Where to begin?
Everybody it seems has an opinion on what makes a real Dominant or Submissive but opinions are like arseholes. Everyone has one and they’re all full of sh**.
I think that BDSM can be whatever you want it to be. My checklist contains some of the things I’ve liked with some people but might not necessarily want with another.
Anyway, I’m not looking to manage someone 24/7 at least not immediately. Whether a relationship is basically vanilla, or has a D/s dynamic to it there needs to be a kind of “getting to know you” period at the start though hopefully not too long!
I’m looking for someone who I can share my vanilla interests with as well as someone who will accept discipline when she has disappointed me and sometimes just because I want to, someone who can accept a little public humiliation and a private spanking before being made to wait until I’m ready for her.
If I try to write any more along these lines I’m going to show up my lack of imagination so I’ll give it a rest for now.
As for me I’m a 51 year old Scot living in London (Obviously!) and I’m into photography and spending time with my friends (Corny I know but it’s true) I’ve even been known to tread the boards in Amateur Dramatics. I work for a large voluntary organisation which for obvious reasons I won’t describe here and in another life I used to teach Karate (I’ve even still got the suit).
My life is still a work in progress so more later…