6/23/2015 2:39:13 PM: D/s Relationship Preference SurveyIn an attempt to better understand the D/s LTR experience of members of this site, i have developed this survey which i would greatly appreciate if Y/you would complete. 1) How many of you have one or more D/s long-term relationships (of 2 years or more, in the same dynamic)? 2a) How many who have not had such a long term D/s relationships, want to be involved in one? 2b) How many don't want such a relationship? 3) Would your primary preference for a D/s LTR partner be: a) Femaleb) Malec) CD/TVd) TG/TSe) Other _________________________________________________________ 4) Which role in such a relationship would be your preference: A) Dominantb) Submissivec) Switchd) Traineee) Other _________________________________________________________ 5) What would you describe as your primary orientation toward the lifestyle? a) Service Orientedb) Sexually Motivatedc) Trainingd) Other 6) Gender:a) Femaleb) Malec) Gender Variant7) Married?a) Yes b) No8) Age:a) 18-25b) 25-40c) 41-60d) 61+ All results will be compiled after two weeks and published here here on CollarSpace.  All participants' privacy respected and preserved.  This survey will not be used for commercial purposes and not published elsewhere than here. Regards, kyla joy

4/24/2015 11:10:43 AM: As an extension of my prior journal entry, there is a corollary issue that i would like to address.  There are Dommes on CM with requirements and standards which are not merely selective but are so restrictive that they eliminate all but 1% (or less) of submissives from consideration, including the truly worthy  and sincere not just the wankers and wannabees.  Last time i checked, while You may live Your life as a Dominant, You are not truly a Domme/Mistress/Domina without a submissive.  Rather than recognize this fact, many Female Dominants post journal entries bemoaning submissives for failing to meet their impossible standards, accusing them of being worthless as a group and claiming Their intention to never settle for less than They want, barring them from even consideration.Now, i have no problem with having standards and requirements, even one that are difficult to achieve.  But to accuse submissives for the failure of Their own standards and requirements is a fallacy that more and more Dommes accept as gospel.  Its just such a waste of possible and potential rewarding connections.kyla joy 

4/13/2015 4:35:41 PM: i take note of the many disaffections with submissive expressed here, many of which are quite deserved.  But i would ask Female Dominants who are looking for 'true' submissives, who understand and are committed to Her and Her Priorities, are Your efforts to find that submissive intentioned to find that type of submissive.  It seems to me that there is a great deal of disparagement leveled at submissives, but it is often accompanied by a 'passive' Dominant who expects subs/slaves to do ALL the work to prove themselves.  Now i have no problem with bearing that burden in the main, but without a Dominant who wishes to participate in those overture discussions, the subs efforts will come to naught.  In many cases, Dominants have become so jaded, as it appears to me, that they find any and all submissives/slaves as unworthy, far too quickly dispatching them to the dump heap of the discarded.And i would ask Female Dominants to consider what the experience is like for us.  we begin to engage a Dominant and as quickly as She agrees to discussion She inexplicably disappears, either permanently or intermittently.  Often times, there requirements are so formidably or so changing that there is no way to negotiate an arrangement from which They might benefit greatly.  we try and try to remain open open and accessible and not because disabused of trying that it becomes a war of attrition.  Many just give up and too frustrated to actively continue.  If that process eliminated just the do me subs, the quid pro quo subs, then this process would serve a purpose.  But it is much less discriminatory than that and eliminates those who submissive heart seeks only to please.In the end, it strikes my that both communities, Dominants and submissives, need to recognize the interest in each other and remain open to the conversation, which getting so jaded or uncompromising to miss out of effective relationship.  Disparagement, even if deserved, is only a self-serving expression of conceit really and is only a self-fuilfilling prophecy.

8/10/2014 2:30:37 AM: i recently discovered a very affordable placement service pairing Female Dominants with sissies, sissy maids and wives This service has a good track record. I am happy to share the details once i pre-quality serious candidates. I have NO financial interest other other stake in this service, just helping out. This service is US based service has national and international clients. It is operated operated by a friend of mine who is a Domme. The service maintains a book of Dominants who've disclosed their requirements and desirables for a permanent LTR with a sissy, sissy maid or slave wife against which your resume can be evaluated for long-term compatibility. The cost of this service is $100 half of which will be rebated to you upon successful placement for after a probationary period as defined by the Dominant with whom you've placed. This is national in scope and there is no guarantee that the Dominant you will be placed with will be local to you. So to be considered a serious candidate you must be willing to relocate although the financial burden of the move can be shared with your Dominant as She determines. also be ready to provide a substantial amount of detail about yourself, your interests, desires and fetishes, and your service experience Further questions, please PM me. love to all, kyla

3/24/2014 8:13:21 AM: A summary of my experience: First of all, I am very pleased to be able to make this introduction. My name is Kyla Joy Diamond and i am a TG sissy slave. For the past seven years I have been in service as a housekeeper/maid/cook/laundress/personal and business assistant/party planner/spring and summer time gardener to a Female Dominant in New Jersey. That relationship ended in September an i have now begun to look assiduously for a new position, filled with many of the same responsibilities as my former position The reasons for the demise of O/our relationship I will address under separate cover should this be something You are interested in. I want to make sure that all Your questions are answered honestly and promptly to the best of my ability. I will be be detailed when, explaining my duties,skills and devotions. I have taken care of a 5 bedroom house for 7 years, performing all the routine chores necessary to the running of the household, for a family of 5-7 people over that time. In a typical day, I would do several sets of dishes, washing and putting them away, at least 2 loads of laundry, washed, dried and put away in closets or dressers depending on the article of clothing washed. I am very practiced at sorting by color, and take care never to machine dry clothing whose fabrics do not tolerate the heat well. I have cleaned the kitchen counters multiple times a day and made sure the sink was gleaming white at the end of each day. I cleaning the kitchen and laundry room appliances on a schedule of once to twice a week, depending on the need to do so, including cleaning the stove top, cleaning the inside and outside of the oven and microwave. I was responsible for cleaning the refrigerator, inside and out, once a week and the kitchen cabinets on the same schedule. The garbage was also my responsibility, including the recycling, and included putting out the garbage receptacles for pick up. Every day I would sweep the wood flooring (most of the floors in the house are wood, no carpeting, upstairs and down and in the sunroom, Her workspace. i waxed the floors once a month. I vacuumed the carpets every other day on average. I was responsible for changing bed linens and making sure the linen closet was in order, approximately once every week. I was also responsible for changing the towels out in three bathrooms once every week, washing the old ones and replacing them with fresh towels. The bathrooms I cleaned once every three or four days - sinks, counters, mirrors, toilet bowls and tanks stand, tubs and cabinets - and made sure that the toilet paper was replenished in each bathroom on the same schedule. I placed a fresh roll of paper towels in each bathroom as needed. I dusted all the living room furniture a weekly schedule, bedroom furniture once a month. Door frames, light switches, door knobs, railings were cleaned once a week. Patio doors - once a week. I prepared/cooked and served most every meal in the house for seven years as well, breakfast, lunch and dinner and evening snacks of course, for the entire family or whoever happened to be there at the time. i can prepare/cook any recipe and know over a hundred by heart, everything from chicken to beef to pork, pancakes, eggs, sandwiches, Chinese, Italian, Spanish, American comfort food etc. i make nutritious meals, salads and snacks and always seek to nutritionally balance the meals and exercise portion control when needed. I also bake – cookies, fresh breads, cakes, and pizza from scratch. Favorites include mashed potatoes make from scratch of course (always a favorite in this house), BBQ pork, seafood and chicken soups, fresh homemade bread and rolls, pork fried rice, among other things. I also am partial to more formal table settings and fancy napkin folds. I find the presentation of the food is almost as important as the food itself. I managed the kitchen as well, starting with meals plans and the grocery list, using coupons as well, always managing to less cost. Last year, I saved 40% on groceries off retail on average for the year. I also stretched food by making smaller portions and preparing several different meals using the same basic ingredient(s). Very little goes to waste in my kitchen. My Domme was also very keen on food safety and I have adopted/internalized many of Her rules regarding the thawing, preparation, cooking and storage of food. I have also served as Her personal and business assistant, organizing files, taking notes, preparing correspondence on the clerical side to selecting outfits/shoes for Her to wear everyday top special occasions, bathing and drying Her, reading to Her on the more personal side. I performed as Her assistant in the marketing, planning, strategizing and execution of her business, a male-to female transformation salon run out of Her house. I prepared annual business models, attended to social media, helped organize events and parties, order party supplies cost effectively, cleaned Her studio, makeup brushes and mirrors, windows, emptying garbages between client sessions and acted as photographer many times during client photo shoots. In addition I generally welcome Her clients, offering them something to drink or light food as we may have had on hand. I also acted as instructor for sissy maid training sessions and in selected BDSM related sessions. Since 2008, W/we have had regular parties at the house for CDs/TVs/TGs/TS , admirers and Female Dominants. I would typically be responsible for helping to decide on party themes, I gardened sending out party announcements, organizing the attendance list, setting up the furniture and food and decorative displays decorations according to Her wishes, and for most of that time preparing the food for each party, entrees, sides and desserts included. I also acted as hostess and would be in charge of making sure that foods circulated and that everyone had a chance to try everything. Over my tenure here, W/we have established a respectable garden, filled with annual and perennial flowers which bloom in every season, both in Her front and back yards. W/we have grown strawberries since the beginning, but have added raspberries, blackberries, blueberries and figs to the cultivation. W/we have also grown pumpkins, summer squash, asparagus, zucchini, potatoes, peppers in a relatively small plot. W/we have used cutting extensively to increase the number and array of hostas and other plants. Weeding, mulching, replanting , bordering planting new bulbs and seeds has made all this possible. I also installed a water garden with an upper and lower pond some years back, adding an important feature to the garden. When O/our fence along the north side of the property was heavily damaged in Superstorm Sandy, I laid new cement, re-erected the poles and put the fence back together. I am also handy with light household repairs. In short, i am no stranger to hard in support of my Dominant. I have a passion for service and submission and seek in everything I do to achieve that standard service that You may set. I am confident that I can learn new things, new ways and protocols of servitude and submission expressive of Your way of Dominance. I understand that I am but an extension of You, a calling card of sorts of who You are and what You represent in the lifestyle and the community at large. I do hope that You think this introduction worthy of You, Goddess. If so, I look forward to discussing this with You further at a convenient opportunity. Respectfully and humbly, Kyla Joy Diamond P.S. i can send along my resume and a writing sample should You wish it for future reference.