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sadieNYC

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After xxx years here, it's time to update the profile. While most of it remains the same, the tweaks are important. WHAT I AM SEEKING
Ultimately, I would like to make a real-life, long-term heart/body connection with the RIGHT Dominant, who cares about the world, has a sense of humor and interested in incorporating our mutual *interests* into a multi-faceted relationship. I believe that love and D/s are not mutually exclusive. WHO I AM
I have a deep submissive streak within me that is looking for someone to balance my strong-in-control-in-RL nature. I have opinions, needs and desires: if you don't find that to be a contradiction in a submissive, read on! So, while BDSM may be a part of my sexual identity, it does not define me as a person: My life has many, many facets that are all equally important: my family, friends, work, my art. I am genuine, sane and happy! Just missing this *one* thing..... Behaving submissively is easy. Feeling __ compelled__ to submit - surrender - is much more difficult and wholly dependent upon that special connection between us. As noted, I'm a very strong-minded woman. Smart as a whip. Can your inner strength surpass mine? Can your creative mind weave its wicked way into my head? It is the truly special person that will win my trust and submission, where I can feel free to relinquish control to you. WHAT IT IS - AND IS NOT - FOR ME
It is NOT about kinky sex. I am looking for the dynamics of a genuine Power Exchange in our connection. I crave the intimatcy and intensity of this dynamic in both sexual (mostly) AND non-sexual (a bit) contexts. On the other hand, I don't think the 24/7 formal D/s relationship is for me. And, strange as it may seem to some, I not *naturally* service oriented! But if YOU are the right person, it is natural and easy tfor me o serve you willingly and happily! THE KINKS
I have learned that some things are immutable, while others are changable and fluid. I have been surprised to find myself responding to things that I NEVER would have dreamed I would do. So... never say never, I guess. :D For example, I am NOT A MASOCHIST. This is an unchangable thing. But, I am also a sensation junkie and impact play can be hugely satisfying if it is used in ways other than to satisfy a singular fetish (i.e. spanking play for its own sake is boring to me). Toys are wonderful when they serve as tools in our play/connection, not as the sole focus or the objective. You should, of course, know how to use them safely. But your personality, creativity, voice, mouth, hands and body AND HEART are your greatest and most powerful tools.
If you are a sadist by nature, I am not for you. If, however, you understand and enjoy the power of the psychological aspects of the D/s play dynamic, the balance of pain/pleasure, then we should talk! I want you to push my boundaries... Can you get into my head? Keep me off balance? Get my adrenaline flowing? YES! Bring it on!! I know many men are not into this, but I love a good roleplay! Not a requirement, but the energy created by committing to a scenario and character plus all the other elements (restraint/ teasing/toys/mindfuck/body play) can add up to a HOT and sizzling scene. The drama queen in me is well pleased by a well-played scene! Did I mention that I LOVE YOUR VOICE? Husky, sexy, menacing, titallating, threatening, silky. Talk dirty to me and I'm yours forever!! Restraints of all kinds are good: I *do* love the feel of being bound in rope. Playing with you is FUN! I laugh when I play. I hope you do, too!
THE CAVEATS * I'm NOT your inferior and I expect to be treated with respect. *We'll chat for a bit online or via phone, but I want to meet you sooner than later in real life. It's the only way to really know if we'll click or not. And we'll have a vanilla first date, cause I don't play the first time we meet! Whether we go forward or not, I promise we'll have a lovely time together! * While I may play with the energy and enthusiasm of a teenager, I'm an emotionally and mentally healthy adult: you should be as well. * I'm looking to connect with men who HONEST, real, Not Married and are secure in themselves and their psyches. Did I mention NOT MARRIED? I'll be checking, so if you are, please pass on by!

* LOCATION MATTERS if you are serious about exploring a genuine, real-life relationship. I have a full time job and am a single mom w/half time custody and don't have a car. Ability to travel to see you is limited. You need to live in NYC: Manhattan, Brooklyn is best. Queens and some LI (if near the RR) might be possible. I want to meet up to go to a movie, dinner... you know... go on a DATE. It shouldn't require the use of frequent flyer miles or an Easy Pass. * Age matters as well. I've tried dating younger, but the generation gap is REAL. If you are young enough to be my son, you are TOO YOUNG!. Late 40's and up works best.

Well, I warned you that I was a strong-willed woman! But, I'm also easy-going, fun to be and play with! I'm genuine, normal, sane and a great and loyal friend. Also,in the spirit of disclosure, age is slightly underreported. Inquire within. So, if you've read this far and think there's a possiblilty to pursue something between us... please drop me a note!
PS By the number of messages I get from underage out of area men, it is clear they haven't read this profile. If you have read this far and fall into those categories, do not expect a reply. Can't be any clearer, no?

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12/20/2011 9:23:00 PM
Warning: just my opinion. Please throw your flames elsewhere. I get a lot of mail here. Yes, I know and admit that my photo is there to get attention (and it does!), I wonder what many who write are expecting in response to this type of post: "how you doing?" "what are you doing tonight?" "write back"(that's the whole post). "hey, beautiful" Etc. I never respond to these. To those that are really seeking a connection, with me or with anyone, I offer a few, basic suggestions. 1. READ THE PROFILE. We can always tell if someone has. It's considerate and I will always respond in kind 2. Be a person. Write as if you were face to face, not anonymously. The more genuine you are, the more approachable and interesting you are That's it. Of course, if you are only trolling here (and there are so many who are), then why are you reading this? Carry on as you will.

11/24/2010 3:10:01 PM

Thanks to all of you for your supportive comments. I know that there are trolls in all walks of life, and CM is no exception. It's still a shock, though, when they show up in your inbox!

 

I've also  had comments that I seem to be a 'control freak' or not 'submissive enough'{#}  (again, from those that I've never met or communicated with)

 

It may be clear from my profile that I'm a strong woman, which I know can be intimidating for some.  I am not for everyone and I am discriminating.  It is the rare Dom that inspires my submission, but all the more valuable and wonderful (for both) when it happens!

 


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GoddessMonax
 
 Age: 23
  Utah