastated. He had warned me of being extremely aggressive in the bedroom, but I had never thought that I would have to be scared that he could break my pelvis during sex. Having been fucked that way for years now, I feel I would quickly fall asleep having normal sex with a regular guy."

7.) "I will never forget the first day I celebrated my birthday with him. He had bought me a sybian and forced me ride on it 20 [best guess, obviously depends on your age] times that day for 20 screaming orgasms - one for every past year in my life. I would have never believed that a woman can have so many orgasms on a single day, but the sybian - combined with a lot of force and cock sucking - made it possible. The next day I had to stay in bed for an entire day because I just couldnt get up. That day, Alex was nicer to me than he had ever been before, took great care of me and helped me recover. That showed me that he truly loves me and that he pushes me up to or slightly above my physical limits, but no millimeter further."

8.) "During the past couple of years, Alex managed to become my best friend, strict husband, rigorous teacher, visionary leader, reliable guardian and sexual tormentor in one single person, and I love him to death for that."