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I'm looking for both a Dominant male experienced in the realm of dominance and submission as well as a plain ol' boyfriend--and I'm looking for them to be the same person. So what I want is a "normal" bf/gf relationship (going to dinner/movies/concerts, traveling, hanging out, etc.) with an emphasis on BDSM-kink in private. I'd like to form a consistent relationship with someone who understands I am my own capable, confident person outside of "the bedroom," but within that context, I'll submit for the man I can trust fully. I want to find a guy I can actually grow with over time within the framework of this type of relationship, so I'm not interested in one-time encounters, NSA play, or a bdsm friends-with-benefits situation. I've come to the conclusion that, for me, true D/s does not happen during two- or three-hour play sessions with someone you never see again. Also, in terms of physical play when I do find the right partner, I generally am more interested in erotic and meaningful D/s than in heavy s/m, though I do have a relatively high pain threshold, so hard spankings and other activity within my limits will definitely be appreciated and I will thank you properly.
One of the main attractions to D/s for me is straddling the good girl / bad girl divide with the right guy. In my everyday life, I'm very much the good girl, and always have been. I shoulder a lot of responsibility and have accomplished a lot in terms of intellectual and career achievements. Finding the right guy who appreciates the gift of submission and being able to just give up all that control that I normally have to have to him . . . that's what I want. A particular thrill is, how in obeying orders to be naughty or slutty, I'm still essentially being "good." I love that dichotomy that D/s provides -- it's very sexy. And, of course, in return for being able to turn myself over to my trustworthy partner, I seek to please to the best of my abilities.
Equally important to all of this: I'm looking for a down-to-earth guy with a good sense of humor. If you take yourself way too seriously and spend your nights dressed in black PVC down in your torture chamber listening to death metal, I am not for you. Also, if you have no experience in Dominance but have just always wanted to slap a woman around and tell her what to do, please move on. If you just want to humilate, move on. If you just want to put a woman "in her place," move on. If you are cold and standoffish, move on. There are as many different ways to practice D/s and power exchange as there are people who practice it. I want to be with someone who's comfortable with that and who understands that it is about power *exchange*, not power tripping. I want to be with someone who understands that it doesn't have to always be super-serious either, that this type of relationship can be intense, but also fun.
I'm looking for someone who's very clean (d&d free) and clean-cut (good hygiene is a must), liberally minded, gainfully employed, educated/intelligent, possesses a playful sense of humor (in and outside the bedroom), is between the ages of 25ish and 40ish, and is completely single (not married, no kids, not in the middle of a divorce, etc.) I meet all of the above criteria as well. In addition, I'm tall, white, and thick/curvy but very active. I am intelligent, well-read, fairly witty, and have a very fulfilling career.
If you're interested, reply and let me know a little bit about yourself and what you're looking for. One liners and the like will be deleted immediately. I've taken the time to be detailed about myself and my intentions here; if you'd like to get to know me, please be willing to reciprocate. D/s is about give and take on the parts of both people.
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