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| I have been a dom for 10 years. I am looking for subs who are willing to be taught to my high standards. I have sub been trained at the moment, but am always seeking more.
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Your Profile
Before you do anything, think why am i here. Take your time. Remember this is the only place people will be able to get information about you.
Do
1. Put as much detail in it as possible. The most common question doms have for new subs are
What is your level of experiance?
Why did you decide to come to the site?
What you are looking for?
Am i looking for long term or play dates?
What kind of master are you looking for?
What age range?
Are you looking for online or real?
2. Be honest
Put in an exact body type
Put in your real age
Put in your real experiance
You will be found out so just be honest
3. Fill in the extra bits
List the activities you are interested. Skip the ones you do not know about.
4. Check spelling and grammer. This more for guys than girls.
5. Be Positive
6. Set aside plenty of time to do your profile right
Don'ts
1. Lie. I know i said be honest but it is so important i will say it again. If you have no experiance say it.
2. Spend ages describing your perfect partner. Try to have just a vague idea of the master you want. The more your describe him, the less likely you are to find him
Your First emails
What to expect
1. You will get lots of one line emails saying "kneel and come serve your master"
2. If you post a picture and are female, you will get emails from all over the world.
3. Married people emailing you for discreet encounters
What to do
1. Composite a stock email you can copy and paste, to tell people you are interested
2. If you are interested, reply and include questions you may have
3.Arrange a time and place to chat to them online. I usually use h or y for this. Create a seperate account if you are worried about them finding out personal details
Your First chat
1. Be Honest. I know i keep saying it.
2. If you have questions ask them
3. You are not a no limit slave. Everyone has limits, they can be reduced over time but everyone has them. I have had some of most amusing chats with so called no limit slaves
4. Do not run away. Admit to the other person you are nervous or are thinking of closing the chat.
5. Be chatty. Difficult i know but sometimes it feels like i am talking to a wall.
6. Ask questions |
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Beginner's guide to meeting a dom
I will start with a warning. From every sub i have talked to i have gotten a story of how they were taken advantage of. It is easy to fall for peoples stories and lots of people have had plenty of practise of it
Before you give yourself body and mind to Dom, take a read of this and hope it will be a help to you
Your First checklist
Am I looking for play or relationship?
I would recommend to most beginners to begin with play. If you are worried about been seen as a slut, then you should have a limit of no sex on the first couple of dates.
Are we meeting in a open public location?
You should always meet here first for a quick drink and discussion.
What is my safe word?
Make sure you have one and you should also have one to say you need a breather. Do not meet a Dom without one
What are my limits
Limits come in 2 forms, hard and soft.
Hard limits should be stuff you never want to be near.
Soft should be stuff you are worried about trying. I would always recommend trying everything once and then deciding if you like it.
What would i like to try
Keep it simple.
Work out with the Dom the first scene that you will do. Set limits on what he can and cannot do. After he has earned your trust in person, you can then let him push your limits. Cyber play should not earn trust.
Sadistic Doms
Doms are by nature sadistic and that is how to get their pleasure. You should not be surprised when he turns your tits into swollen brusied lumps. This has happened 33% of subs i chatted to. They meet with a dom and get treated like a veteran pain slut. Pain is fun but you need to build up tolerance, do not be afraid to stop or call a breather if things are going to far. Reminded him before hand that you are new and to please take it easy in you
Rape
Can a sub be raped? The answer is yes. Make sure you discuss sex before. It is rare but it does happen, especially if you spend the night in the Doms house.
Am i a slut
Taken from wiki
"Slut is a pejorative term meaning an individual who is sexually promiscuous. The term is generally applied to women and used as an insult or offensive term of disparagement, meaning "dirty or slovenly It may also be used as an expression of pride in oneself or envy at the sexual successes of others."
To me a slut is a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you
Decide if that person is you
How to spot Married Doms.
I have no problem with married doms as long as they are willing to admit to it and their subs are ok with it.
How to find out if your dom is married
A. Will not give out his mobile number or requires that you do not ring it except with permission.
B. Pale skin on the wedding finger. Claims to be seperated or in process of been divorced.
C. Will not give out home address.
D. Refuses to meet close to his home
Some people will refuse to give out their address as they house share and want to keep their kinky life private, same goes with the mobile. Just tell them you want a vanilla chat.
Be honest
Every sub should start by taken a look inside themselves and see what they really want and why they are here. be prepared to scared. BDSM is very scary and against everything you were brought up with.
Do not disappear into the night
If you wish to stop talking to dom, give them a reason at least.
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| Age: 42 |
| Louisville,
Kentucky |
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