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MASTERDAVE2
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NOTE: this is the first time i'm adding to my profile in years. please read this if you intend to speak to me at all.
i might video chat with you or privately chat with you, but only if you respect me. i am not a slut, whore or cunt. i do not stick things up my ass. i am not fantasizing about you dominating me & hurting me. respect me or leave me alone. do not even try to command me if you are not my master. i'm not cheap or easy. i will log off & put you on ignore or block you or whatever it is i can do to make you disappear. if i'm getting naked for you, i don't expect abuse in return. be a gentleman who would like to dominate me lovingly. i will fall at your feet if you're the right man. now, back to the old profile...
if you are gorean, skip this profile.
i'm only interested in corresponding with men who are local to me. by 'local,' i mean seattle, not everett or olympia or the peninsula or east of the cascades. seattle, bellevue, redmond, renton, tukwila, shoreline, shorewood--towns & neighborhoods on the buslines.
i do not expect to find a relationship very soon, if ever. our relationship, which will lead to marriage, must begin in the vanilla world. i will not address you as 'sir' or 'master' now or ever. i don't consider the d/s lifestyle to be about roleplaying. it is about depth & reality.
i will address you by your first name & you will address me by mine. we will date, have coffee, talk on the phone, & there will be no 'training' required. no dom has the right to train a sub anymore than a sub has to train a dom. we are equals who have specific & occasionally opposite desires.
I/if Y/you D/do T/this D/do N/not C/contact M/me. i think this capitalization is an affectation & absolutely stupid.
why anyone would agree to go into a relationship based on fantasy is beyond me. i'm sure this is why so many attempts at d/s relationships fail. you cannot live in this lifestyle 24/7. life is a balancing act. you have to take everything into consideration.
i am stating here that i am a sub. therefore do not approach me on the defensive, ordering me around, calling me names, giving me tasks, etc.
if you're a dom, you are secure enough about your ability to dominate to know that the balance of power between us will always be right. because of that, you can take time to get to know me as a woman, as a writer & artist, as your best friend. if you are not interested in these things, i am not interested in you, period.
imagine that we are meeting in a grocery store or at a jazz club, or some public place where ordinary things happen. we're in regular street clothes, doing plain things, like everyone does every day of their lives. if you are attracted to me, or i am attracted to you, one of us can approach the other & say hello. this is the person you're going to live with for the rest of your life. you absolutely have to be able to know his or her character. there must be a courtship before there is a collar.
the submissive woman you want is already here. it is your task to find out if she's emotionally stable, dependable, nice, intelligent, sociable & trustworthy enough to meet your standards.
the same goes for me. you need to meet my standards just as i meet yours.
if you expect me to put my life in your hands by surrendering my power to your judgment, without even knowing me or allowing me to know you, you are crazy. keep walking.
i am not interested in men who are looking for sex & play FIRST. i have no problem with free sexual choice, fucking one or two or 10 men a day if i want to. that is fine.
but the sexual component of this relationship is different. it cannot be the first consideration, nor can it be the most important thing.
if we can't get up in the morning & sit down to breakfast together, read the papers, talk about our plans for the day, decide what needs doing in our shared life & feel INCREDIBLY LUCKY to be able to share that together, we do not belong together.
i'm putting these important boundaries around myself because i am valuable. until you learn how to protect me, i will protect myself. & until i learn to respect you, i will respect myself.
love begins with friendship. love is the foundation for trust. i am a person who has been burned repeatedly by men. it ain't gonna happen again.
if you want me, be prepared for the long haul.
& ask yourself, as i ask myself: how can you believe that the person you see here is the person you want to invest your lifetime journey of exploration in? what do you know about him or her? what can you discern from a profile on collarme?
be rational but passionate. be realistic but imaginative. believe that you will earn my surrender just as you would earn my 'yes' to your proposal of marriage in the real world. your intelligence will make you stand out from the rest of the herd. attract me to you so i will want to go all the way.
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it's truly funny how many letters i get that have just a few words like 'how you doin tonight,' etc. i usually will not respond to these because they are from men who see me come online & then pounce on me without reading my profile. sorry, charlies.
also, i don't pm, i don't yahoo, i don't do long distance & there's a reason i wrote a profile. please read it.
there is some flexibility in my likes/dislikes. i remember being fucked from behind once & asking him to pull my hair so my head came back hard. he did, & i really liked it. i was also spanked once & i think, were it done correctly, that might be something i'd do & like.
what i really like is exhibitionism. i would love to be tied to a tree, then left alone, but it would have to be in a place where people actually didn't walk. i like the fantasy, but i think the reality would be too much for a stranger & certainly NOT a child.
there is a festival in bellingham, near where i live, where these kinds of role plays are enacted. can someone tell me when this festival is? do people ever come stag, or is it always a couples/group thing? i'd hate to come just to watch. i have a lot of fantasies i'd love to work on.
of course, this belies my statement that i don't play & am looking for a serious commitment. sometimes a girl just needs an orgasm, you know? that's why i come to the video chatroom once in a great while.
be well & have fun. i wish you all the best, even if we're not a match or you dislike what i wrote in my profile. c'est la vie.
ssg
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i just tried to reply to all the emails i've missed out on in the last five months. i hope i've answered yours. i do intend to reply, always, to intelligent messages, regardless of whether we agree.
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I haven't been onlinse since august. i'm trying to deal with 50 emails.
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if you don't know what Gor is or what the Gorean lifestyle is about, you can read an extensive review here:
http://archive.salon.com/books/feature/200/05/18/gor/print.html
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lately i've been getting a lot of messages from people who say "thanks for viewing my profile--wanna talk?" well, i didn't VIEW anyone's profile. i never view a profile unless that person has viewed me first.
so today i see this new feature--"who's searched for me." i figure this explains why people think i viewed their profiles. see, i had a standard search set up & when i logged on, the results of that search would appear on the front page. i didn't think the objects of my search would see that they had appeared in my random search, but apparently, they did.
now i see that collarme has added this new feature which indicates to me that not only do people see when you've viewed their profiles, they see when you've SEARCHED for their profiles.
i set up my front page to search for a ridiculous parameter now, & only one profile appears, & it appears every time i log on. since that time, i haven't gotten a single message from anyone indicating that he thought i'd viewed or searched for his profile.
i hope this was the problem all along & that i will no longer receive messages from people who erroneously believe i viewed them. again, i did not & i do not go viewing unless a person has first viewed--or contacted--me.
ssg
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i very sincerely & warmly thank the several wonderful people who took the time to write to me & comment on my last journal entry. you did so with class & i return the warmth to you.
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what is it with men & anal sex? i, for one, can't imagine why i would want someone fucking me through my rectum. it hurts & it's ruinous to a woman's insides. it stinks & it's unsanitary--e. coli, baby! what's wrong with a vagina?
& while i'm at it, why do men want to fist women? that is abusive & once again, physically destructive to a woman's plumbing. it seems to me the men who want to force a fist into a tiny vagina & their dicks into tiny rectums are not men who love women. men, maybe this is a fetish or taboo for you, but that doesn't mean you should act on it. have you been following what's happening in Congo? i'd rather die than be tortured anally or slugged by a fist in my pretty little place.
so in case i'm too subtle here, do not contact me EVER if you want to fist me or fuck my ass. i will NEVER allow it & don't even want to talk to you if this is something you think is okay. such inconsiderate, selfish behavior is intolerable.
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do not contact me if you're more than 10 years younger than me.
do not contact me if you are a "daddy" looking for a little girl.
do not contact me if you think you can change me to bend to your will or enjoy your interests, as listed in your profile. if it's not in my interests, i am not interested & will never change my position.
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3 things:
1) do not send me a "canned" response & try to pass it off as original & relevant to me. subs talk to each other in chat rooms; we know when we're being bullshitted by a dom who's making the rounds.
2) do not try to convince me that i should enter into an online relationship that will eventually become "real," especially if you are not LOCAL. i have PLAINLY stated my bottom line. LOCAL MEN ONLY.
3) do not expect a reply from me if you didn't include a photo. i have 9 photos attached to my profile & you saw all of them, in addition to my video greeting. that's REAL. get real with me or get lost.
i am extremely frustrated & annoyed with so-called doms who completely ignore what i have said & believe they can somehow attain my surrender with their arrogance. i seek dominance, not petulance.
& if you don't like what i just wrote here, move on & leave me alone. i don't need your opinion of my uppityness.
ssg
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in case it's not clear to you from reading my profile, if you don't have a profile with a photo & clearly stated preferences & limits, don't contact me.
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if you send me a message saying 'hi' or 'hi, how are you,' or 'what's going on, baby,' or any other amorphous, ambiguous comment, i will block you. i will not answer, 'hi,' or 'i'm fine,' or 'nothing.' i will block you. as far as i'm concerned, such an overture from a potential suitor lacks imagination & is rude. if you simply ask me, 'do you have yahoo?' i will not bother to reply, 'yes i do, why do you ask?' we are already here, we can already chat & you have already messaged me. what do you need yahoo for? i'm not giving out my yahoo information any more than i'm giving you my home address. you will not get a faster or better reply or interface from me at yahoo; in fact, i do not chat on yahoo (anymore, & almost never in the past) because chat bores me, but i am here & often will creep into a chatroom or video chatroom for the fellowship i find there, quietly listening to others & chiming in as warranted. look for me there if you think you have something interesting to say to me--something that relates to my profile, which, of course, you have taken the time to READ before you messaged me, right? oh, & since i have exhibitionistic tendencies, i do enjoy going into the video chatrooms so i can be viewed, naked, on cam by many. i should think that would be far more interesting to men & women than just chatting me up on yahoo. it certainly is more interesting to me.
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A NOTE ON STYLE: why do people choose to add garish, loud colors to the backgrounds of their profiles & journals? why choose unreadable typefaces & all kinds of cheap art that, frankly, sucks? if i can't read your profile, i chalk it up to the fact that the author has a cluttered mind with no sense of style & grace. just go black on white, or white on black if you must, or some simple combination of readable type against a background that doesn't obscure or distract. NO ALL CAPS, no cheesy emoticons. a well-written, clean, smartly laid-out profile & journal is more attractive to me than any number of handsome photos a Dom may include. pleasePleasePLEASE! consider what i'm saying. give us a break!
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i seek a dominant male. i do not seek a sadist. as far as i'm concerned, dominants & submissives have nothing to do with sadism & masochism. S/m & D/s are two things that are polar opposites. you may, personally, combine these things. i, however, do not. i am submissive, a slavegirl. i seek a dominant, a master. that means i seek a man who is my superior in strength & control. he is a leader. i am in awe of him. i obey him. that also means he admires me. he is in awe of me. i am strong & i am responsible & i'm a leader. but i defer to him. this is what he wants & what i want. we choose. our relationship is very much like an artist & her manager. i have talent; he has the ability to manage that talent, including time management, brokering deals, first-line representation & disciplining me to start & finish. he also has talent, but being dominant, he's already more successful than i am. i obey him, i follow his instruction & guidance & i do not question him. I TRUST HIM. it is because i trust him (& that he is worthy of being trusted) that the relationship exists. when i accomplish a goal, he & i both enjoy the fruit. sexually, i serve him & he enjoys the control he has over me. his sexual needs involve owning me & having his way. my expressions & behaviors include being bound, blindfolded, collared, but this is not exclusively sexual. there are specifially sexual things we both love, because we're two halves of a broken coin. if you've read this, please note that i am saying the largest part of the relationship i seek has nothing to do with sex. too many members of this group are here for sex. if that's you, count me out. i will disappoint you.
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straight (not bi, not gay, not poly)
male (not ts, not female, not other)
dominant (not switch, not other)
local (within 20 miles)
intelligent (not necessarily college-educated, but at least as smart as i am)
literate (perfect grammar & near-perfect spelling, able to discern good writing & poetry from bad)
available (not married, not separated, no carrying a torch, not 40+ & never married)
genteel (not mannered or fake; i'm not a 'lady' or a 'girl,' & astonished when a stranger addresses me like that)
good-natured (you are optimistic, have a great sense of humor, don't take things personally, sleep less than 9 hours a day, have ambitions, are ready to go do things, avoids reality tv, video/computer games, viewing porn & the barcalounger & are not threatened by anything i wrote in this journal entry).
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i just figured something out.
i have a domme's mind & a sub's heart.
that would appear to define me as a switch, but i have no interest in commanding a man to kneel down while i circle him with a whip & fuck him with a strap-on.
how can a man, knowing this about me, use it to his advantage?
go ask solomon, or if you've figured it out, send me a message.
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as of today, i will no longer reply to any messages from men who a) have no photographs or complete information--age, height, weight, interests, likes/dislikes--on their profiles &/or b) do not include this information in their email inquiries to me.
i expect this will drastically reduce the number of messages i receive in the future.
i shouldn't have to explain why i'm doing this, but if you have the least inability to understand it, just notice how many photos & how much revealing information i have included in my profile.
look, in the real world, we'd meet & talk & the visual component would be included in that. visual imagery is not always about appealing & repulsive. the eye perceives one thing; the mind perceives the rest. there is a vibe that can't be described with words. it is a feeling, not a knowing.
no censoring; just honesty.
no brag; just fact.
no lies. no cosmetics. no vain choices.
you, me, our eyes, our minds, our experiences which build the context for our futures.
for fuck's sake, read my profile & look at my pix. there may be a pop quiz! if you ask me a question i've already answered in my profile, buh-bye! prepared to be deleted & blocked.
i know there's a lot to read. i'm almost sorry about it. but you should be able to figure out in the first few paragraphs whether i'm the one you've been waiting for or i'm a lotta work you'd never want to undertake.
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today's installment: what's in a name?
you can be certain i won't respond to you if your name includes any references to satan, evil, pain, sadist or daddy. i'll add to this list as time goes by. but based on these roots, it should be obvious that i am interested in good, positivity, kindness, no pain, god & Light & that i have no interest in pedophiles or incest play. have a lovely day!!!
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jeez, it's just one little detail after another. i arrived here today to realize i'd left myself logged on since yesterday.
so please don't think i'm ignoring you if you send me a chat invite when i appear to be online. it's most likely i'm not actually here.
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here's another important note: it may take me a while to reply to you. this is not because i'm so busy. most likely it's because i'm thinking about it.
you shouldn't take it personally.
i've also been considering meeting in a group with several doms who have invited me for coffee. i wonder how that would fly. i'd propose that we all meet together at one restaurant, get a big table, & break some bread while we chat about what we like & what we want. it would be important to me to detect a sense of unity & shared appreciation for what we espouse.
it would be okay with me if other women &/or subs were also in attendance.
now this is starting to sound like a gathering at the wet spot, right? but i see this as a much different thing. the wet spot, to begin with, is dark & airless. it is necessarily so, since it wouldn't do for anyone to be able to see inside without an invitation from a member.
a restaurant would be light & airy, theoretically, & i'd want this meeting to take place in the daylight. we'd be less 'coupled' than people at the wet spot are, in general, so there would be fewer turf battles.
i shouldn't refer only to the wet spot when i talk about resources for doms & subs in seattle. i understand there are others. i just don't know what or where they are.
i'm thinking aloud here. i'd love to hear opinions, however. feel free to weigh in.
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it occurs to me today, after having a number of doms contact me, that i should point out the obvious: profile loves, likes, lives for, curious about, will tolerate, hates, etc., have to be fairly closely aligned. don't you agree?
for instance, i can't stand country music. to me, it's an indicator of a lifestyle i left far behind--or more accurately, never subscribed to or fit in with--& never want to get within 10,000 miles of again.
& that's just one of many, many points that would--& should be--dealbreakers. you shouldn't be interested in me any more than i'd be in you. after all, you're not going to change me--why would you want to bother? i'm never going to change you & would never presume to try.
so please read your list & then read my stuff. there's no point in us butting heads or hearts. we is what we is & there is an identical or complementary heart out there for each of us to fine.
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| Age: 22 |
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