Still on that roller coaster.... highs and lows... ups and downs.... hurry up and wait.

Real life has jumped up and bit me in the ass hard--not in a good way.  My partner's cancer has returned and treatment will be aggressive.  I am putting everything else on hold.  My time online will decline greatly for the next few months.  Please send your prayers, positive energy, good karma, whatever in our direction.

During the next few months, if you have a service heart and want to help me around the house with cleaning, groceries or yard work without expecting anything except an appreciative thank-you in return, please contact me.

If: we communicated in the recent past,
   but dropped out of touch, and
   you would like to continue our conversation, and
   are still interested in my sub/slave position, then
   message me again.

We had a nice munch at my place last night.  Turnout was small, so there was plenty of conversation and room to play.  We played with rope and laughed and teased a lot--plenty of fun--which is the whole idea IMHO.

 I have a goal, a dream, a plan where many components must fall into place to make it all work. Finding the right submissive or slave is an integral piece of the puzzle. Just because I am a multi-faceted person with a larger vision than beating or humiliating or pissing on a slave doesn't make me less of a Domme. I am not a sadist. I am a kind person. In my opinion, a relationship is not built on how much I beat you. It is built on trust, communication, and working towards a common life goal. I know what I want and I'm working towards that goal. If you truly want to help develop a kinky community, if you want to be a partner to a woman with a vision, then let's talk.   

I am willing and eager to speak with any sub/slave who is SINCERE in his desire to relocate and serve and who is in a financially secure situation to do so.  You must also be willing to visit me in Dothan within the first month that we talk.  I will NOT continue to chat endlessly while you waste my time or get cold feet.  Your desire must be real and you must prove it to me.  Yes, just as many of you may have been burned by online "dommes"  with no real intentions, so have I been burned by "subs" who promise all and deliver nothing.  Therefore, I am cautious and demand that we meet face-to-face with no expectations, but with hopeful intentions of connecting.

REMINDER: Dothan munch Sat. Feb. 8 at 7pm CT.  Flogging demo by Leather Lee of south Florida.  Raffle ticket sales for a Signature Whip by Axel.

My months-long search for a partner/sub/slave to help me achieve my dream of building a better BDSM community in Dothan Alabama has become very frustrating.  Is there not a sincere man out there willing to serve me, move to Dothan and help me purchase property in order to make a difference in the lifestyle community here? 

I need one who is sincere in BDSM belief, needs the guidance of a Domme, the vision of a Leader, and has the enthusiasm to make a difference.  Yes, Dothan seems to be a remote corner in Alabama, but there is opportunity here: cost of living is low, weather is WARM and SNOW-free, you will serve an awesome Mistress, we will partner to encourage a safe, sane BDSM lifestyle among the many here who need guidance and education, and life will be good.  You must be willing to be part of a poly household. Sex with other males will not be a requirement.  Contact me if you sincerely desire this.

Hello Dothan Wiregrass Area Kinksters.

      Let's start off 2014 with some EXCITEMENT!! On Saturday, February 8 at 7 pm WAK folks will see a demo by LeatherLEE of Ft. Lauderdale, FL. Leather LEE makes unique swivel floggers and he will give a demonstration of their ease of use. LeatherLEE will have floggers for sale that evening. Come prepared to practice and purchase.

   Lee says his "expertise is safe sane sober consensual flogging for the 22nd century obtaining maximum results with minimal effort."

Hello Dothan Wiregrass Area Kinksters.

Let's start off 2014 with some EXCITEMENT!! On Saturday, February 8 at 7 pm WAK folks will see a demo by LeatherLEE of Ft. Lauderdale, FL. Leather LEE makes unique swivel floggers and he will give a demonstration of their ease of use. LeatherLEE will have floggers for sale that evening. Come prepared to practice and purchase.

Lee says his "expertise is safe sane sober consensual flogging for the 22nd century obtaining maximum results with minimal effort."

LeatherLEE: https://.com/users/90386


LeatherLEE floggers: http://www.leatherlee.com/

Soft drinks and snacks will be provided. A minimum donation of $5 per person is requested to cover costs.

RSVP Required at the event page: https://.com/events/227511


There will be a limit of 20 attendees due to limited space. So RSVP is a must!!

Leaving for KY to spend time with family.  My older sister died last night.  I know she is without pain now.  Remember to tell your family and friends know how much you care for them at this holiday season.

Anthony C, Please contact me.

If I don't answer your msg immediately, please be patient. I'm not ignoring you, I just have other--much more pressing things to deal with at this time.

OUT OF TOUCH

I'm traveling to visit a close family member who is ill. Remember to tell your loved ones that you love them. Cherish each day. I may not answer messages quickly, especially just to chat.

I am open to admitting that I've learned much from this search for the perfect companion/ sub/slave and the application process.  I'm learning more about the slave mind and how it differs from the mind of a submissive man. Now I understand that many slaves seek a fairly strict regimen of rules, service and discipline and his primary interest is in pleasing his Owner. As a Dominant woman who knows what she wants, is not a sadist and loves sensual play, I am starting to lean towards finding a submissive man instead of a slave. My search is for a partner, not a servant.

TIT FOR TAT? 

Do you want a spanking?  To have your cock and balls tied and used by me? Do you want your skin to shiver at the anticipation of my touch?   YES? GOOD!  Then come to me. 

I don't want money in exchange, like many on here.  I do expect something in return.  Come prepared to do a task for me--maybe sweep my patio, pull some weeds, clean a bathroom, mop a floor, whatever we negotiate.

I will NOT send you money, plane tickets or give you personal banking information, so don't ask.

I now have a small number of very serious applicants for my LTR position. I will be meeting and interviewing the serious candidates over the next two months.  If you are interested in my position, send me a message AFTER you read my profile and my journal.

As I expected, many respondents don't follow through with completing my application and making an attempt to visit me.  Those respondents are eliminated immediately.

Many male dominants and female submissives have viewed my profile.  If you are interested in relocating to Dothan and assisting in my business proposition, let me know. Perhaps we can work something out.  The property I'm interested in has a separate apartment that will be available for a kinky renter.

I know I've gotten a real compliment when the drag queen standing outside 801 in Key West tells me "Nice rack." 

SLAVE APPLICATION:

  The response to my call for a 24/7 slave has been more fruitful than I expected.  Wonderfully, I have more interest than I can handle through online chats and phone calls.  So, I wrote an application form.  If you are interested in the opportunity to serve me, then mail me here with your email address and I will send you the form to complete.  When you receive the application, take your time completing it.  I want you to think about it and to tell me why you really want to come live with me in service.

I'm elaborating on my conversation about opening a house/dungeon space in Dothan and my search for a slave/sub:

I'm looking for a smart submissive man who will help me set up a house and dungeon in Dothan. This area needs a safe venue for kinky folk to play and learn.  My slave would manage the dungeon, perhaps as a private club, scheduling, cleaning, monitoring, perhaps even making dungeon equipment. He would also take care of the yard and his living space. I want someone who picks up after themselves, who will mop a floor or dust when I ask them to.  (I always ask nicely, but I expect compliance.)  I expect my slave to help me in all ways that I would need, whether it be sexual, monetary, or in daily tasks. 

When I find the man with the right mind-set, chemistry, and abilities, he will be offered a LTR 24/7 with me.  If this interests you, message me and provide your Yahoo IM name.

 NOTE:  I want one who can help me buy the house.  We will set up a legal partnership or LLC or whatever is needed to make it work and keep everyone safe and secure knowing that they are part-owner in this venture.  If you cannot qualify for a mortgage or loan of at least $45,000, then do NOT bother applying.  I will send you complete information on the property that I am considering. 

Dothan October munch NOTES/CHANGES

     There three nearby events happening this month. Please support our nearby local groups and attend one of these:
 Halloween party in Troy at Southern Pillar Campground  Sat. Oct. 19
 Whispering Oaks Campground Halloween Event Oct. 25-27  
 Chateau of NW FL 4th annual Halloween Party Sat. Oct 26 

     IF you are like me, have to work every Saturday and can't get out of town, then, on Sat. Oct. 26 at 7 PM come to KT's at 168 S Foster St, Dothan, AL 36301, (between Main and Crawford). If the weather is nice, we may be on the back patio. This location has worked very well for us so far. Be sure to order a drink or food and tip your waiter!

Hello Wiregrass Kinksters,  I have found the perfect house in Dothan for having a dungeon and hosting munches and parties. The price is *almost* within my price range.  The property has a separate brick building that will become a very nice large studio apartment.  It has another large brick building for a dungeon.  With the large fenced yard and non-residential buildings on all sides, it is perfect.  I'm looking for a sub who wants to  help me purchase this house.  You could live in the separate apartment or in the main house, depending on what we work out.

Contact me here and we will begin conversation.

Ms. Wanda

Hello Kinksters,  I'm enjoying my trip to Kentucky, visiting family and friends.  Tonight is a fetish party at the local club, so very much looking forward to that.  Perhaps I'll find a nice butt (or two) to spank and maybe an experienced rigger to put me in rope.  *smile*

    In the meantime, I hope online CM folks seek out local social and education groups in your area.  One can only learn a limited amount with online only.  Real time people and social interaction is extremely important in this lifestyle.  That said, watch my journal for posts on upcoming Dothan WAK (Wiregrass Area Kinksters) gatherings.  There is also a tremendous opportunity for real-time education and play in Troy, AL.  Stay tuned for more info.

The next Dothan Wiregrass Area Kinksters meeting is this Saturday, August 31 at KT's Tavern on Foster St. at 7 pm.

I'm hosting a rope play time on Sunday, August 18 from 2 to 5 pm.  Bring rope and have fun!

The Dothan Wiregrass Area Kinksters potluck/play party gathering is this Saturday, July 27 at 6 pm CT at a private residence.  Please email me if you would like to attend and I will send details.

Hello again,  My foot is healing, but I am still on crutches.  If you are service-oriented and have any time to help around my house--on Sundays or Mondays I am home, but other days are open too.  Let me know what day is good for you and what you can assist me with.  I need household chores (sweeping floors, dusting, mopping kitchen) done and also help organizing my garage/dungeon. If you have plumbing skills I have a leaky faucet in my dungeon area and need help fixing that problem.

Your service will be much appreciated and duly noted,

Ms. Wanda

Hello,  I could very much use your help if you are available today (Sun June 16) or tomorrow.  I fractured a bone in my foot and am hobbling around.  My partner has cancer... he can't do a lot around the house.  I need someone to make the bed, dust, sweep, and start laundry for me.  Can you do that?  I live near Dothan High School.  I also host the local Dothan munch - WAK, Wiregrass Area Kinksters.

Ms. Wanda

Next WAK (Wiregrass Area Kinksters) munch gathering is June 22 at 7 pm.  Email me for location.

Hi Kinksters,
   If you've met me, you know I'm a non-stop, get things done gal.  Well I fractured a bone in my left foot and am now forced to slow down.  Also, you may remember that my partner has cancer and is still doing chemo.  He has no energy to do anything around the house.  

     I really need some helpful, service-oriented person(s) to do several things for me at my house:  a couple of loads of laundry, sweep the hardwood floors, and run the vacuum/steamer over the kitchen floor.  I also need one errand run to Wal-Mart.    I don't want to put any one person on the spot by asking individually, your service should be freely given and I will be most appreciative.

   I plan to go to work the rest of this week--I only have to sit and answer phones there. Therefore, if you volunteer to help me, after 5 pm would be best.
   Email me here or at violetwandaky at gmail.com  if you can help.
Thank you so much,
Wanda

HOLD THE DATE: The June Dothan WAK munch will be Saturday, June 22 at 7 pm. CT.  Location to be announced.

Dothan kinksters will meet at KT's Tavern, downtown Dothan at 7:00 pm on Saturday, May 25. If it's nice we'll sit outside on the back patio. KT's has homemade pizza and sandwiches or just have a drink. Come and chat with friends and make new ones.
KT's is at 168 S Foster St, Dothan, AL 36301, between Main and Crawford.

I'm looking for a nice simple spanking bench.  Does anyone local have one to sell or trade?

There will be a Dothan WAK: Wiregrass Area Kinksters munch on May 25.  Email me for details.

I am in need of two or three strong males to help me put together shelves in my garage and get it organized so I can set up my dungeon.  We will do this on Sunday March 31 at 1 - 4 pm CDT. If you can help, please message me.  I will happily provide a good spanking or treatment of your choice in exchange for help.

The next Dothan munch will be Saturday, March 23 at 6 pm CDT.  Message me for details.

I'm very interested in getting a Dothan munch group started.  Please go to (this site's competitor)  and join group https://.com/groups/45856/  if you are interested in a Dothan munch.  (NOTE: add the F_Name_L of this site's competitor into the URL)