Where to start..... Well I came into this scene as a much younger man. I honestly believed that it was just a purely sexual endeavor. Through many failed encounters and sub par experiences, I have come to the realization there is more to all this. I found I was missing the mental and emotional aspect to this relationship and just focusing on the physical. Upon researching more into the life style I found something startlingly interment. The D/s relationship allows a person/s to delve into their "darker" emotions. These are emotions we all as people deal with such as greed, jealousy, anger, etc. I find that I am attracted to someone that challenges me mentally much more so than physically. I however am not about the complete control of ones mind. I do not find pleasure in being told what to think and what to learn in an overall aspect of life. I constantly am in search of the higher answer to our purpose on this earth. That being as it is I am looking for someone who challenges me to learn more and more. A person who makes me feel like improvement of self both mentally and physically is paramount. I deplore ignorance. I also do not subscribe to the feminist apporach to the D/s relationship. Meaning the subservience of men because of the belief that the woman is the superior species. This is one of the largest fallacies in the D/s relationship to me. Well that and the whole monetary domination idea. Why should a person give to you just because you consider yourself better? To those who partake in that excursively I say get a job and stop praying on those who truly want to submit. I believe the subservience to another is something much deeper than some sociological or monetary aspect. Its is a deep an unyielding trust in another person. It is a connection based on strong mental and emotional stimulus. In doing so a man can find satisfaction in surrendering the superficial societal aspects that define him as such. I am what most would consider the typical alpha male. I am the definition of masculine in appearance and demeanor. I am into the things that would make a man a "mans man" I enjoy contact sports and physicality as well as being a car fanatic. As it stands with that I am unwilling to surrender these two aspects of myself. It is almost like taking a part of my life away from me to do so. I garner a deep personal pleasure and satisfaction from both. I have a very eclectic taste in music and dig people with the same sort of eclectic taste. I love to learn and am constantly doing so and do not enjoy being stifled especially by egotism. I seek someone who challenges and is intelligent as well preferably more so than myself. I am a strong willed person and being such can be overly opinionated(not one of my favorite traits). As well I am also a very compassionate and caring person giving of myself to see others happy even at a personal cost. I need a person who intrigues me do not take me as your typical sub I am much more complex than that. Getting down before a person who I know I can manipulate to my own will bores me beyond belief. I also believe that even in a D/s relationship both partners must challenge each other in aspects outside of the typical parameters. The relationship should make both seek a deeper fulfillment mentally, emotionally and physically. Challenge me, Control me, Teach from me. and I will give all of myself.