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?And it will be more like a song and less like it's math if you pull on my hair and bite me like that??
-Bright Eyes
When a stranger wants you to call them Sir before getting to know them it's like trying to forcibly hire someone who may not want the job.
-Me
"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. If you can't do that, at least don't hurt them"
-Dalai Lama
Quick TLDR I am mostly looking for female partners, also incredibly burnt out on CIS gendered males after a very recent break up of a long term relationship that I got thrown through the grinder on. Oh, and if the message you send is rude or overtly sexual I probably won't answer since I am not looking for a one night stand...
And now on to the updated profile...
A Little Bit of Background Info
I was born and raised in NJ but currently live in Binghamton NY. While I enjoy my friend's up here, I've been getting increasingly homesick for Jersey and NYC. Part of the homesickness is probably due to the fact that there is no ska scene up here to speak of and other than the LGBTQ scene and the kink scene (also no kink venues up here) it's one of the few subcultures I feel at home in. I've been in the area for 10 years and never felt at home unless I am doing things with friends and keeping myself distracted.
The Kink Me
- I am a switch. The lower case "s" is intentional as I tend to lean heavily to the sub side.
- I have a definite masochistic streak, specifically with biting, bondage, rigging and impact play.
- The sadistic streak is small and is really mostly biting and other things done during sex and not so much scening.
- I enjoy the DD/lg dynamic but in a strictly platonic sense and the basic structure (chores, bedtime, etc).
- I wouldn't mind a set D/s dynamic with a special someone but I have such a hard time trusting people that it's tough to find someone I could rely on in that way.
- I have a small interest in topping but it's not something I'd probably seek out
- Hard limits include: verbal humiliation, "slut", A2M, scat, vomit, beings that cannot consent, religious zealots, spitting, hits to the face, incest play, rape play, bigotry, Tea Party Members, monogamy. I have a more extensive list that is linked at the bottom of the profile.
The Romantic Me
- I am poly. This is non-negotiable and I often lean more towards "open". If you cannott deal with this please do not try for anything past friends.
- I am pansexual, another reason for me being poly obviously lol
- I love relationships and romance but seem to need my freedom to keep from getting scared and running away. I am not the Barney type (HIMYM) who is only interested in conquests... I do prefer a sense of stability honestly. I need to feel like I matter to the people I am seeing or else I do tend to get insecure and worry that I am not good enough.
- Despite being poly I do get insecure and occasionally jealous, I do my best to be honest about it and own it since it's my issue. However I do need to know that I am important to someone I am dating and not replaceable; insecurities are a bitch, aren't they? lol
The Vanilla Me
- I am a total geek and pride myself on being adorkable... with social skills!!!
- Favorite music genres are Ska & 90s alt. I also enjoy harder/darker rock as long as it's not screaming. These aren't my only interests just the main ones. Ska is my blood tho lol
- I am educated. I have an Associates, a Bachelors, and part of a Masters. I tend to lean towards the nonprofit sector of human services as far as what I enjoy doing.
- I am shy and have some anxiety/depression issues due to a rather difficult past. I do my best to keep this to myself. If I say I am struggling please believe it. I do my utmost to handle it on my own but it does get to me at times.
- I am fiercely loyal to my friends, family and lovers. It would be a good idea to not badmouth someone I care about in my presence.
- I have zero tolerance for bigotry of any kind; I will get snarky for unwarranted prejudice.
What I am Looking For
- I am mostly looking for friends and maybe play partners, would be more prone towards a relationship with a woman than a male, I do NOT play with strangers. I need to trust someone before I will even consider letting them put me in a vulnerable position.
- I prefer men 2-5 years older than myself ; it's a preference and not set in stone, but it's a rare day when I will see a male more than 10 years my senior. Women... age is less of a concern to be honest.
- Also I cannot really bottom to those much younger than myself; my brain doesn't seem to be wired that way.
- Along the lines of the former bullet, I would really like a female partner even if it is vanilla. Admittedly I am way less experienced with women and only had a few short lived relationships but it is something that I miss quite a bit. It's just a different quality of relationship that with men, not better or worse, but unique. I haven't had much D/s experience with a girl, but would be willing to explore that as well, most likely as the bottom.
- Also I cannot really bottom to those much younger than myself; my brain doesn't seem to be wired that way.
- Compatible personalities, I like intelligence, a sense of humor, and someone fluent in sarcasm...
- House slave/roomie (with possible benefits) Now that I am not allowed to work or drive (hopefully just for a year or two (have my fingers crossed lol) and Necron is in school more often than not it would be nice to have someone with a license who could help out around the house and drive when needed.
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Also, I am under the same name on fetlife. |
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| Age: 18 |
| Yakima,
Washington |
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