I am enjoying talking to various people from around Texas. On many occasions I have been asked about my aproach at being a Dom / Master. I was once told many years ago by a friend who had been in the life style for over 50 years told me this...As much as the Master or Dom wants to control the sub / slave it is that person who really dictates how and what will be done and explored. Although they do it with out knowledge, a good Master will take them to those limits and beyond based on trust, love, and their desire for pleasure.